Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

Flip

1 2 3

Original poster

Had scan and no bean.

57 replies

Mung · 29/01/2009 20:10

I am sorry to start a new thread here. There is probably an answer somewhere but I have searched a bit and had little luck.

I had my 12 week scan today and there was only a sac.

They were wonderful at the hospital and I felt they answered all my questions, but I have now come away a little scared and feel I am totally in the dark.

I opted to miscarry naturally, although I know I can change my mind and call if I have any concerns. Now I am wondering when this might happen as the sac only measured 7 weeks. I figured at the time that it ought to happen soon given that its 5 weeks since I miscarried.

I suppose I am fearing the unknown and although I had prepared myself mentally for there not being a bean there (I have had no pregnancy symptoms) I hadn't prepared myself for this bit.

I have 2 children to keep me busy and I am supposed to be going to Spain for work in a week and a half, do you think it will be possible if I go well prepared, or s it too risky?

OP posts:

EldonAve · 30/01/2009 18:26

teachertalk - my GP said that your body can absorb it, didn't happen to me though

lucyfer2000 · 30/01/2009 20:24

Hi Mung,

I've just seen this as well, i'm so sorry - I can't imagine how it feels after going all that time thinking everything was ok.

You know that we will all be here for you if you need anything and that of course includes me.

Hope your mum comes to her senses soon and that you cope with this ok.

I hope you don't mind me sending you a message on here. I hope it helps you to know that at least we will know why you may seem down for some time. Take care, xxxxxxxx

Original poster

Mung · 31/01/2009 08:24

Morning. I am feeling much better today. I am starting to think that the surgical option may be better as I feel I cannot organise anything. If I do go out I feel like a baby with my change of clothes, towel to sit on in the car and the fear of going to the loo. I went to work yesterday afternoon and felt so much better, so I think I need to be able to get along with things and move on. I may call the hospital today and see if they cna organise anything, although being Saturday, I dont hold out much hope!

To all you Colchester ladies, thanks for the support. It is great to know that I have people around to help out with the DCs if necessary. I worry for them a bit, as if it is sudden and as horrific as some people say, they will be a bit shocked. Another reason it chose a different route.

teachertalk I haven't heard that in anything I have read. You are doing so well waiting this long. I imagine the waiting is so frustrating and worrying. I was scared to get out of bed this morning in case my insides fell out in one go...a bit silly, but its that fear of the unknown. Has the scan not shown anything or have you not been checked over yet? I am thinking of you.

OP posts:

anniecam38 · 31/01/2009 09:17

Morning Mung, glad you are feeling better. I think your wise going for the surgical option, i was going for that with this mc, but Mother Nature intervened. I bled much less after surgical intervention than with natural mc, and as you say its the not knowing when you will start bleeding. Glad you have got plenty of support.

Teachertalk Hope you OK? I had anembryonic with my first mmc, i wasnt told by hospital that the body can absorb the sac, i was given the 3 options but told if i went for the natural route it could take 6 weeks or more, i opted for surgical. Take care.

LeninGrad · 31/01/2009 09:53

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster

Mung · 01/02/2009 19:01

I am now bleeding a little and I am passing some larger bits. I am not sure if they'll let me go down the surgical route still or not. I am not in any pain and the blood loss isn't very substantial, so I am not sure where I stand with it all. I hate this waiting and wondering whats coming next...

OP posts:

JentlyDoesIt · 01/02/2009 20:57

Oh Mung lovey, just logged on for the first time in a few days. I am so sorry to hear this news...

You must be very shocked and I think the surgical route really is the best idea. They might still do it if you ring them tomorrow as you are only having a little loss at the moment - worth a try?

I have had a couple of mc's so you have my love and thoughts... do let me know if you want any help with the DC's or anything else.

teachertalk · 01/02/2009 22:37

Mung - I have another scan tomorrow - not sure what for tho. Still no bleeding - had a couple of days with mild period pains but nothing else. Am now at the end of my patience and spent most of Saturday crying ( think my pg hormones might be dropping there!). Am going to ask for a pessary tomorrow and am taking a bag of snacks and a good book as hoping they will put me straight on the ward - might even stage a sit in. I wish I could go back to work but am a full time teacher and not really ideal job for waiting for pain and bleeding. I can't nip to the loo at a seconds notice so can't work basically. Desperate to get back to normal now. Ds said he had a bad tummy going to bed so could he stay off school like me tomorrow - can't blame him for trying as that is why he thinks I am off. Know what you mean about first thing in the morning - even dreamt I woke up covered in blood the other night. If I could have a dand c I would but they won't let me - I think you are making the right decision you can start to recover emotionally then.

Original poster

Mung · 02/02/2009 08:26

Teachertalk that sounds so awful for you. I had a day like that yesterday, although I felt lots of anger, like a teenager again. I hope you feel a bit better today.

I used to be a full time teacher, so I know what things are like. Its not the kind of audience you want that to happen in front of anyway.

Poor DS...its hard for them to understand.

Why wont the give you a DandC? It seems crazy to make you wait like this. Perhaps the scan will show what has been going on and you'll get chance to ask if things can be absorbed.

I'll be thinking of you today...keep me posted on how things go with your 'sit in'.

OP posts:

anniecam38 · 02/02/2009 10:31

Just to let you know i am thinking of you both Mung and teachertalk. Its an awful place to be where you are at the moment in limbo,not being able to move on. I hope things start happening for you soon. XX

Original poster

Mung · 02/02/2009 14:41

Booked ERPC for tomorrow. I feel more positive about it all now, as I know a little more what to expect.

OP posts:

purpleflower · 02/02/2009 18:18

I am so sorry Mung, I've only just read this.

I had this before DS and DD. I went in for my 12 week scan and the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. First I opted for medical management and was told they would give me a tablet and I would have to stay in until it was over. In the end I changed my mind and had the ERPC. It meant I could start moving on and looking to the future (as much as I didn't want to). I really think it was better for me.

If there is anything at all that you need or would like please let me know.

extremelychocolateymilkroll · 02/02/2009 18:32

Sorry to hear this.

I had a missed miscarriage in Dec 05. Because I had fibroids I couldn't have a DNC. Funnily enough I started bleeding the day after the scan. I had the scan on 20 December, continued to bleed over Christmas and then went back to the hospital on 27 December when I was given tablet for a medical miscarriage. I then lost my little bean the next day. During this time I had been reading a book by Prof Lesley Regan Miscarriage What Every Woman Needs to Know. Because I had read it in the book, when I passed my bean we collected it and sent it to The Doctor's Lab who analaysed and let me know that there had been a chromosomal abnormality but nothing to indicate I would be any more likely to have another miscarriage. When the bean did pass away it was like a very bad period pain.

extremelychocolateymilkroll · 02/02/2009 18:34

PiltonPopFestival · 02/02/2009 18:37

This happened to me about 2.5 years ago. I miscarried naturally at around 13 weeks. I too had a blighted ovum/ emoty sac. It is heartbreaking and I really feel for you. I would cancel your trip to Spain, you really don't want to be away from home. There was a lot of bleeding involved. I am so sorry. Please take care.

teachertalk · 02/02/2009 21:55

Had a terrible morning. Arrived at 9am had a scan - no change but clot/cyst on my ovary has grown 2cm. The sonograpoher said that everyone has a clot from the burst follicle until the 12th week when it disappears anyway. I could hear her arguing about this with the nurse while I was waiting for feedback. They then thought this might be the ectopic so had to wait for second and third opinion from registrar and her consultant before they would ok managed mc route. I cried in the end and this seemed to push things on rather quickly. Left the EPU at 11.30pm and went straight to ward to get oral tablet. I have to go back on Wednesday at 8am and they will give me pessaries every 2 hours until I have mc'd everything. Am really scared about this and can't wait to get it over with. Ironically started bleeding naturally whilst sat in EPU but not enough really to not have the pessaries.

Mung - good luck tomorrow with the ERPC - I hope you aren't left waiting too long.

Angiewoo · 03/02/2009 08:58

Thinking of you today Mung, I hope you are ok xxx

Sawyer64 · 03/02/2009 12:39

Thinking of you too Mung.

JentlyDoesIt · 03/02/2009 17:59

Just caught up. Thinking of you Mun. xxg

Original poster

Mung · 03/02/2009 20:57

All done. Long wait...very long wait, but after arriving at 8am having fasted from 10pm I eventually got some toast at 4pm...phew!

They couldn't fit me into the morning clinic in the end, so I had to go to the main theatres and have it done up there in the afternoon.

I feel a lot better already and I am ready for bed!

Teachertalk you poor thing. I really hope this all happens quickly for you. The arguing between the staff must make things worse, as it makes you lack confidence in them. Please let me know how you are. I am thinking of you.

OP posts:

lucyfer2000 · 03/02/2009 21:36

I'm glad you are feeling a bit better mung. Take care honey and remember i am around on Thursday and Friday if you need any help with sprogs or a cup of tea...
xxx

purpleflower · 03/02/2009 22:45

My thoughts are with you Mung xxx

Saz126 · 04/02/2009 09:21

Thinking of you too Mung. Hope you are feeling OK today. x

Original poster

Mung · 04/02/2009 13:56

I feel so much better thanks. A little sore, but mentally so much better. I am so glad I had the ERPC in the end, I couldn't have carried on waiting.

Teachertalk I am thinking of you today. I hope you are OK.

OP posts:

teachertalk · 04/02/2009 17:05

All over for me too now. They put me in a side room which was great. Was awake most of night having contractions type pain anyway so one pessary did the job. Was all over bt 11.30am thank God. Sac was NOT 1cm as the scan showed but at least 5cm. I too feel so much better and can now move on. Feeling drained but intend to put my feet up for the rest of theweek whilst ds at school.

Flip

1 2 3