Just suffered my 3rd miscarriage this year, terrified of never having a baby to call my own?

[Noleeen]

Hi, i am new to this and have no idea what i am doing so here goes. I have just siffered my third miscarrige this year. I went off birth control pill at beginning of year, fell pregnant straight away but lost it at 5wks, natural m/c - blighted ovumn. I actually fell pregnant again straight away after this with no period in between, had an early scan at 6wks 5days, saw fetal pol and heartbeat, was so excited from here on in. I went for my next scan at 12wks only to be told it measured 8wks and no longer a h/b, i was completely devastated, i had been tracking the growth of the baby every week and what it would look like only to find out it had died 4wks before, D&C was required this time. I had a period between this and fell pregnant again only to start bleeding again 5days later, natural m/c once again in the form of a chemical pregnancy. I have had blood tests done and so far only got 3 results back, bloodclotting, rubella and one for antibodies all of which have been normal, i am still waiting on another 4. I am 26 years of age and am so scared at the prospect that i will never have a baby of my own. I still think about all 3 m/c BUT it is the 2nd one that has affected me the most and although this happened in July i still get really upset about it. I have no problems getting pregnant, its just holding on to it thats the problem

jonesy68 Thanks for your comment and i am so sorry for your losses. I got to the same stage as you with my 2nd m/c and like you i was convinced everything was ok which i think makes it all the more harder to take in. My dr really just feels it is just bad luck and i guess at this stage i am just living in hope, i will start to try again around March'09 and IF it should happen again i will most definately request tests be done.

Having a really off day today, everyone keeps going oin about how its 7wks exactly until Xmas day and it just makes me think on my 1st pregnancy. The due date i was given was Xmas day. Is it silly to think that at this stage i could have been 33wks and so close to having my dc

No it isn't silly.

I've had 3 miscarriages over the last 6 years (after the first pregnancy we waited until my husband had finished uni).
You don't forget these things, and I'm not sure I can say it gets easier.
I haven't got any children, and I haven't been able to conceive since my last miscarriage.

Something will always remind you of loosing your babies, and it is difficult to deal with, especially so close to the event.

I find it most difficult when people who haven't been trying long, get pregnant straight away and have no complications. It just seems very unfair

I had my niece and nephew to stay last week. I loved having them, and realised just how good both my husband and I would be. This made me feel really sad.

I think it is normal to have feelings of depression. Just remember you are grieving, and you are entitled to have off days, even if other people don't understand that, we will.

Lucia2 Thanks for your words of comfort. I think sometimes when you bottle things up for so long and tell everyone your ok then there is always going to be a blowout. I have a friend who has just started talking about TTC and i can't help but feel jealous in the sense that it will prob happen straight away and everything will be fine (not that i would wish any ill-will on anyone)

noleen, my friend suffered many mcs in a short space of time. in the end she had ivf and now has beautiful twins

just wanted to post to tell you to keep your hopes up.

Noleeen, I am really sorry to hear about your losses. It sounds really traumatic and sad.

I have a friend in similar circumstances and the advice that she was given by her gp was to wait a few cycles before trying to conceive again - she was advised to wait around 4 cycles (to let your hormones and your cycle some time to "normalise" after what she had been through, before trying again) I thought that apart from being medically sound, the advice was probably quite good in the sense that it gave her time to grieve for the lost pregnancies.

I have not been through what you have been through, so I hope that this advice does not seem out of place. Look after yourself, you need time to heal emotionally as well as physically...

Hey, god i feel like all i seem to do is moan all the time, as if im the ONLY person in the world with problems. Its coming up to 6wks now till my first due day which BTW would have been Christmas day and i am absolutely dreading it, i never imagined i would feel as low as what i do, i just cry constantly no matter where i am, work, in the car, at home, in a shop anywhere at all when i think on Christmas day i just think on how close i could have been to having my first child. Im sorry but this is really the only place i can have a good rant and get it off my chest