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Missed miscarriage at 9 weeks - what to expect? (opting to wait and mc naturally)

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TheBlonde · 22/08/2008 11:18

Had some bleeding so got scanned at EPU today only to find it's a missed miscarriage

I've opted to wait and mc naturally but wondering now how awful it will be and how long it will take
I'm booked in for a follow up scan in 2 weeks to check it's all gone

Can anyone tell me what to expect?

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rachw1982 · 28/08/2008 11:54

hi there i am new to this site and am very confused. i am currently 4 w 6days pregnant afet finding out last friday i was pregnant from the fertility drug chlomid and 4 years of trying. i started bleeding heavily on tuesday (4 w 4 days) when iwiped there was deep dark red blood fresh on the toilet paper but hardly anything on my sanitry towel or in the toilet bowl. there was a few blood clots but nothing more than what i normally have on my heavy periods. i did have slight period cramps but that was it. i am still very nauseaous and very tired and keep peeing every 5 minutes and a pregnancy test i done last night proved positive very strongly, more than any of the other 4 tests i have done. if i was or have miscarride shouldnt the test be fainter by now concidering i have had 2 days of hormones bleeding out my body.? i had my hcg done yesterday and go again on fri and will not know anything till monday. my head is telling me im no longer pregnant but heart is saying i am!!!! i am also on blood thinning injections each day which arepainfull and hope that my blood loss seems more compared to what it is due to this fact. please help x x x

Wheelybug · 28/08/2008 12:00

Hi TheBlonde - am so sorry to read this. Only just seen it.

Take care of yourself - dose yourself up with nurofen, hot water bottle, do as little as possible (if possible with 2 children). Has DH been able to take any time off ?

When I m/c it was earlier (around 7 weeks) but it was no more than a bad period bar a short period when I had a few contraction type pains. I think the emotional aspect was harder than the physical. I was v. worried about knowing when I passed the sac etc but in the end I didn't actually know when that was.

Give us a shout if you need anything, even if just a chat - I'm not a million miles away.

Wheelybug · 28/08/2008 12:01

rachw1982 - I think that blood thinning injections can cause unexplained bleeding - try and find a poster called JustJules. She bled quite a lot I think for a while early on but went on to have a healthy baby. You might be able to give her a shout on the pregnancy after miscarriage thread in pregnancy.

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TheBlonde · 28/08/2008 17:30

rachw1982 - sorry to hear of your troubles, no experience of blood thinning jabs but it might be worth you starting a new thread about it

Hi Wheelybug - thankfully my parents have come down for a couple of days. The blood loss is pretty horrific now but I'm hoping it will tail off soon

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ladylush · 28/08/2008 19:04

it's such a horrible experience. Glad you have support.

Gemzooks · 28/08/2008 19:08

rach, I wouldn't despair. I had a lot of bright red blood and clot type things at exactly what you describe, around 5 weeks. I still don't know what it was, but I went on to have a healthy baby. I would hang on and keep doing tests, then try to have a scan around 7 weeks. Keeping my fingers crossed for you: for me it turned out OK. the biggest indicator was cramps, didn't really have them, just the blood, whereas with 2 m/cs had proper cramps..

Wheelybug · 28/08/2008 19:54

Glad you have some help TheBlonde - take care of yourself.

lexxi · 30/08/2008 00:58

first mc, 12 weeks,dont really know what to expect, would rather not go to hosp. help anyone, please? xx

giraffescantdancethetango · 30/08/2008 01:31

sorry to hear this lexxi. have you seen a dr at all?

Gemzooks · 30/08/2008 21:46

lexxi, sorry to hear this. I had the same, no heartbeat at 12 wks, opted to miscarry naturally, it happened 5 days later. I personally think natural is better as D and C is surgery and carries risks, but it's a personal decision. It is painful and difficult and very important to give yourself a lot of rest and time, hope you have lots of support around you. Wishing you all the best, keep posting as many of us have had similar..

orangehead · 30/08/2008 22:03

I had a mmc at 11 weeks, I had previously had a scan at 10 weeks for some bleeding which showed my baby with healthy heartbeat so must of died a couple of days later. They didnt give me any options just said they would rescan me the following week. The day before I was due to go back I started with contractions on and off but no bleeding. I got up the morning of the scan still contractions and slight brown discharge when I wiped but no more. The scan confirmed mmc and they just told me to go home and get some stuff and come back for immediate erpc. They said it couldnt wait because of risk of infection ( I dont understand why unless they saw something on the scan because everyone else seems to of given the choice). I had the erpc that which went as well as it could of gone. But about two days later had very heavy bleeding and very intense pain. Apparently I had an infection. My second mc happened naturally, it was tough at the time but emotionally alot better, I accepted it better seeing what I had passed unlike the first time.
Im so sorry you going through this

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TheBlonde · 31/08/2008 09:35

lexxi - hope you are doing ok

i am on patientline thing in hosp, got sooo bored without mn, been in since thurs. scared dh a lot as had huge bleed, fainted in ambulance etc
waiting to see if i need a 2nd blood transfusion or not

huge thanks to everyone who shared their exp it has made it easier knowing what to possibly expect

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Wheelybug · 31/08/2008 14:00

Oh god - hope you're bearing up... will be thinking of you.

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TheBlonde · 31/08/2008 16:28

thanks wheely, just seems to get worse
had another scan and now waiting for d n c today or tomorrow plus another transfusion

really missing my kids

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BumpVLump · 31/08/2008 17:31

Been following your trauma TheBlonde- you poor thing.
I had the ERPC in the end coz I couldn't bare waiting anymore and wanted to get on with my life...
Sorry to hear what a hard time you have been having- what a nightmare! Look after yourself lady, thinking of you
X

lulumama · 31/08/2008 17:33

really sorry, theblonde, hope you are back on your feet soon x

Wheelybug · 31/08/2008 18:05

I bet you are . Hope the DNC/transfusion sorts you out quickly.

Take care and keep us posted when you are able.

sue10 · 31/08/2008 18:57

omg the blonde,
have been following your thread, am so truley very sorry to read that you have been in hospital since thurday and have had to have transfusion and will now need a d and c!!! Takecare my lovely and i hope you will be home again very soon.
sueXXX.

Habbibu · 31/08/2008 19:02

Oh, so sorry, TheBlonde. Hope you're back on your feet soon, and getting big hugs from dcs.

Wheelybug · 01/09/2008 18:07

Hope you're recovering from the procedures OK and home soon. Let us know how you are doing when you are able.

maz32 · 01/09/2008 18:52

so sorry to hear of ur experience theblonde, i have just had another scan today after one 2 weeks ago which showed only a sac and no heartbeat at 7 weeks, so i was gutted but the unit said wait and see. today we went and nothing there, i have been told that thankfully i have passed everthing, although i am gutted re miscarriage i am relieved i dont need any intervention. i had small bleed then waited about 5 days until i bled for about 9 days. hope ur starting to get things sorted physically, i am finding ti very hard mentally and i have not had the problems u have. life can be a bitch, take carexxxx

liath · 01/09/2008 20:30

Crikey TheBlonde, only just seen this . I'm so sorry you've had such a dreadful time - thinking of you.

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TheBlonde · 02/09/2008 15:59

Thanks for your messages
I am back home finally
Feeling pretty ropey but much better than I was

maz32 - hope you are taking it easy

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Wheelybug · 02/09/2008 18:04

Glad you're home. Hope you recover soon (and that your children are smothering you in love and attention !).

ladylush · 16/09/2008 14:19

Popped back on thread to see how you are. So sorry you had to have transfusion and d&c It makes the whole experience of m/c so much more stressful when it doesn't just happen doesn't it Take care and get plenty of rest. Did you get your TSH levels checked?