Had a second Miscarriage and 41 has anyone had success having more that one miscarriage and my age

[TinaUK]

So just going through my second miscarriage my last one was in Nov last year. This time i only made it to 5 weeks. I only tested postive two days before I started bleeding. Last time I got to 8 weeks. I have a beautiful 6 year old so have had a child before but I was 35 then. Has anyone had two miscarriages at my age and managed to have a baby at all? Do I need to get tested to see what is going on?

No advice as such as I am in a similar boat. 37 and have a 5 year old, two losses in the last year. I really don’t know if I want to accept it’s just ‘bad luck’ but I guess also as we age so do our eggs so the risk is higher of something chromosomal being off? So sorry you’re going through this x

Gave you had any tests? I had secondary infertility after one super easy pregnancy

So sorry you are going through this. I'm in a similar situation, am 42 and had 2 miscarriages in the last 6 months. Not sure whether to take it as a sign that I'm too old and cannot continue with a healthy pregnancy or just put it down to very bad luck and try one more time? I already have a beautiful 4 year old so am blessed with her.

I don't know if this helps but I spoke to a midwife at Tommy's after my recent miscarriage and she said 2 miscarriages in a row are not uncommon and she has supported many women in their 40s with their second/third/fourth pregnancies.

It took me 15 months to conceive my first child at 39 and then an ectopic and a failed pregnancy at 42 to conceive my second. They’re now 18 and 21. Best of luck and thinking of you.

I have not had or been offered any tests this time round with me being only 5 weeks I have just been told to re-test in a weeks time to confirm its a miscarriage. Last time because I was 8 weeks I went in for a scan. I take it I would need to contact my GP for tests? Its so hard knowing what is best to do this time I dont feel as upset as it would not have even had a heart beat its just the blood loss and headaches from which have been horrible.

Sorry to all that have gone through it. Its so hard knowing what to do. I guess its get tests and see then try if ok. I wish I had done this soon after my daugther but live takes over xx

As my mother in law says third time lucky lol xx

So sorry for your losses.
I had a miscarriage at 40 before having my first DD at 41. I then had another miscarriage, age 43 before having my second DD at 44. It took a year to conceive my 2nd.
The GP didn't want to do any tests, as she said I had had a healthy daughter recently and she felt that it was maybe the stress that was stopping me conceiving and she didn't want to add to it.

Do you test your ovulation, I used ovulation kits and that’s how I found out something was wrong initially, I had tests privately.

Yes! I had a miscarriage at 39 then a baby and then 3 miscarriages between 42 and 43 and then a baby at almost 45. I had children in my 20s and 30s also. All with the same partner.

My infertility was caused by an autoimmune disease which had been dormant in my system, but caused my body to attack itself after having an episiotomy when in labour with my son. Miscarriages aren’t normal so I would have tests if I were you. X

That is good to hear did you have any tests or anything or just keep trying?

I will speak to my GP and see what they suggest thanks for sharing your experience. no I never used ovulation tests as Ialways been able to tell when I am ovulating from my Cervical mucus. Funny I have never paid so much attention to my body in the last 8 months. Maybe too much attention lol

Maybe try the ovulation tests, mine weren’t showing egg release because my eggs weren’t in great condition and hormones weren’t correct - mucus was there though. TBH I’d do what you can independently after speaking to drs as secondary infertility not really recognised well.

Yeah I will thanks for your advice and info as to why. I never knew about it showing egg release mad the things women have to know and learn along the way. Did you have another child after everything? The one thing I have in my mind is I have a beautiful daugther and if I cant have another chid then what will be will be. I dont feel any where near upset this time round. Gutted and numb really

Yes I did x through ivf x

Helvelle75 did you do anything different when trying to conceive for your successful pregnancy did you take aspirin or any medication x

I had three miscarriages between the ages of 39 and 41. Easily got pregnant but I’d get to the second trimester and lose them. Had tests after second miscarriage. Everything was OK except progesterone slightly low. Fourth pregnancy I had progesterone pessaries and had my baby when I was 42. Good luck x

Yes. We had six miscarriages at your age. It was a miserable few years, but it worked out in the end.

I have a theory that it's easy to get pregnant as an older mum but the pregnancies are far less viable and always seem to end close to three months which is frankly, awful.

I had 3 miscarriages age 40 then conceived again at 43 having given up. Healthy successful pregnancy - dc now 11.

Meant add all miscarriages at about 8 weeks

My sister had a baby at 38 then two miscarriages then a baby at almost 42

I'm in a similar situation
One easy pregnancy at 27. One chemical then 8 week loss then 14 week loss. Then a healthy baby.

Just had another miscarriage at 38.

I'm not sure whether to stop as I don't want to just keep having miscarriages, particularly as i had them when I was also a lot younger

I had 2 miscarriages at 40 and then had a healthy baby (now 10) at nearly 42. Another miscarriage at 44. And then stopped trying because I wanted to enjoy the child I had. No tests or treatment. Hang in there OP. It’s a horrible time but there is hope.

So sorry for your losses.

I had 6 miscarriages between the ages of 41 and 43 then a healthy baby at 44 (currently 4 months old)

In a similar position to you, OP. I miscarried 2 weeks ago at 9+5. I’m 43 and have 2 older children age 17 and 18. Had a private consultation yesterday to discuss possible testing. It’s hard to know what’s the right thing to do. Have the other ladies on the thread who had successful pregnancies in their 40s after miscarriage(s) gone down the testing route, or did you leave it to chance?