2 miscarriages took ages to get pregnant, feeling heartbroken

[LittleLemonPie]

Hi, I’m not sure what I’m looking for other than to know I’m not alone.

i had a natural miscarriage sept 2023 at 6weeks which was our result from a 2nd round letrozole. Between then and now we did fertility treatments from nov 2023- july 2024

And then this time it was all natural falling pregnant while waiting for ivf. I found out I was pregnant 1st of dec and felt so blessed.
Unfortunately I’ve had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks and I had the tablets on Friday to start the bleeding.

My hubby has been amazing and so supportive along with other friends and family.

Its going on 5 years this year of us trying for an baby and each time just ends in heartbreak. I took the first one hard and it took me months to start feeling like me again. I feel so emotional and devastated that it has happened again.

I can’t help but fear the next time if I get pregnant the thought of losing another one. Does anyone have any positive stories after 2 miscarriages?

Thank you to anyone who reads this x

Hiya, that’s incredibly difficult, I’m so sorry.

To give you some hope, I had two MCs (one very early CP and then a MMC at 8wks), followed by a successful pregnancy. Even after two MCs the odds are very much in your favour that the next pregnancy will be successful, but you could also see if your GP will do some of the basic tests (thyroid function, full blood count, B12, Vit D, Coeliac) just to see whether there’s something easily fixed.

Hello, I'm so sorry to read about your losses. It's truly heartbreaking and the last 2 years I've written my own threads about my losses and wanting to hear positive stories - never thinking I'd get to post my own.

Me and Dh started trying in Nov 2022, fell pregnant first cycle but miscarried at 5 weeks. I then fell pregnant April 2023, had a scan at 8 weeks, all perfect but had spotting just before my 12 week scan, went in and found baby died at 8+3, this really rocked me. I miscarried naturally the same night we was told on my birthday. 2 months later I found out I was pregnant again but it turned out to be a blighted ovum and miscarried at 7 weeks just 2 weeks before our wedding. Losing all hope.. December 2023 found out I was pregnant but miscarried a day before my 6 week scan, at this point I really thought it wasn't in the cards for us and I wasn't meant to be a mother. I went into a depression & had time off work, went back on my antidepressants and had time to myself. June 2024 - 5th time, positive test. Nothing but fear.. I was under a consultant so they prescribed me progesterone & aspirin. Had a scan at 7 weeks and baby was there (still not out of danger) , then a 10 week scan, 12, 13, 15, 18, 20, 22, 28 & 30. Im now 33 weeks & weeks away from meeting our miracle baby boy. Genuinely can not believe it happened for us but it did and it can for you. I'm sorry you're going through this and nothing I say will make you feel better 💐 but know you are not alone. Xx

@Melusina123 Hi thank you for your reply x

im so sorry to hear of your losses. It’s good to hear your positive story thank you for sharing. I have read few things about thyroid etc so it’s definitely something I’m going to ask my gp about. Thank you so much x

@heavenstruck hi thank you for your reply x

brought tears to my eyes reading your story but then happy tears for you, I am so sorry for your losses. Thank you to you also sharing your positive story. I wish you all the health and happiness for you and your family 🥰

Thank you both, yous have both made my day that little bit better and I hope one day I have a positive story too 💕

Sorry to hear you are going through this again. I had 3 mmc across a number of years. It took ages to fall pregnant each time and then I would lose it by 8 weeks.
I eventually gave birth 9 years after I started trying. It is absolutely exhausting to go through and I had completely given up hope but it was worth it in the end x

@LittleLemonPie no positive news, but kind of in a similar situation.

Been trying for 3 years. Unfortunately, ovulation induction did not work but I ended up falling pregnant naturally whilst waiting for IUI. This ended up in a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks.

I then fell pregnant on a combination of metformin and clomid. This pregnancy ended naturally at 7 and a half weeks.

Its nice to see positive outcomes from others.

At the minute I genuinely don't know what I fear most: a positive pregnancy test or a negative one!

If you need anyone to talk to. I'm here x

So sorry to hear of what you have been through, I don’t have a positive story (yet - got to keep up the hope!), not been ttc as long (just over 2 years) but I understand the fear of trying again after having 2 mc myself. I took a break after my 2nd as I had such fear of it all happening again, and both husband and I utterly sick of visiting hospital (the joy of retained products just not buggering off!!). Now back on to ttc and the fear is back (including horrid nightmares 😩) but I have to hope dream and wish I have a successful pregnancy next time around. I wish you and others in this situation so much luck. Sorry this wasn’t a positive story, I hope to share one in the near future though 🤞🏼xx

Take heart OP. We suffered from infertility for 13 years . I had a retroverted womb and DH sperm was low in motility. I had a MC at 19 weeks in 91 and another at 10 weeks in 92 .
We were so upset over everything that had happened ,we just gave up trying. I became pregnant again the following year and had Dd1 in 94 and DD2 in 95. Wishing you the very best 🤞

thank you all for taking the time to read my post. I’m so sorry to hear of all your losses and what other have went though/currently going through. Its so lovely hearing all your positive stories. Does give hope💕

@CJHR18 @OneDayHope hopefully we get our rainbows and have our little ones in our arms soon. X

Glad to hear you had a happy ending with your two children. If you don't mind, I'm curious about your mention a retroverted uterus. I had a missed miscarriage last August and was also informed I had a retroverted uterus, but wasn't told it was a problem. If you have any more info about this I'd be grateful.

@LittleLemonPie my heart goes out to you, it's such a tough time. Wishing you all the luck for a succesful pregnancy next time round.

I was told by my Gynaecologist that it wasn't a problem too . Nevertheless l experienced infertility and was recommended by friends to put a pillow under my bum after. I don't know if it helps but it can't do any harm

@Fletchasketch so sorry to hear of your loss last year. It is tough. Thank you. Wishing you all the best for the next time round too x

So sorry to read what you’ve been going through OP. Miscarriages are devastating 💔

I had a missed miscarriage in December 2023 at 8 weeks. I had surgical management and found the whole thing so upsetting but was desperate to TTC again as soon as I could. I fell pregnant again in July and we found out 2 weeks before my due date of my first loss, and it felt like such a blessing to be pregnant again. However sadly I had another loss at 6 weeks.

After my second loss I went private and had tests to find out what could have caused them. I am now pregnant again, in my second trimester and although the first 12 weeks were riddled with anxiety things are going well. EPU took my test results seriously and I was put on blood thinning injections, aspirin and progesterone early on as well as being given early scans at 6 and 8 weeks.

Sending you lots of baby dust xx

I had three consecutive miscarriages. But I also had two beautiful babies. Wishing you well and I hope all works out for you.

@Electricfeels Thank you for your reply, so sorry to hear of your losses. Congratulations wishing you a healthy happy pregnancy 💕 EPU said to me if I do fall pregnant again naturally while waiting for ivf to let them know and they will do more scan early on for me. Wishing you all the best x

@MissMarplesGoddaughter so sorry to hear of your losses, heartbreaking 💔 lovely to hear you had two little ones though🥰

So nice hearing positive stories after having a loss or multiple losses ❤️ wish you all the best.

Again thank you to you all for reading, sharing and support ❤️

@LittleLemonPie So sorry for your losses. Have you had any investigations on your losses? I would focus on finding a loss specialist while waiting for IVF.

Keep hope. I struggled with both Infertility and Recurrent miscarriages for 6 years and thanks God now I'm holding my 4 months old in my arms. I had to see many specialists, change IVF clinics few times and at the end it was my immune system killing my embryos. My third try under a Reproductive Immunologist along with IVF turned in this perfect baby.

Research on your own, join fertility blogs, etc to try to find cases like yours and get advice on what worked for them. I found out about the Immunologist on a fertility blog, somebody with a similar case as mine recommended this doctor and thanks God was a big part of my solution.

This journey is horrible, so I would recommend to make a plan on what to do next. Husband and I had a plan which started in changing clinics and ended with a surrogate. It helps you to keep the focus and remind you of other options.

You should join the FB group "Reproductive immunology Support", most women there have RPL.

PS, it's really hard to find good specialists (even paying private) that advocate for you and give you extra recommendations on what to do and try, that's why you have to do as much as you can to get informed . If I waited on those doctors I wouldn't have learnt of this new treatment that finally stopped the miscarriages.

@Pinky1256 hi there, thank you for your reply. So sorry for your losses.
i haven’t had any investigations, ive heard and read they wait till you’ve had 3.
thank you i will have a little look into it, and I’m hoping just to start with some simple bloods etc and take it from there.
It took me a long time to feel mentally/emotionally better after my first mc, this one just seems to cut deeper. Just before I found out I was pregnant I was at peace with waiting for ivf (also hoping it would happen naturally like it did) and I was in such a good place physically and mentally then it’s like just a cruel trick has been played on us and I’m right back where I was over a year ago, devastated 💔
Our fertility clinic has been really good so far. But we will see how things go over next few months.

Thank you for your advice, and lovely to hear your beautiful outcome after such a long upsetting journey for you. X

So sorry for your losses.

Over two years I had three miscarriages (one of which was an IVF loss). I then fell pregnant naturally and somehow carried my daughter to term. I sort of credit the progesterone I was on from the clinic with this success but my infertility/miscarriages never had a proven cause so my consultant thinks we were just really unlucky with our first three.

Don't give up hope!

I am so sorry for your losses.

I'm sorry I don't have much in terms of advise i am afraid, but i can totally relate, as I have also had two misscarriages myself. Its absolutely exhausting & so frightening.

We have been TTC for two years now, with 2 misscarriages. We paid privately to have the basic fertility tests done which both came back good. However they do not dig further into these tests such as I have endometriosis which they didn't really factor in to my surprise / also testing progesterone levels after ovulation etc which I am sure I am lacking due to spotting & symptoms post ovulation.

My GP has been quite useless & has said I have to either have three loses in a row before they will refer me. I will keep pushing however.

I'm so sorry your going through this it's absolutely heartbreaking. Here anytime if you need to speak.

Sending baby dust to you xx

Hi!

Been a looong time since I made this original post….January 2025!
I thought maybe I’d update in the hope it could possibly provide hope for someone else. I want to keep this short so going to put facts rather than feelings. You can imagine the anxiety after 2 miscarriages.

My update:
6 months after my second miscarriage……2nd June 2025……I found out I was pregnant naturally!! In that same week I got the call from the fertility clinic saying we had now went to the top of the list for ivf and to book us in, which of course we didn’t need.

So we had our beautiful little baby in February 2026…..finally all our years of negative cycles and loss over the 5 years of ttc we can somewhat make sense of all that hurt.
Our hearts are so full and overflowing with love for him! 🩵 our little rainbow after the storms 🩵🌈

I hope if anyone comes back to this post and needed a little bit of light and hope for their own journey it might help shine a little hope. 🌈 ✨

@LittleLemonPie Huge congratulations!! Enjoy every second of him 🥰🥰

Thank you so much ☺️ x

@LittleLemonPie a wonderful update, huge congratulations on the birth of your son. I love reading stories like yours!

Thank you so much, I love hearing those stories too 🥰

I'm so sorry OP.

I had a missed MC in Dec 2020, around 8 weeks, with my ex husband and I was completely devastated. Had to have surgery as the pills didn't work.

In Sep 25 I had an ectopic pregnancy with my current partner at around 6 weeks had to have surgery and they removed one of my fallopian tubes.

DD 6 months is currently asleep in her new big girl cot upstairs 😍

Thinking of you 💐

Omg I've just seen the update!!

How amazing 💓💓 So happy for you.