How long should you wait for medical or surgical intervention?

[misssunshine86]

Hi
I started bleeding yesterday AM at 11 weeks. I got sent to a&e, not EPU. After 6 hours a&e child gynaecologist informed me that they have no scanner so I'll have to wait for a scan at EPU sometime this week. I went home via a Hey Baby scanning centre and confirmed the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks 4 days.

I have a 4 year old and now apparently after going to EPU today, I have to just wait for it all to pass, what if it's while I'm looking after her. I just wanted a MVA today so that I can move on. They won't offer me anything, even pills, until Monday. Is this normal? I just want to move on. I tried via my private health and still just nothing. I can't face having contractions and waking my daughter up. Why don't they help you sooner?

That is so nice. I cried reading that. Though it doesn't take much. I don't mind getting on with my work, I just can't multi task at the moment x

@misssunshine86 it's so hard when you feel you don't have a lot to give. Whatever you can manage you've given 100%. Do what you need to with both toddler and work just to get through, ask for as many favours as you can from family and friends.

I love what the pp said about all the women before you holding your hand, it's a lovely thought x

We're all with you, @misssunshine86

We've been through it and we know how poleaxed you're feeling. It's such a tragedy to lose a baby.

I'm so sorry you've got to go to work. Can't you be signed off?

I don't want to disclose my business to work. I'm sure then they'll put me in a box and assume I'll be going off on leave again though obviously who knows if I will. Was such a grumpy shit mum tonight to my poor daughter and all she wanted was to play. Unfortunately no family around and anyway the first thing my mum said when I told her was "were you over doing it". I think I'll just try to sack off work as much as I can.

@misssunshine86 I'm so sorry for your loss 💐💐

I totally understand how you feel, my parents don't even know about my losses nor my MIL. They have nothing to do with me, DH or DC. I know how alone you feel and it makes the pain somehow feel a whole lot worse.

You are strong OP. I know you don't feel up to much but how about getting some nice treats in and doing a film/cartoon night with DD. Get the quilt on the sofa snuggle up and then DD can enjoy herself even if you just zone out for a little bit. I felt so numb for ages after each of my MCs and just walked around like a zombie taking my kids to their sports classes and the park and swimming. Trust me OP as shit as you feel now, each day that goes past it gets just a little better. You don't forget but you get better at coping. If you need someone to vent to my inbox is open 24/7. PP is right, we're all here behind you holding your hand. You got this sweet, just take it one day at a time. Sending big hugs 🤗💐