11 weeks and have been told to expect the worst

[NotALotGoingOnAtTheMoment]

Hi all, I’m really new here and haven’t posted on here before so please bare with me if I’m missing any rules or anything.

May last year I found out I was pregnant with my first baby, we quickly found out at 6.5 weeks that it was ectopic, I had to have surgery which also meant the removal of my left fallopian tube. In August last year I found out I was pregnant again but miscarried at 5.5 weeks.

Now to today, I am currently 11 weeks pregnant and have been closely monitored by the hospital and had scans every two weeks. Two weeks ago I was measuring 5w5d pregnant when I should have been 9 weeks, however they did see a strong heartbeat. I went back yesterday and they told me that the heartbeat was really weak and I’m measuring only 6 weeks pregnant when I should be 11. The sonographer and her second opinion have both told me to expect to miscarry. They have asked me to go back next Thursday for another scan and they’ve said they’re confident the heartbeat will have stopped.

I’m certain of my dates as I track ovulation however I could be out by 1 week due to PCOS. I got a positive test on 26th June so I am definitely 10 weeks at least.

Not sure why I’m positing this, just needed to share. I can’t believe this is happening again. Has anyone else experienced this?

I’m sorry op. I haven’t experienced this kind of loss, but just wanted to respond. Sending virtual hugs.

Sorry to read this OP.

I’m experiencing similar at the moment. Had a scan last Weds and measuring 3 days behind but strong heartbeat & no major concerns. Had a follow up scan 2 days ago (we’re having these through our IVF clinic) and there’s been growth but heartbeat is only 74 bpm. We’ve basically be told to expect the worst and back in next week to have that confirmed then onto a D&C.

Are you still having symptoms? Mine have vanished mostly.

I’m so so sorry that you are going through this too.

That’s basically what they told me too, they said right now they can’t do anything because there is still a heartbeat although they weren’t even confident they could see it, they kept saying to each other ‘is that an FH, is that an FH?’

I had really sore boobs since ovulation that got worse and then in the last week they just stopped hurting, they’re a little sore but nothing like they have been. I feel nauseous but I think that’s just stress with everything, I’ve definitely noticed a drop in symptoms the last week as I even called my midwife last week to see if there was a problem. Can I ask how far along you are if you don’t mind?

Sending a big virtual hug your way.

Thanks so much for your really kind message, I really appreciate it

Hi @NotALotGoingOnAtTheMoment

Just wanted to offer a handhold, I had 13 miscarriages before my DD.

Just to offer some hope, I was told I was measuring 2 weeks behind and to expect a miscarriage, she's currently sat in her swing seat, nearly 12 weeks old.

Sending hugs and a hand hold x

Thank you so much! Really appreciate the kind message.

Massive congrats on your little one and thank you for sharing your story with me!

Big love to you too. It’s such a terrible shock & the thing we all fear. Being in that scanning room when it’s bad news is just horrific.

I’m 8 weeks tomorrow but I have no hope and feel like it’s all over. Maybe that’s healthier than denial?

The last few days have been very tough but we’ve managed to laugh too and I even had a glass of wine last night for the first time in 3 months. It felt good to be normal for an evening.

It’s the worst isn’t it, I’ve never been in that scanning room and walked out happy, I’ve always left with anxiety or just pure heartbreak.

I’m sorry it’s been hard for you too! I get what you mean, it’s hard to keep hope when it keeps going so wrong and when everyone keeps saying ‘it will happen’ you know it comes from a good place but for me it’s just so hard to hear. Have you had any scans if you mind me asking or is it just a gut feeling?

sending lots of love

Yes I’ve had this and sadly the outcome was not good. But I went on to have a successful pregnancy after 4 miscarriages in a row.

Wishing you all the best now, and if this pregnancy doesn’t work out, remember that you will now be eligible for progesterone supplementation in future pregnancies. The latest studies are really positive and the NICE guidelines have recently been updated that progesterone is proven to support a future pregnancy if there have been a history of three + miscarriages.

Thanks so much for your reply and I’m really sorry you’ve been through this too. I’m resigned to what it is now and I’m just waiting for it to happen unfortunately. They did give me progesterone this time around too and I’ve been taking it the last 4 weeks so I feel that’s how I’ve gotten as far as I have if the little one stopped growing at 6 weeks. Really messes with your head doesn’t it.

thanks so much for sharing with me!

I’ve been on progesterone too but I’m guessing there’s some genetic issue. I just want the next scan now so we can move forward.

Sorry I got confused between messages I didn’t mean to ask you about the scan again! I’m still getting used to this app!

I’m exactly the same I just want the scan to be done so I can grieve now and have some closure.

I’ll be thinking of you

Oh no worries! 😊

Thinking of you too. We will get past this and get our babies!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had my second MMC last month, had a scan at 7+4 measuring 7 weeks and with a really slow heartbeat, scan at 8+4 measuring 7 weeks still but stronger heartbeat. Almost immediately after that scan I started spotting, and a scan 10 days later showed the heart had stopped basically right after my scan.

My first MMC was a bit different, totally normal scan at 7 weeks, then scan at 10+4 showed heart/growth had stopped at 9 weeks. Only sign of that was a bit of pink mucus the day before the scan.

I hope you're out of limbo soon, it's the worst x

im so sorry you’re going through this too @moosey89 Thanks for sharing your story with me, it definitely helps me feel less alone.

Limbo is awful, I’ve woken this morning feeling really broken I think it’s starting to sink in what’s happening. No sign of anything happening yet, I just want this hell to be over now.

Sorry you’ve been through it too @moosey89 . Your recent MC sounds similar to mine but I’m waiting on the follow up scan to confirm it’s not viable. Can I ask if you had medical intervention or did you pass your MMC ‘naturally’. I’m trying to work out my preference.

@NotALotGoingOnAtTheMoment you're definitely not alone. I hate that so many of us have to go through these awful things.

@FiddleLeaf I'm so sorry you're in this situation too. I had surgical management both times, I just wanted it to be clear cut and I felt better making it a medical decision if that makes sense. x

I feel the same as you both & want it done with.

I have zero pregnancy symptoms now which is wild compared to last week where I was so tired, feeling sick, sore boobs, hiccuping etc. I definitely prefer it this way over still feeling pregnant.

Update on this, bleeding started this morning. I’m so scared.

Hey @NotALotGoingOnAtTheMoment, are you home alone? You will be ok. The cramps will come & go as will today and then you’ll be able to move forward. Big love to you xx

My husband is with me and he’s doing a run to Boots soon for essentials. Right now it’s just spotting so I’m ok pain wise. Looking forward to this being over. I hope you’re ok? Thanks so much x

I’m doing alright and just waiting for something to happen really.

I went out yesterday for a survival kit which includes sanitary towels, femme fresh, maltesers, couple of frozen pizzas for when I don’t want to think about dinner, painkillers & lots of nice cold drinks. Look after yourself x

I did exactly the same, lots of chocolate! I’ll be thinking of you! X

How are you doing today @NotALotGoingOnAtTheMoment?

I’ve got my follow up scan tomorrow to confirm the loss. Time is going by so slowly!

I’m ok thank you. Frustrated as this seems to be coming and going and happening really slowly so I think I’ll still need medication but not sure yet! How are you feeling? I’ll be thinking about you tomorrow!