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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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No heartbeat - when did you miscarry

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namechange4858 · 16/05/2023 20:34

Had an early scan today should be about 7/8 weeks and no heartbeat. I had a scan about two weeks ago no heartbeat then but they just assumed it was too early. Told unfortunately it's very likely a failed pregnancy. I am going to have another scan next week unless anything happens before.
I know everyone is different but just wondered for those with similar experiences did you miscarry yourself or did you need mediation? How long did it take to happen etc?

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Jacey14 · 16/05/2023 20:36

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a heartbeat at 7 weeks but not at 9 (I booked a private scan as I felt something was amiss) and it took nearly 2 weeks to miscarry naturally.

Sheepsheepeverywhere · 16/05/2023 20:38

No hb at 8 weeks.. It was a Tuesday.. Mc naturally the Friday lunch time.

Fjames90 · 16/05/2023 20:39

I’m so sorry for your loss 🤍

I had an early scan thinking I was 8+4, they measured me at 5+4 with no heartbeat, 2 weeks later I naturally miscarried. Had my scan this afternoon to confirm it was a “complete miscarry”

TheHopefulMum · 16/05/2023 20:41

Hi OP. Sorry your going through this. I am currently going through a miscarriage.

Found out I was very unexpectedly pregnant with DC4 at the end of April, I experienced some pinky discharge last week and just didn't feel pregnant, although I should have been around 7 weeks by then. I told DH that something didn't feel right and unfortunately I was correct. I was seen by EPU Friday morning where they discovered a small empty sac, measuring less than 4 weeks. They said I could have got my dates wrong but I just knew then that this would be a loss and I unfortunately began bleeding when I left the hospital. I don't know of the internal exam sped this up or if it was just bad timing but it felt especially cruel when I had hoped to see our little one just a few hours before.

I feel a little silly being so upset if I'm honest as I never really had a baby, likely chromosomal abnormalities meant it didn't grow, but to me I was pregnant and I wanted this baby.

Please take care of yourself over the coming days and weeks, hopefully you get your beautiful baby soon ❤️

Kablea · 16/05/2023 20:44

I didn’t naturally miscarry after they showed heartbeat and then nothing on the next scan. They offered me the surgical option which I went for as had previously naturally miscarried (3wks after the scan showed it wasn’t viable) and I found it painful. Have had 2 surgical managements now and they were the best option for me, had general and was painless, also had a swift recovery.

Sheepsheepeverywhere · 16/05/2023 21:00

Not sure if this was your first dc op but I had labour. Assumed it was due to previously given birth (?). I kept busy those days in between - the time went quicker... Be prepared for an intact foetus op. It isn't always just 'tissue'..

Unicorn2023 · 17/05/2023 00:18

@namechange4858 Had a MMC it didn’t happen naturally for me unfortunately should have been 11weeks and measured 6 weeks had medical management given 11 tablets to start it and it didn’t work so ended up with surgical. Had about four days of soreness and very light bleeding . Sending you lots of love and strength ♥️

blw95 · 17/05/2023 07:34

So sorry you’re going through this. I had a mmc, found out at a private scan. Should have been 10 weeks, baby measured 9 with no heartbeat. Had surgery a week later, my body didn’t start miscarrying naturally. Unfortunately that surgery failed (which isn’t very common) and I had second surgery two weeks later. Within that time my body didn’t pass anything naturally unfortunately x

Raggeo · 17/05/2023 07:42

Had a scan at 7w2d. No heartbeat and measurements were smaller than they should have been. Dr queried if my dates were wrong, I was certain they weren't. Bleeding started 10 days later. I found those 10 days really hard, the grief plus not knowing when it was going to happen. So for me, when the bleeding started there was a sense of relief.

JC89 · 17/05/2023 07:42

So sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in November - went for my dating scan at what should have been 13 weeks and was told the baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks. It started coming away a couple of days later - so took about 8 weeks, maybe a bit more.

Kdramafan · 17/05/2023 15:29

So sorry to hear all this I lost my baby at 18 weeks

Kdramafan · 17/05/2023 15:32

Still waiting for post mortem results as I already have two sons and this time I drank aspirin which I think caused all the problems but doctor says it shouldn't have done it but I had bad reaction to aspirin rash headache nose bleed extremely feeling hot on a cold day baby was fine on week 12+4 at scan and next day I started drink aspirin then things started to be funny also I ate lots and lots but baby did not weigh anything at all only 47 grams

SnookyPook · 17/05/2023 15:36

@namechange4858 I had a MMC so found out at 11+4 that baby had stopped developing and heartbeat stopped at 7+5. I was booked for surgery but started to miscarry that night and lost the pregnancy over the next couple of days. So it took a month from the heart stopping for my body to miscarry (not quite sure if seeing the scan kind of shocked my body into getting on with it..?)

Kdramafan · 18/05/2023 07:49

Did u understand what have caused it as I am still waiting for answers and have been told that sometimes report is unknown as I was eating healthy no smoking no alcohol ever in my life

SnookyPook · 18/05/2023 08:28

@Kdramafan normally in the UK they don't test a loss in the first trimester. Most common reason is chromosomal though (i.e. something wrong with the DNA / building blocks of the baby). It's usually just random and not caused by anything you've done. Just very sad. Other reasons could be hormone imbalances or infections in/around the womb.

Also meant to say, so sorry @namechange4858 for your loss. 💕

Jx3303 · 18/05/2023 08:37

@namechange4858 I'm very sorry this has happened to you. I am in the same position. Had a private scan on Saturday when baby should have been 7w3d and had no heartbeat and measuring a week too small. Another scan at my local EPU on Tuesday confirmed MMC. This was an ivf pregnancy (a very long awaited one 😞) so I was on a high dose of progesterone. I have now been able to stop so am waiting for it to happen naturally. We have another scan on 30th and I guess if nothing has happened by then we'll have to go down the surgical route. Which terrifies me, I've had a lot of intervention already with 4 IVF cycles (but only one transfer) in the last year. This is just heartbreaking and I'm so sorry for anyone going through it or who has been. I send you lots of love OP x

morechocolateneededtoday · 18/05/2023 08:45

I am so sorry for your loss OP

Have you started bleeding? It all happened within 3 days once the bleeding started for me but foetus had stopped growing around 2 weeks before (unknown to me at the time)

@Kdramafan , I am so sorry for your loss. Postmortems are not carried out on first trimester miscarriages because they are common and usually because of chromosomal abnormalities which prevent the pregnancy from progressing. Yours was much later which is why they are testing but please be assured it isn't anything you have done wrong. I (and millions more women) took aspirin through pregnancy without any problems. Please don't blame yourself

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namechange4858 · 19/05/2023 12:52

Thank you everyone and so sorry for all your losses. I'm not sure the cause I will ask when I go back to the EPU but as PP said I don't think they would do any tests.
I have had some very light bleeding this morning which seems to have stopped not sure if this is the start.

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Kdramafan · 20/05/2023 09:55

Be strong and have courage

Youdoyoubabe · 20/05/2023 10:00

Difficult to know as scans that early weren't the thing then. Retrospectively and with more experience of pregnancy and how body works lots of very late heavy painful periods were likely early miscarriages..

ThatLibraryMiss · 20/05/2023 10:17

Youdoyoubabe · 20/05/2023 10:00

Same with early pregnancy tests. 50 years ago women had late periods, maybe a bit heavier and crampier than usual. Who knew what caused them? Stress? Irregular cycles? Just part of the mysteries of womanhood? Now you test when you're overdue and when you start bleeding it's a miscarriage not just a late period.

littledinosaurs · 21/05/2023 12:03

How are you @namechange4858? I had a MMC at Christmas. I had some extremely light spotting but after waiting 3 weeks still nothing so I had surgery. It was v quick - in and out - and recovery quick. I mostly did it to make things easier and quicker so I could look after my DD.

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namechange4858 · 21/05/2023 12:45

Sorry to hear that @littledinosaurs. I haven't had any bleeding for a few days now. I have to go back on Thursday to discuss my options. I'm finding the waiting hard and in a strange way just want the inevitable to happen. Do you mind me asking why you choose the surgery option? My first thought was that taking a tablet sounds easier but it seems many women prefer surgery?

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littledinosaurs · 21/05/2023 13:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. The waiting was honestly the worst part – I had to have loads of scans because there was a yolk sac and at one point they said a foetal pole had grown (such a mind fuck, I think they just missed it on a previous scan). I felt relieved after surgery.

I went for that option because I could then be sure when it would happen, which was just more practical for being able to look after my DD. I would have been tempted by the pessaries if I didn't have DD just because it's slightly less risk. I think just depends on your pain tolerance/how upset you would be by passing pregnancy material or whether that would be cathartic.

Jx3303 · 21/05/2023 13:38

I am finding the wait extremely difficult too. We have another scan booked for the 30th, but I'm going to call EPU tomorrow and get booked in for surgical. I've had no bleeding at all but it's been over a week since we found out. Sending you love x

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