I miscarried this morning

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Just that really. Just wanted to say it (maybe a bit weird). Was 6w+3d

Been bleeding/spotting on and off since Monday. And uti symptoms

Tried GP they sent me to 111. They rang me back in middle of night and closed my call. Hospital told me to speak to Gp. Gp said ring 111... decided to ride it out. Dropped water into surgery we'd/thu (can't mind) they didn't come back to me.

Finally got an app at choc Christmas Eve. Doctor was lovely but couldn't contact gynae. Was there 7-9. Told me there was E. coli in my water. Give me anti biotics and sent me home saying they'd invite me for a scan

Yesterday felt quite crap. Bleeding seemed to be getting heavier as in there every time I wiped. Bad cramps. Managed to do Christmas. Split myself on two a bit but uncomfortable all day.

Came home. Partner was on nights. Had a bath and got into bed. Slept 11-12:30 and woke up in pain.. awful doubled over pain. Much more than the cramps. Text partner and he text me back about 4:30 asking how I was and if I needed the hospital. Told him there was nothing they could do. Said he'd be home just after 6.

Must have nodded off for 40 mins as I woke when he came in. Couldn't get back over. Pain was awful. I wriggled about for a bit and then went into the bathroom. Felt like trying for a poo would help (sounds daft now). Partner text me asking I was ok (honestly don't think he knew what to do). Was just finishing up and changing pad. Sat back down on toilet and something fell out. Fished it out and decided it was what I'd been waiting for (too much googling).

Got back into bed and said I'd passed the fetus and we had a cuddle and tears (me although he was upset and keeps saying he doesnt understand how it's happened)
I took a couple of cocodamol for the pain and drifted off at about 7:30.

My boobs are really sore today. I'm still bleeding. Very emotional. I think it's a combination of being tired and it falling out of me (sorry tmi).

Merry bloody Christmas.

Life is sent to try us.

I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. It's such a cruel and horrible thing to happen. I had my 3rd miscarriage in October and it never gets any easier.
Sending hugs to you.

Thank you ❤️

Feel daft but just wanted to write it down.

Hoping the bleeding eases and my boobs aren't so sore tomorrow. Awful anytime or year but feel like it's tarnished Christmas.

Hope you're okay too 😘

So sorry 💐 xx

Oh thank you. I wasn't sympathy hunting just want to get it off my chest where others understand. I haven't told any of my friends, hardly a festive topic and feel it's personal.
I don't think my partner has felt it like me as he didn't see or feel it. I know people have it much worse than me.

I am so sorry OP. And it isn’t TMI - if it helps to share, that’s what this forum is for.

sorry for your horrible experience and for your loss 💐

Thank you ❤️

I've actually just text my partner before (back on nights) saying I wasn't aware my body was going to have to "birth" (pain bursts every 3 minutes) so early and it would be more than just blood. It's like it's very Normal tor miscarriage but we don't talk about it so we aren't prepared.

I know you're not sympathy hunting but I also wanted to say I'm so sorry this happened. I had a miscarriage 25 years ago and I remember how harrowing it was. So sorry op x

Yes I doubt you'll ever forget.

You'll also understand sympathy would be of no use to anyone.

It's all life experience I suppose 😔 wouldn't wish it on anyone x

So sorry for you both 💐💐♥️

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Sorry to hear this. Thinking of you both

I am so very very sorry. I had a miscarriage Christmas Eve over a decade ago. It’s so awful. Look after yourself.

Aw that's awful. Hope you still managed a nice day.

I think the pretending to be okay was the worst. I didn't want to share what was happening as I feel there will be an expectation to try again. And I don't know if I can do I again (or if i didn't conceive etc)

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I experienced this over New Year 12 years ago, I had to say to my lovely family who arrived to celebrate that I was pregnant and then immediately that I was almost certainly miscarriaging. I was 14 weeks but had been ill with a chest infection and temperature.

I remember it every New Year and morn the child who didn’t make it despite now having one.

I am so sorry you experienced this, I wish people talked more about it because then we would know what to expect. I know the statistics that a third of pregnancies end up in miscarriage so I don’t know why we don’t talk about and have and idea what to expect.

Painkillers help, wishing you well x

Sending much love xx

Sorry for your loss I've been there, not at Christmas time though and I was shocked at the actual process. Nothing geared me up for it, I thought it would be like a period going from what the doctor said.

Be kind to yourself and have plenty of rest x

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I miscarried in November. It does get easier, eventually. Please take the time to grieve

I am so sorry you've had to go through this and at Christmas. You're right that people don't talk about the reality of miscarriage and what you physically feel and pass. I had a chemical pregnancy earlier in the year, but I didn't feel anything, physically, like you did. The whole experience of gradually more bleeding, and while on holiday, was awful though. I really hope your body recovers as soon as it can. Hugs xxx

Yes - exactly this.

I thought a heavy period not the excruciating pain that it was and the mini contractions. I was absolutely not expecting to feel anything drop out either.

Yes I think when the bleeding and cramps stop and my boobs stop hurting I'll feel like a different person

It's always at the worst times isn't it. I hope you still enjoyed your holiday.

I probably sound dramatic, it was small but I won't forget the feeling

I had a medical miscarriage with the hospital at 12 weeks 2 days on 23rd Dec 22, went for follow up scan and said sac growing but no life growing. Doctors said best to use medical help. Devastated. Spent Xmas eve; Xmas day , Boxing Day hovering around the house. Shocking pain on and off . It’s all over unfortunately. I thought all was going well at 12 weeks , unplanned pregnancy and unplanned outcome , have 3 lovely girls to keep me going.

Bless you, I hope they were understanding.

I took some cocodamol this morning and it helped me sleep.

I had strep a few week ago and was really unwell. Maybe that's been a factor

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