I am miscarrying right now not sure what to do...

[deeno]

My second m/c. Last one at eleven wks. This one neary 12 wks. Last time ended up losing everything down the loo. went to hospital as bleeding wouldnt stop. Refused d & c and eventually it stopped. Horrible expereince and dreading what I know is going to come. Bright red blood I have had for couple of days now has become heavier and two big clots have just come away from me. I have managed to save them. Am I doing the right thing saving them to take to hospital. I am at home now and don't want to rush off to hospital. Should I stay at home and just wait for inevitable to happen. Dreading hospital. Bleeding heavily now. Need to go back to loo.

deeno. Are you seeing your GP for a follow-up appointment? Can you ask for any tests/investigations to try to find out why you have M/C again?

The hospital said the 'products' will be investigated at the lab for abnormalities and some cells from the placenta are kept on a slide for comparison if there was another m/c in the future. With my 1st m/c everything was flushed down the loo so nothing to compare with this time. I will be going back to the doctors just to ask some questions. Is it just coincidence that I m/c last time 11wks and this time 12wks. It seems late to m/c. Thank god for my dd. She is just four. But I so would like a sibling for her. She was cuddling up to me in bed last night and started climbing on my tummy which is still tender. I asked her not to as my tummy was sore and she gave me a big smile and said "I think you have a baby in there mummy". I said I'm afraid not my darling. To which she said "I want a baby sister mummy".

On the positive side I have carried one healthy baby to full term so the fact that I have m/c twice in succession is hopefully just unfortunate. My dh and I have agreed we are going to give ourselves two to three months and then start trying again.

Oh Deeno what a scare for you both,& a sad time .

Be kind to yourselves & take care & I'm sure nature will take it's course. I had 2 m/c then went on to have 2 healthy DD's & then a further 2 m/c- sometimes there are no answers except the vague "it was not meant to be" which is frustrating.

Allow yourselves time to grieve & spoil yourself a bit too to build up your strength both physically & mentally.

my love to you both & your DD xx

Deeno- I am experiencing my first m/c and trying to do it natuarally as really dont want any medical intervention. I am sorry that this has happened for you again, I think 1 m/c is bad enough but more would be awful.

I'm also sorry that you had to go into hospital. I hope you are on the mend and are resting.

I wish I could say more, I suppose I just wanted to let you know that you are not on your own.

Big hugs.

Blimey deeno, what a horrible experience for you. I'm very sorry.x

At least the hospital are going to do some tests on the products (horrible word, but they used the same one to me when I was in hospital). I really hope you can get some answers - I was advised by a friend that if I wanted to get testing, I would need to be very forceful with people as they tend to fob you off.

Not sure if this is any help or not, but I ended up getting a vitamin tonic to make me feel better afterwards (was totally washed out and exhausted). Rest lots, eat well, take good care of yourself.x

Pinkdolly, I'm very sorry that you are going through this too. How are you feeling today?

Dear Deeno, Wishing you all the best. My thoughts are with you. It is a very scarry experience. But I believe I can say that all the women here will be thinking of you and hope that gives you strength.

Had two miscarriages - 16 weeks (but dead at 11) and 10 weeks (never got hearbeat). Bled heavily at first, hospital did D&C as too much loss.

Second one uneventful - D&C.

Hope you get through this - will be hard first few weeks. Stay strong.