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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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I am miscarrying right now not sure what to do...

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deeno · 08/01/2008 21:42

My second m/c. Last one at eleven wks. This one neary 12 wks. Last time ended up losing everything down the loo. went to hospital as bleeding wouldnt stop. Refused d & c and eventually it stopped. Horrible expereince and dreading what I know is going to come. Bright red blood I have had for couple of days now has become heavier and two big clots have just come away from me. I have managed to save them. Am I doing the right thing saving them to take to hospital. I am at home now and don't want to rush off to hospital. Should I stay at home and just wait for inevitable to happen. Dreading hospital. Bleeding heavily now. Need to go back to loo.

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Pod1 · 08/01/2008 22:14

You're right, cadelaide they don't. My best friend was in floods of tears when I told her. She was shocked. It upsets me to think of someone going through it right now.Deeno, a hot water bottle on your stomach may help.

kittywise · 08/01/2008 22:16

It was when II was miscarrying for the first time I remember lying in the bath trying to ease the excruciating cramps that I swore that the next time I felt this pain would be when I was in labour.
I had had 2 sections previously and did then manage my first vbac. The pain at 12 weeks is REALLY horrible.
Try hot water as cadelaide has suggested, also as many pankillers as you are allowed and hot water bottles, rub your tummy and try your best ( not esay I know) to relax.

cadelaide · 08/01/2008 22:18

Yes, if you can relax a bit and trust your body that will help.
I had a scan after the 2nd mc and was told "your body has done a very good job".
I found that enormously comforting.

bosch · 08/01/2008 22:18

Deeno, so sorry that this is happening.

I had my second m/c at home and I also fished the sac out of the toilet and took it to hospital the next day. They only use it to check that everything has come away, as a scan wouldn't spot tiny bits. I was disappointed they didn't check to see if everything was otherwise 'alright' or not.

I did find the hospital epau (or another ward in the wee small hours) didn't mind at all when I rang a couple of times for advice.

Wish there was something I could say to make you feel better.

Pod1 · 08/01/2008 22:24

Deeno I have to go now but I will be thinking about you. Take care x

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deeno · 08/01/2008 22:41

I think everything has come away now. Still bleeding but not as heavily as last time. Hubby with me and mum has come over. Really dont want to go to hospital this time. Felt last time as though hospital took over and I want to be in control. Felt dizzy sick and faint, cold sweat when major clots passed, but come round the bend now. In bed. Think I am going to monitor blood loss. If gets worse or I feel very unwell will get off to hsoptial. Have scan booked for 9am at EPU tomorrow a.m. EPU doesn't open until then. So would have to go to A & E now and would then probably be transferred to gynae ward at another hosptal 30 mins away. Just don't want to be poked and prodded like last time.

My thinking behind saving things is that maybe they would be able to look at it and maybe might point to why this has happened again. Although they might not consider a second m/c as worth investigating. Also, I just can't bear to flush it down the loo. That realy upset me last time. Thanks everyone for your support. I know I am not the only one here who has gone through this.

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Spidermama · 08/01/2008 22:44

Hi deeno ... glad you have people with you. If you don't want to flush it that's fine. Collect it all, precious stuff, and you can take your time and say 'goodbye' when you're good and ready.

Don't feel pressure to go to hospital either unless you continue to feel very unwell or have a temperature. I totally understand what you're saying about control.

Good luck and look after yourself.

bossybritches · 08/01/2008 22:45

No you 're not but thei sis your time & our thoughts & love are with you. Come & have a moan/weep rant if you feel the need, glad you are not alone.

Tell hubby & Mum you need lots of hugs.

cadelaide · 08/01/2008 22:45

oh hello deeno, glad the worst is over.
I buried the sack a day or two after my mc.
Be kind to yourself, you're in my thoughts, tis a horrid, horrid thing to go through.

Bubble99 · 08/01/2008 22:45

deeno. xx

Wait until tomorrow morning, as long as you are not feeling faint. I'm so sorry this has happened to you again.

Bubble99 · 08/01/2008 22:48

deeno. I think you should go for the scan tomorrow, just to be sure that you were pg with a singleton (if you hadn't already had an early scan.)

Spidermama · 08/01/2008 22:48

caddy I buried my sac too. It really helped.

God threads like this bring it all back don't they. At least we have each other.

Night all. Night Deeno. xx

cadelaide · 08/01/2008 22:51

sac, not sack
They do Spider, they do.
Keep posting if you want to deeno, we'll be looking out for you.

MrsWednesday · 08/01/2008 22:54

It might seem a bit stupid to say this, but make sure you eat plenty, will help keep your strength up. Hope you manage to get some sleep and that everything goes as well as it can tomorrow at the EPU.

Thinking of you. There are lots of us to talk to if you need to.

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deeno · 08/01/2008 23:18

Thank you. It was only one. Early scan at seven wks showed one tiny bean with a heart beat. So sad it was just not meant to be again.

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cadelaide · 08/01/2008 23:28

oh deeno
I found the second time so hard, and i can imagine having seen a heartbeat (I hadn't) only compounds the sense of loss.
You'll be in my thoughts tonight.

Bubble99 · 08/01/2008 23:30

Without wishing to sound like a weirdy internetty person - I wish I could give you a proper hug.

I'm just so, so sorry this has happened to you.

I'm off to bed now, but we'll look out for you - so keep posting.

Jenkeywoo · 08/01/2008 23:35

Deeno, I'm so sorry. The others have given you such good advice and I'm glad you have support at home. None of this is fair and I do hope things get easier for you.

Tnog · 08/01/2008 23:44

Deeno, I'm so sorry for your loss

cadelaide · 09/01/2008 09:47

Good Morning Deeno, how are you today?

Pod1 · 09/01/2008 10:18

Hoping you're over the worst (physically at least) now and can concentrate on looking after yourself. My heart really does go out to you.

bossybritches · 09/01/2008 11:12

cad you're right the second one hits you SO hard.

Deeno how are you feeling today ? (physically at least) Hope the hospital are kind to you.

Take care & I join in with Bubble & give virtual hugs, if you'd like them.

Spidermama · 09/01/2008 11:21

Hello Deeno. Thinking of you this morning and I hope it went 'well' physically yesterday.

Take it easy.

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deeno · 11/01/2008 22:20

Thanks everyone for their help support and advice the other night. Unfortunatley things took a turn for the worse, hubby dialled 999 when I fainted in the bathroom in early hours of the morning. Ended up with surgical intervention to stop bleeding followed by blood transfusion. Home from hospital yesterday. Physically on the mend but know the emotional road to recovery is going to take a while longer.

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Bubble99 · 11/01/2008 22:23

I'm so pleased you're back, deeno. Been wondering how you are.

That must have been a huge shock for you both. I hope you're both getting lots of love and support.

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