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Miscarriage 7 weeks

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Claire73698 · 23/02/2022 08:08

So I have two children already so was pretty shocked when I had a missed period. Pregnancy test came back so bold this was just over two weeks ago. The pregnancy didn't feel right from the start. I told the midwife and she said cramping can be normal the more children you have. I had no morning sickness which was another red flag for me, I know each pregnancy is different so was unsure. Spotting started Saturday so I rang the early pregnancy unit and was expecting them to ask me to go in to be checked over and the advice was ring back if really heavy blood or severe cramps and they booked me in for a scan next week. Sunday I had blood like a period flow called the unit again, given the same advice and that everything could still be alright as some people do lose some blood. Monday was the worse day as I was losing lots of blood including clots. It has sort of eased off a bit now and having some aches and pains with it too. Is it just me who thought there would be more support around this? It has shocked me the lack of help available. It feels like such a scary and lonely time to be left to get on with it. I had so many questions like what do I expect? How much bleeding is too much? And still do have some. It's quite shocking how it is so common and women are left to get through it at home. Dreading the scan next week and emotions are all over the place. Read so many articles online trying to get some sort of timeline of a miscarriage. Thank you for reading, any support is appreciated x x

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TellOrNot1981 · 23/02/2022 11:38

Hi I’m also 7 weeks and yesterday a scan showed the baby had no heartbeat so I’m waiting for the bleeding to start. They told me yesterday that if I had sickness or fever, or soaked more than 3 sanitary towels in an hour to contact them.

Claire73698 · 23/02/2022 11:53

I think I had a feeling as some symptoms had gone like harder stomach and tender breasts before the onset. So glad to be able to reach out to others who have gone or going through similar situation x x

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Bumble44 · 23/02/2022 15:53

Hi, so sorry you're going through this too. I had a scan almost a week ago when I was 10 weeks due to bleeding (no cramps at the time), found out baby had stopped growing around 3 weeks ago. Since then I've been in terrible pain, constant cramps, bleeding, clots - every single day since. This is something that I didn't expect at all, nor was it explained to me at the hospital what happens during a miscarriage, infact the idea of miscarriage wasn't even mentioned to me at all, only that I had to wait for another scan in a weeks time to double check that baby had stopped growing. I completely agree that there's a complete lack of info and support for women during this scary time.

Claire73698 · 23/02/2022 16:47

It's just awful for anyone to go through, I get that it is common so they may not be able to see us all but you just don't get them asking for you to go to be seen. The waiting is just awful. I've got my scan Monday and just hoping my body has done what it should have but I don't know either way. I'm so lucky to have two children already x x

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Luuuce · 24/02/2022 08:03

Hey, sorry to hear what you’re going through. I am very similar to you at the moment. I went for a scan Monday just gone, said I was 6+2, but no heartbeat.
I have been bleeding since last Friday, started off brown and now it’s bright red.
I have to go back again on Monday to double check because it’s before 7 weeks, but it’s the longest week of my life.
I have also been having cramping and lower back ache, but I just don’t feel pregnant anymore (I was throwing up loads the week before).
It’s such a horrible time for us ti go through and I haven’t had much support either, the walk in centre I had to go to were useless!

When is your scan? Keep us updated x

Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 08:11

So sorry to hear others in a similar situation to me. My scan is Monday and just dreading it, what a strange and upsetting experience it will be. I think I had a feeling from the beginning something wasn't right and you know your own body. Bleeding is ongoing and not sure how long this will last. I'm glad to be able to share my experience here and get in touch with others, it's such a lonely time x x

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Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 08:24

Forgot to mention I've been feeling really sickly for a few days now and totally gone off any food x x

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Luuuce · 24/02/2022 08:26

@Claire73698 that's a good sign isn't it? I was terrified when my sickness stopped!

I forgot to add that they said my gestational sac was quite small, the scan photo I have makes the baby look so cramped Confused
I just can't be doing with waiting, it's a horrible thing to wait for.

Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 08:30

@Luuuce don't think so, I never had sickness once during the last few weeks. I think it's just my bodies reaction to it all. Waiting is just not good at all x x

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Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 08:34

@Bumble44 how can the hospital do that, not even give you an idea of what might happen! That is so bad x x

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Luuuce · 24/02/2022 08:36

@Bumble44 sorry to hear what you're going through also, I didn't see your comment at the top.

When I was at my scan they were throwing the word miscarriage around like it was ok, but nothing afterwards, what happens next? Do we just wait? Do we have to come back? I have no idea

Motherofcats007 · 24/02/2022 08:36

I had three. Didn’t get any support till after my third one. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, but to medical staff it’s so common and it’s just ‘one of these things’. Take care of yourself xxx

Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 08:49

@Motherofcats007 so sorry to hear your experiences. Exactly but to any one of us it's not just 'one of those things' this is our life our emotions our anxiety and worries x x

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Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 08:53

@Luuuce so many questions isn't there! At least give us an idea what to expect. Including what should/shouldn't happen so we can be prepared x x

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Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 08:57

@TellOrNot1981 so sorry, what an awful time. I'm only a message away x x

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TellOrNot1981 · 24/02/2022 11:29

Thanks @Claire73698. I was actually going for a scan because sadly my circumstances mean that another baby wouldn’t be an option so I was going to have an abortion. So it sounds awful but in a way I’m relieved it wasn’t viable as I don’t have to live with any guilt now. I wouldn’t have known anything was wrong until I went for the scan, although I’d been noticing for a couple of days that I didn’t feel pregnant anymore, I’d been aware of it the whole time and that feeling had gone.

Last night I had a couple of hours of terrible contraction type pains, but I haven’t started bleeding. I am booked in on Monday to have surgery so I’m hoping I don’t start bleeding before then as last time I had a miscarriage it went on for ages and really knocked me for six. Sorry you are going through this.

Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 11:34

@TellOrNot1981 you have to do what is best for you. I was so unsure at first I will be honest, but I was willing to go with it and hoping everything would be ok at my first scan. Some things probably do happen for a reason x x

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Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 11:44

@TellOrNot1981 how long did your last one go on for? I've no idea what to expect and how long the bleeding will last x x

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TellOrNot1981 · 24/02/2022 12:54

@Claire73698 it was a couple of weeks in the end. I actually started a thread about the whole thing back then under a different username. Here’s a link:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1866769-Am-I-miscarrying

That one was earlier, I was only 6 weeks when I started bleeding. I’m 8 weeks today now and I know from the scan that the baby has died but otherwise there’s no bleeding and just that pain last night. So I’m worried it will be worse this time.

Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 12:56

@TellOrNot1981 thank you I'll have a look at that now x x

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Bumble44 · 24/02/2022 13:13

@Claire73698 awful isn't it! I still feel really let down by everyone I saw at the hospital, the sonographer was useless and made me feel like I was an inconvenience to her, she literally said you've probably got your dates wrong there's no way you're 10 weeks but nothing else, even though I said that I definitely was she shut me off and seemed to just want me out. I sat and googled everything, which I know isn't ideal even at the best of times, but that's the only way I found out what I was experiencing.

@Luuuce I think the not knowing what to expect is the hardest. I'm back at the EPU tomorrow for a scan (9 days since I went last) which seems pointless because I know it's over now but I've written a list of questions and told myself I'm not leaving until they're answered. I'll let you know if I find anything out, I'm mainly asking about what happens now after miscarriage.

Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 13:34

I've rang my doctors today and have a GP ringing me at some point today x x

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Claire73698 · 24/02/2022 13:37

@Bumble44 how ridiculous to be treat like that and questioned about how far you are! Not a good experience at all x x

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Luuuce · 28/02/2022 14:29

I went for my scan this morning, it has been confirmed as a miscarriage, still no heartbeat and she said the baby has already started to come away, heartbroken.
Hope everyone is well Thanks

Claire73698 · 28/02/2022 14:44

@Luuuce so sorry to hear that. I've been for my scan this morning and she said they don't usually scan you after a miscarriage. She did scan me and could see where the sac had been and she could see a fibroid I have and a cyst on one of my ovaries but she said they are small. She done a pregnancy test and it had a second faint line, she asked me to do another one in two weeks time to check again x x

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