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2nd m/c

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belgo · 30/12/2007 12:02

Hi,

I've just had a second m/c, this time at six weeks. Last July I m/cd at 7 weeks, and although everything happened naturally, I still had a scan to make sure everything was ok, and it was.

This time, the m/c is clearly at an earlier stage, and also seems to have happened naturally, and my question is, do I need a scan this time?

I am fortunate enough to have two children; I just wish I didn't want a third baby so much

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orangehead · 30/12/2007 12:05

Im so sorry for your loss. Have you been to the hosp? I would probably say yes just to make sure everything has come away, because even if just a bit is left it can lead to infection. Sending you hugs

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belgo · 30/12/2007 12:06

thanks orangehead. I had a scan yesterday as I started bleeding, and they didn't see much, except a small embryo sac, measurig 4-5 weeks. I really don't want to have another scan, but I suppose I will if I have to.

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justjules · 30/12/2007 12:07

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RBH · 30/12/2007 12:11

So sorry Belgo. When I had my 2nd m/c I was told that it is best to go for a scan after a week or so even if everything seems to have happened naturally. It is just to check that there is nothing left as that could cause an infection. I also found it helped in a weird way as it gave me some sort of closure if that makes sense.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 30/12/2007 12:12

I don't have any experience, I just wanted to say how sorry I am xx

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belgo · 30/12/2007 12:16

thanks evrone, I could do with the hugs as dh has become very withdrawn.

RBH - I remember that sense of closure after my first m/c when they told me everything had happened naturally, and that I could start trying again.

But the scan itself itself very nice.

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belgo · 30/12/2007 12:16

'But the scan itself itself very nice.'

I mean:

But the scan itself isn't very nice.

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beroWHEEEEEEEEna · 30/12/2007 13:02

oh belgo. I'm so sorry.

It's hideous, I know from bitter personal experience; but it really is best to have the scan, as retained stuff (sorry, really don't know how else to put it) can cause infection and also continue producing hcG, meaning it will be longer before you can try again.

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belgo · 30/12/2007 13:12

bero, thank you. I can get a scan fairly easily where I live, so will do that this week.

I just feel so numb, as if nothing has happened.

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beroWHEEEEEEEEna · 30/12/2007 13:18

That's the b*gger (one of the many) with mc, isn't it? Such a real but intangible loss.

expatinscotland · 30/12/2007 13:21

Oh, belgo!

Big (((HUGS))) to you.

I'm so sorry.

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belgo · 30/12/2007 13:21

I've just spoken to my mum, it turns out she probably m/c before I was born, but this was more then thirty years ago before home pregnancy tests, so she never knew for certain.

I don't know which is worse, knowing that you've lost something, or just suspecting you have.

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belgo · 30/12/2007 13:22

thank you expat, the hugs are appreciated

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DavidTennantsMistress · 30/12/2007 13:24

(((hugs)))) oh honney i'm so sorry for your loss again. with my last M/C apparently baby had died at 6+ weeks it took 2 weeks form passing everyhting for the tests to be a neg. we then had a scan to make sure everyhting had gone - I prefered it that way gave me some sort of closure if that makes sence.

munz/pipsqueeze

expatinscotland · 30/12/2007 13:24

I just wish this didn't have to happen so often to people

whoops · 30/12/2007 13:25

{{{HUGS}}} Belgo
Sorry to hear you're going through this again

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belgo · 30/12/2007 13:30

thank you again.

My children are a comfort, but the yearning for a third baby is incredible.

I thought I was going to explode with grief last night, but today I haven't shed a tear.

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dingdongbelgianbunsonhigh · 30/12/2007 16:22

Oh b*gger belgo - that is horrible news. No real advice but take care of you. {hugs}

Here's hoping 2008 is your year.
bb xx

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belgo · 30/12/2007 16:32

thanks bb - I hope 2008 is your year as well

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belgo · 03/01/2008 09:22

I'm not doing so well today. Very tired, still in pain, and I just want this all to be over.

My emotions are catching up with me but I'm just about holding it together.

MIL will be here later to take the girls so I can go back to bed.

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Gumbo · 03/01/2008 09:47

So sorry to hear this Belgo.

I had a m/c in August (7 wks), then another in November (8 wks), so I have an inkling as to how you're feeling. I have 1 dc and would love another, but am now having to face the reality that this may not happen, which is terribly painful.

Take time to care for yourself and grieve. And your DH will need to do the same - more so than he may think now...

kindersurprise · 03/01/2008 09:51

So sorry to read this Belgo. I have been through the same, before I had my DCs and I can remember the grief and the pain.

((hugs))

berolina · 03/01/2008 09:52

belgo

thinking of you

FoghornLeghorn · 03/01/2008 09:57

Sorry you are feeling so awful Belgo you have been such a help to me over the last few days.
I agree a scan would definitely be best to ensure you don't an infection (although I have no experience whatsoever)

Jackstini · 03/01/2008 10:02

So sorry to hear this Belgo. Like Gumbo I had 2 last year (Aug & Nov) and remember you from the mc threads.
Just because you have 2 dc's doesn't mean you won't mourn the loss of this one or desperately want another, you just want to be a Mum to more and that is a lovely thing.
I hope you can get a further scan this week to get some closure. When you are feeling ready I might see you on the ttc threads
(iirc you were like me after your first mc & needed to get straight back on to trying)
(((((HUGS))))) and much good luck for next time xx