Missed miscarriage

[doodledeedum]

I'm at home recovering from a medical miscarriage after having missed miscarriage. I feel like I'm the only person living through this real time. Like I'm looking at myself from above. The grief comes in waves and I feel so alone

Hi @doodledeedum yes it really has been a roller coaster and it's not one I wish on anyone either I feel your pain I really do sometimes I feel numb others it hits me in waves. It's so hard to control I just want answers and to know if I can or can't carry children. The unknown is the worse!
You are definitely not alone it may feel like it but none of us are alone in this.

I really hope you get all the answers you need and succeed too! Im the same I really want to trust my body too but me and my other half have decided to take a break for a while and once we know what is wrong we can go from there. Please message me too if you need to talk.

Thank you xxxxx

Thanks @vikki414

Update: my doctor called me yesterday to discuss the blood results.
Nothing concerning was found, blood clotting was looked at, thyroid and liver and all was fine.
Only thing was I am mildly anemic - but was also the same after first MMC, so this could from blood loss I had, to confirm this il be having blood tests in two months.

Dr ( different to the one I requested the tests from) said he won't be sending me for an ultrasound as the one I had whilst MC inficated my uterus was a good size and shape, nothing on ovaries suggesting that had anything to do with MCs.

So I'm kind of back to square one.....

Do I get the reports from Drs and go privately... is it likely they would find anything different or be more 'thorough'?
I mean from what I could see the testing I had via NHS was quite thorough....

I'm not sure what to do now... I feel to try again is a 'gamble' and I don't want to just to get to 3 and get more tests..... ( sound callous but it's how I feel it sounds when I'm spoken to about further tests) .... it's still my possible baby what ever happens and I want to know I've done everything I possibly can to help the process before I try again.

I've looked in to aspirin taking and will likely take it this time round ( if i do go for it ) as nothing to suggest it could have a negative impact .... any opinions on this??

@doodledeedum

I think going private will cost a lot of money, what have the NHS advised so far? Will they keep an eye on you if you decide to try again?

I can understand the frustration but at least you know you have a good environment for a baby, I was reading this morning those who have had 3 or more MCs still go on to have healthy babies so I really do have my fingers crossed for you! I have a little more hope today but I will still be very cautious if we try again.

You need to do what you feel is right for you, privately they may be able to do more thorough tests because the NHS are limited by funds so they may not be able to do as many tests.

I've looked into the aspirin side too but we're not going to do anything yet until we have spoken to someone.

Xxx

@vikki414 sorry to hear about your experience. I too haemorrhaged following a mmc and medical management, however I was at home and if it wasn't for the quick thinking of my partner, I wouldn't be here.
I haemorrhaged so quickly I passed out in the bathroom and basically never fully regained consciousness during the whole thing. My partner got me to A&E but I'd already lost a huge amount of blood so they had to cross match me there and then.
I was then rushed into emergency surgery and given 2 blood transfusions.

That was my 3rd loss (2nd this year) so I'm now waiting for a referral. How long did you have to wait @doodledeedum?

I never had any investigations after 2 mc but they have sent tissue from the last one off for tests. I just don't know how long I should wait for results. My GP is useless (they were surprised my scan showed a mmc because they thought I was over 24 weeks - all because a GP didn't read I'd mc the previous one and was pg again and having a dating scan 🙄...)

Just feel very lost and empty (if that makes sense?)

@SareBear87 hi, so sorry I didn't see this.
I called the GP in the second week after the MMC and had a phone consultation and blood tests the week after, so sorry for your losses and your experience
I'm glad my partner made me go
To the hospital now after reading what's happened for you. So scary:(

How is everyone doing? X