What do I do? Do I call my doctor?

[xTinkerbell]

5&4 yesterday. Evening time I went to toilet and there was blood on my underwear. Wiped and there was quite a lot of bright red blood. After that spotting for an hour or so and nothing g since.

No pain but I feel quite sure it’s a miscarriage. This pregnancy just felt different from my first from the beginning and I had a gut feeling (maybe sounds stupid).

Anyway, do I call anyone or wait this out?

I would probably call a doctor and maybe they will refer you to an EPU. At least then you know what's going on sooner rather than waiting it out.

Fingers crossed it's all ok for you!

EPU have said it’s a wait and see situation. Take another pregnancy test in a week and if it’s still positive to go to my routine appointments.

My scan isn’t until the 18th of June, seems a horribly long time to wait and wonder.

Hi @xTinkerbell

I'm not going to be much help but I wanted to let you know you aren't alone I too am experiencing the same. I've had a mixture of pink/brown/beige and small red clots since Monday. I went to the EPU today for a scan, I'm supposed to be 7 weeks and they couldn't see a heartbeat. I'm now waiting a week for another scan to see if my dates are mixed up, I know I haven't.....it's over for me. It's cruel I have to wait a week and at the moment my body is behaving like I'm expecting. So sad.

I really don't want to cause you sadness or make you feel worse. Just wanted to let you know I too feel helpless anxious and sad. I hope you're outcome is better than mine x

Hi op I'm in the same situation. I had spotting a few days ago only once in wiping but was red. Nothing since. I have been told to watch and wait also. I am 7 weeks on Monday and have booked a private scan to check.

@HPmagic I’m sorry you’re going through this too. Let me know how you get on with your scan. EPU told me to test a week after the bleeding so that’s Thursday, so I’ll do that and if still positive I think I’ll book a private scan too.

@xTinkerbell

My scan went well, heartbeat seen and could not find reason for bleeding. Hope things turn out ok for you

@HPmagic I’m so happy for you! Glad everything is okay.

Our stories were a little similar so hopefully mine turns out okay but I’ve resigned myself to miscarriage being very possible and I’m okay whatever happens. I’d just like to know for sure now.

It is so stressful isn't it, I'm 7+3 and probably more anxious after a previous mmc anyway.
I just woke up yesterday feeling like it was all over, like the baby had gone, then an hour later I started with brown jellyish stuff that's been on and off yesterday and today. I feel sure it's all over 😪 just impossible to tell without a scan and they are hard to come by. It doesn't seem fair to have to just wait it out, does it?

@Justkeepswimming10 it’s so hard isn’t it? I’m staying off work atm but my days are so long! I feel like it’s all over too but the uncertainty is killing me. I’m going to test again tomorrow then book a private scan if still showing positive.

I hope you’re doing okay

It really is so hard... I was referred to epu yesterday but they've now closed for today and I didn't get a call so its more waiting over here too...

I was just going to ask how people cope with work while waiting, I just did a few urgent bits today but otherwise didn't work hardly at all yesterday and I've stopped now today. My brain just can't take anything in! Feel exhausted so had a small walk yesterday but otherwise just getting square eyes over here, lots of films!

I think private scans are a good idea, wishing in a way i had just gone down that route as would have more control over whats going on rather than just waiting for a phone call...Good luck for tomorrow x

@Justkeepswimming10 It's very hard to concentrate. I am 7+5 and had a scan last week and have to wait until this week for the follow up scan.

I go through phases of being very productive to just being very still, it's a rollercoaster but what will be will be. If you are finding work difficult and you need some time, call in sick if you need to. I've kept working as I've found it to be a good distraction.

Good Luck for tomorrow, try not to think the worst. I hope you get good news x

Definitely no right or wrong when it comes to work. I’m a teacher so I just feel like I wouldn’t be able to do my job effectively with my head in this current frame of mind. Maybe if I did something different, I’d feel differently.

Hope you hear from the EPU tomorrow @Justkeepswimming10. I’ll update when I test tomorrow but I won’t know either way till I get to a scan.

The days are just so long.

@SomeoneSomewhere1219 I hope things go well at the follow up scan.

Definitely agree it’s a rollercoaster. I’m very much of the same opinion, what will be will be and I’ve reached acceptance with either scenario. I just think it will feel better one way or another once I know.

Good luck at your follow up scan @SomeoneSomewhere1219 that must have been a hard week's wait for you - do you have the next one booked in? I know what you mean about your body not realising what's going on, when i had my mmc i really lost faith in any instincts i thought I had. I think that's why now I just can't be positive or negative as realise the outcome will not change i just have to wait it out.

@xTinkerbell good luck with your test and follow up scan, will you be able to get an early one?

Will be thinking of you both and although wishing none of us were in this limbo, am appreciative of having some company here x

@xTinkerbell Good luck today, I'm hoping for positive news.

@Justkeepswimming10 Yes I was booked in for another scan last week. I starting bleeding a little on Monday 26th it stopped. Waiting until Friday 1st was hard but I had hope it was ok.. At the scan I was 7w and no heartbeat was found. They booked me in for a scan this Friday in case I've got my dates wrong (I haven't). I had a wobble the evening after the scan but I've now accepted I will miscarry. My body is still to recognise this and I have all pregnancy symptoms which is cruel, it's the hardest thing to cope with. I had bleeding again on Monday, when I saw it I was relieved as thought it was going to be over, but it stopped. Now I have to have the scan to confirm it is over and medication to help me pass it. I do go through phases of thinking it might be ok but the cramps, the bleeding and date mix up seems too far fetched.

I'm still hopeful for you girls as so many pregnancies have hiccups in the first trimester and are fine. It's a shame you haven't had the support of the EPU. Keep me updated

Today’s test is a tiny bit fainter than the last one I took but no idea if there’s anything in that. Tried to upload a picture but it won’t work.

I can’t take much more of this tbh. I just want to know one way or the other

Another try

@xTinkerbell what have you been told to do after the tests?

I had a mc previously and within a couple of days the test I did was remarkably fainter than the one previous. Like a huge difference in them as the line was barely there.

Sometimes they can be slightly fainter and everything be fine. Is the top one the most recent in that pic? Still a strong line tbh. I hope they decide to give you a scan so you don't have to carry on in this limbo!

Also remember the previous test maybe darker as it has completely dried out

Both look strong to me @xTinkerbell

@bages1977 nope I was told if still positive just to wait till my routine appointments but I think I’ll book a private scan but I’ll probably retest in a few days as well.

Yeah top one is today’s test. I did think it was still a strong line just it being a little lighter than the other one made me wonder. I’m searching for clues either way at this point. That’s a valid point about the other test being completely dried out though. I didn’t think of that

@xTinkerbell it's really bad that they have made you wait a week and not offered you a scan. I'd definitely look into getting a private one.

Yeah tests always look quite a bit darker once they're fully dried. I think your line is still really strong and like I said, when I had a mc the line was barely visible just a couple of days after the bleeding had started. It had completely gone within a week.

I've got everything crossed for you 🤞 Hope you manage to sort a scan out

I'm so sorry that you are going through this, it really is the worst type of limbo.

If it helps, I've been through this, and had all the possible outcomes.

1. Positive test, bleeding like a period at 5w 3d, completely negative test 1 week later.

1. Brown bleeding started at 11w and 5d, told at 12w scan that baby's heart at stopped at 9w. Bleeding became very heavy and red, once I knew that baby had passed away, before I had a ERPC.

1. Brownish muck at 7w 4d, had a scan the next day, to be told that there was only a sac visible, not fetal pole or heart beat. It was suggested that I had my dates wrong (they weren't), and I had to go back for another scan in 1 week. That scan showed a larger sac, but still no fetal pole or heart beat. Carried on bleeding, final scan at 9w and 4d, again, still a (large) empty sac. Another ERPC.

1. Massive red bleed at work at 6w 4d. Emergency scan the next day couldn't even show a sac, just "an area of fluid consistent with an early pregnancy (4-5w). I truly thought that this was another miscarriage. A scan a week later, showed a baby and a heart beat, still showing small, but alive, with a subchorionic haematoma that had bled out, and another one lurking. In a follow up scan, baby caught up to the expected size and dates. We had some problems in the third trimester, and DS was born prematurely (34w, but nearly arrived at 26w). However, he is currently attempting to chew everything he can get his pudgy little hands on! Turns out there was a problem with the formation of the placenta.

I also have DD, who was a bleed free pregnancy (between 1 and 2). So feel like I've managed most of the possible outcomes. Honestly, I felt the same symptom wise for almost all of the pregnancies, the bleeding was different, but the waiting was horrendous.

I hope you all get a positive outcome.

One of the doctors said to me that despite all of the medical advances that have been made, if a first trimester pregnancy is going to miscarry, there is no force, or doctor on Earth that can stop it.

I know where the ashes of my lost babies were scattered, and I go and visit sometimes. And I remember that if they had survived, so wouldn't have had my cheeky, smiley little terror that is DS. They are like the ultraviolet at the bottom of the rainbow. Can't see it, but it's there all the same.

@Vebrithien Can I ask what a ERPC is? Number 3 is what I'm currently going through. You're a very strong lady to overcome that, I'm so pleased you have your baby now

@xTinkerbell I wouldn't have a clue about pg tests, didn't know the faintness of a line made a difference? They both look positive to me. I hope you can book a scan soon, the waiting is so exhausting, you're doing really well xx

I had a really stressful morning discovering that EPU didn't have my referral, GP sent another but then EPU haven't been picking up the phone so neither of us could check if the latest referral went through...honestly nearly lost it...anyway scoured the Internet for any private scans and just taken a 3 hour round trip for the last appointment I could find anywhere - it was good news in the end, I was shocked, a strong heartbeat and the right measurements for 7weeks. So a big relief for now but certainly not counting my chickens as know how quickly things can change. It has given me an answer and that is what I desperately needed either way - I hope you all get answers soon too xx

@SomeoneSomewhere1219 I'm so sorry, it all sounds very rough for you and very familiar, I found the wait between scans tough and if I'm honest I was in denial which made things a lot worse as I had convinced myself that somehow thinking positively would make everything OK - I learned a lot from that experience. The continued pg symptoms are just so cruel aren't they, I lost a lot of trust in my body after that. I hope you get an answer tomorrow, let us know, I'll be thinking of you xx

@Vebrithien you've been through a lot - such a helpful post thank you for sharing it. And I love the ultraviolet part of the rainbow - beautiful thought, I have a little wooden star engraved with a special quote and I still touch it most days just to help with some sort of connection with the baby I lost from mmc 🌈