No heartbeat at 9 weeks after 2 successful heartbeats in 6 and 8 weeks can

[Mummybmari]

I previously had 2 mc one was suddenly active misscarriage where I bled out second was a missed misscarriage which I did not want to believe scanned again 7/8/9 weeks and then had smm

3rd pregnancy was my rainbow baby girl who is now almost 2

Got pregnant again in December 2020

So excited elated over the moon being extra careful got my appointment booked with my gp and early pregnancy unit so they could check if it is a viable pregnancy due to covid my husband want allowed

January went for my first scan I was suppose to be 6 weeks 3 days I haven’t kept any hope due to my previous experience didn’t want to have hope as I just wanted to mentally prepare myself for bad news

I measured at 5+6 and the baby had a strong heart beat just like my girl I was so happy as my baby was going to make it as none of my previous pregnancies had heart beat
Hope built up
They put me scans every 2 weeks (still cautious)

Second scan was 8+3 baby measured at 7+6 and string heart beat again over the moon built hope excitement plans everything came into play this is the point you think your now in the 1% what could possibly happen I’m going to be ok

This scan was on a Friday

Me and my husband were due to celebrate our anniversary in the Tuesday so I thought what better way to gift him then take him for a private ultrasound so he could see his baby

My husband is a very hands on dad absolutely amazing father to our almost 2 years old does everything for her

Went to the appointment I am suppose to be 9 weeks according to my dates and the lady had me drink lots of fluid and she starting scanning and she stopped and said empty your bladder I need a closer look with a internal scan which I found very shocking and weird as my friend had her 9 week scan as an ultrasound she went for internal and she stayed quiet measuring I could see the big screen im use to seeing this I can’t see what I’m looking for immediately I say to her “you’re scaring me “ she turned around and said “ I’m sorry there is no heart beat “

My heart sank into my stomach I couldn’t believe it how Isit possible that Friday there was a heartbeat and Tuesday it’s gone completely vanished

Turned into the worst day ever of my life

I cried sobbed went straight to the hospital they confirmed the same news and gave me my options which I again went for the surgical management as the medical way was only going to cause more trauma

I don’t know of anyone having experienced this

Was it caused by stress? by something I did? can anyone give me any insight to why I haven’t found many articles as to why this happens or many people that it has happened to so please shed some light if you have or any explanation or just your experience

Thank you

Also when they confirmed no heartbeat they said baby measured 8+2 meaning I lost the baby over the weekend and on Sunday night I experienced chest pain like a pulsing pulling chest slight pain from my chest upto my neck lasted about 30 mins was that the point abs my body telling me my baby is loosing it’s heart beat

I am sorry this has happened. It was nothing that you did wrong, it just happens. As frustrating and sad as that is - the chances of miscarriage after the heartbeat is seen is said to be 4% or so. It goes down to 1-2% after 12 completed weeks of pregnancy. Sadly somebody needs to be in those percentages and it happens to a lot of women. It doesn’t make it any easier for you but you do not need to feel guilty about this, as it is entirely out of your hands. Frustratingly there are rarely answers as to why, maybe once day we will know. I didn’t get any answers for my losses either and all of them were between 13-20 weeks, so after heartbeats seen. It is he a breaking but please do not feel guilty.

I am sorry for your loss.

Have you ever been offered tests to see if there’s a reason behind the miscarriages? Usually women who have had 3 miscarriages do get further testing for any issues that might be causing them

I had the same. Scans were fine at 6 weeks, 8 weeks and then at 10+3 there was no heartbeat. I'm so sorry, OP, it's horrible.

I had a similar experience - scan at 10 weeks was completely perfect, strong heartbeat, waving etc. 12 week scan - no heartbeat, baby had died at 11 weeks.

I know it is devastating. It was nothing you did. Miscarriage happens for a whole load of reasons, 99.9% are nothing to do with mum's actions. You did not cause this.

Now that you have had 3 miscarriages, you can ask for NHS testing about the reasons why. This is because after 3 they are slightly more likely to be linked in some way. However, keep in mind that even this testing mostly finds no reason.

I’m so sorry for your loss that sounds so bad ! They only do testing for 3 consecutive losses as I had a baby in between they don’t do any testing hoping to get over this soon and try again

OMG HOW DID YOU COPE THIS SOUNDS DEVASTATING! You are a very strong woman don’t give up keep trying I can’t imagine what your going through

I should have been 9+4 today. Had a private early scan at 7 weeks was dated 7+1 and saw a heartbeat which she said was perfect at 144bpm (I think). I've been very sick with HG, even to the point last week was prob my worst week I even called my GP to try me on different meds as my current were doing nothing I was still throwing up 6-15 times a day on them. Anyway this weekend it's just disappeared and I felt normal, no nausea or anything so today I freaked out, called midwife unit, called round all the early scan places and finally managed to get a private scan this afternoon. They were rubbish, didn't let my DP in, she did abdominal for ages said nothing, told me she needed to do internal and I had to go pee, then ages into an internal she said there was no HB and it was only measuring 7+1. She kept scanning me for ages even as I'm lying there hysterically crying when I just wanted to leave and get to my DP. It was honestly the most awful experience of my life. I immediately phoned my midwife unit and they've got me in for a scan on Wednesday to confirm. But in my heart I know there's no hope as there was no HB. I just keep thinking HOW has my baby died the same day I got a scan and saw a HB (that scan was abdominal and clear as day!! Different private clinic from today's). How can this be happening, after seeing a HB and an exact measurement I really thought it would be ok. This was my first ever pregnancy. And I've been so so so sick the last 9 weeks. It just seems so cruel. So cruel of my body that last week I was practically in bed the whole week and constant throwing up and my baby was dead? How can it be? It was awful and I want a baby so badly, but now I have to put myself through all that again from the start. We always wanted two but I was so sick I said to DP would you be sad if we just had the one - i was that unwell. I just don't know how I can do it. Can my body even do it? Was it because I was so sick and couldn't eat? I lost over 9lbs since falling pregnant and I was a healthy bmi before anyways so I'm quite small. Can anyone help with what to expect? I don't want to go to work - can I call in sick? My manager and the office manager both know I was pregnant I told them after 1st scan as I was so sick. Snuck downstairs to be on my own, crying into the born in 2021 baby grow I bought knowing that there will now never be a little one in it and I won't be a mum in 2021. Baby was due on my birthday too. Part of me just wishes I would die with my baby.

Hi there everyone,
We're so very sorry to hear about the loss of your little ones. Sadly so many of us know the pain of going from hope and anticipation to such deep sadness.
We wanted to just flag this link on here and of course to the wonderful Tommy's.
It's good that you have somewhere like this to express yourselves - sisterhood is wonderful really.

Sorry for jumping on this @Mummybmari I hope that you're starting the healing process and things are starting to brighten up again for you x

Your story is matching mine almost perfectly. I had an NHS scan at 6 weeks. Then I private scan 8+2 and during both of these the heartbeat was fine and baby was growing right. Then Saturday the bleeding started and yesterday I cried until I got a scan because I go knew. The woman taking the scan confirmed there was no heartbeat. This is my 3rd confirmed MC and likely my 4th between 2020 and 2021.

@justwant2beamum you've just broken my heart, hun! Especially since it seems like it happened to us on the same day. I really hope this morning a little easier for you 💕 please if you're feeling like you can't cope please phone the midwives and ask for grief support. I've been given a contact number to arrange and session if and when I need it x

I phoned my GP for sickline and he's given me one for a week with just a general illness written on it as I don't want work to know. Yesterday was easily the worst day of my life and I keep asking myself what I did wrong. It's not okay for us to be torturing ourselves like this. I really hope you're feeling a bit better today x

After many miscarriages, I had appointments with the reoccurring miscarriage specialist clinic who could not give me answers as they say that they do not know why up to 80% of miscarriages occur. I recall that it is 3 consecutive miscarriages that triggers a referral.
There is no explanations, it just happens.
Devastating as it is.
I absolutely refuse to believe that there is anything that I did to cause any of mine.
I did absolutely EVERYTHING I could do with each of them to ensure I was healthy, living a healthy life and yet it still happened.
I would be in utter utter torture otherwise.
I cannot have that as I had another child to give my all to.
I was upset, absolutely devastated but had to make life normal for him, so I did. I grieved, then got on with life, but that’s what I do. I had to do.
Good luck for the future.

@Mummybmari, I’m sooooo sorry about your loss ! I know it’s hurts soo bloody much ! I have had 5 early losses and still no baby ! No causes found by nhs . I am in the worst situation ! Just remember you are sooo lucky to have your daughter ! She is a blessing to you especially after having problems losing pregnancy’s . Life is so unfair and just remember you had one baby so you have high chance of having another successful pregnancy in the future , good luck xxxx

Sorry I know this is an old post I had a scan at 6 weeks and 7 weeks with heartbeat and at 9 weeks they said there is no heartbeat. I blame myself for not asking for another scan to confirm no heartbeat as I'm now thinking sometimes they get it wrong x

Dear OP, I am so very sorry - it is heartbreaking news. I hope you have a lot of support around you.

Exactly the same thing happened to me two weeks ago: we had seen a heartbeat at 6 and 8 weeks, then at our 10-week scan, we were told baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks and heartbeat had stopped. I had to take tablets for this miscarriage (have only taken them once before - the others were all natural).

I had also had five miscarriages prior to that (so this is my sixth), as well as one living child. We are going to see Dr Shehata at the end of the month in Epsom, since all our tests on the Cork Public Health system came back normal after our 5th loss, 18 months ago. Getting no real answers makes everything even more difficult. I wish you answers and that you eventually get to have your next child.

Sorry I know this is an old post I had a scan at 6 weeks and 7 weeks with heartbeat and at 9 weeks they said there is no heartbeat. I blame myself for not asking for another scan to confirm no heartbeat as I'm now thinking sometimes they get it wrong x

Did you get a second opinion for a scan xx