Still struggling 8 weeks on...

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Had a MMC and DandC on December 13th. I was 12 weeks. First pregnancy, very much wanted.

Maybe I'm putting too much pressure on myself. I'm back at work full time but today has just got to me and I've come back to bed, which I never do. I just feel so sad. Three friends have announced pregnancies in that time and while I'm happy for them they hit me in the gut. I have four stepchildren who I care for dearly, just adds another whole dimension to things.

I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself I think, I should be over it by now.

Does anyone have any advice? I still feel so empty and sad sometimes.

Hi lovely, I’m so sorry to hear you’re feeling awful still. I just wanted to let you know I think it’s completely normal and please don’t be hard on yourself. Every pregnancy announcement I see (and there seems to be MILLIONS) is like a dagger in my heart. You absolutely shouldn’t be ‘over it’. I also lost my first pregnancy, had an ERPC on Jan 12th and struggling to distract myself with anything else. Please come on over to our lovely supportive thread where there are lots of us who have all been through miscarriages in the last month/2 months all helping each other through it. I find talking to others in the same situation really helps. Please don’t struggle through alone xxx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/4139555-Support-thread-for-those-experiencing-or-recently-experienced-a-MC-MMC-Thread-2-ALL-welcome

Three friends have announced pregnancies in that time and while I'm happy for them they hit me in the gut.

There’s an unwritten rule that any miscarriage a woman suffers increases her close friends’ fertility tenfold OP. I’m sorry but it’s true!

More seriously - it’s early days and how you’re feeling is absolutely as expected. Time may help, and reaching out to talk to people irl and on here, and just keeping in tune with how you’re feeling. It will get better

I went through the same last year - loss, was totally fine until someone I wasn’t even close to announced that she was expecting around the time I’d have been due. I’m just about over it a year later. It was incredibly difficult at times.