Missed miscarriage stories

[HitsAndMrs]

I have had two inconclusive scans now. One when I should be 8 weeks, embryo measured at 6.2 no HB detected and one at the hospital at 8.5 weeks, gestational sac seen measuring 6.6 but no embryo seen.

I have to wait two weeks for another scan. I still have pregnancy symptoms, very nauseous. I don't know what to think. Can anyone give me any stories, good or bad. Thank you.

@Cordial11 this sounds very similar to me, although I would have been further along, I had a scan at what should have been 10 weeks on the 23rd dec, the sac was empty, I wrecked my brian with working out dates as I knew they couldn't be wrong but desperately wanted them to be, I also had no bleeding or cramps, had it confirmed on the 29th dec that it was empty and that I would miscarry, didn't start bleeding until the 1st Jan and still bleeding now, only slightly now tho but it had been extremely heavy, it is awful being in limbo like u are now, and not knowing is awful, I have my fingers crossed for u that its been just too early to see anything and that everything is okay when u get scanned again, but just know that u are not alone, xo

@cordial11 I really hope your scan goes okay today. They wouldn't give me another scan for 2 weeks.

I feel so detached now, I just want it to be over so I can move on.

@HitsAndMrs sorry it's next Thursday , first was last Tuesday. So still a wait 😢

That's exactly how I feel... detached ... I kind of look down ever time on the toilet expecting blood but then kind of hoping it just starts and saves me the heart break of another scan then d&c in Godknows how many more days !

Oh my favorite (NOT ) thing someone said today... 'everything happens for a reason'

I've not been dumped or failed a job interview ! God sake

Exactly the same @cordial11. I know it must have gone but then I fele sick and think how can it be?!

I feel stuck.. can't enjoy all the things like normal(wine mostly!) just in case but can't enjoy being pregnant.

I am just wishing the days away until I have an answer or just hoping I start to bleed so it is over with.

So grateful to have stumbled upon this thread. After seeing a strong heartbeat at 7 weeks sadly at our 9 week private scan on Thursday we were told the baby had died and a missed miscarriage diagnosed. Told the baby had likely died at 7w5days. The last few days have been a complete blur, terrified to leave the house incase I start bleeding and just feel so trapped and broken. I've got an appointment this morning at the EPU at 11.40 for a scan to confirm and then discuss options. I know 100% I want a surgically managed miscarriage under full anaesthetic but terrified I'll be made to wait weeks, just wondering how long it took anyone else to get surgery? I think if it's any longer than a few days I'd want to try and go privately, just can't take anymore of this :(

@tamsin424 I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. It’s truly devastating to hear those words. I’ve had two missed miscarriages - one in 2018 and one again last week. I had surgical management both times and for me it was definitely the best option both from a physical and emotional perspective. I never felt strong enough to go down the natural or medical management route. Normally the wait list is quite short but you do have to have a negative Covid swab test and isolate for 72 hours before the procedure. Therefore they should swab you today with a view to carrying it out towards the end of the week. I’m in London but I imagine that’s the general rule across most nhs trusts and I know it’s the same for private. I hope that helps xx ps I was bleeding quite heavily this time around and still made it to the procedure several days later without anything passing at home. It can often take a long time to complete by itself so try not to worry that you’re racing against the clock xx

@SuzieDeLaTour thank you so much for your reply. I think the ticking clock is what's really been making me panic so you've really reassured me. I hadn't even considered that I'd need a negative covid swab but that makes a lot of sense. I really hope the surgery can be done later this week.

@tamsin424 I always panicked too - constantly going to the toilet checking what was happening but rest assured that for a lot of women you can bleed a great deal and still not pass the baby at home. I think the hospital told me that three quarters of women take 1-2 weeks to miscarry naturally. This time I found out at 10+2 and the baby had stopped growing at 8+4. I was 10+5 by the time I had my op so over two weeks later. The surgical procedure was very straightforward and painless. It’s good you’ve joined the other thread - we’ve pretty much covered every eventuality on there so will have answers to all your Qs! X

@tamzin242 Sorry to hear this, hope you're okay.
I was initially told baby stopped growing at 6.2. I am now almost 10 weeks and nothing has happened. I thought it was starting as I had cramps but then they stopped. I have another week to go until my next scan.

Hi @HitsAndMrs I'm really sorry that you're going through this.

After a good heartbeat at 7 weeks I found out at 9 weeks that there was no longer a heartbeat. I opted to wait for a natural miscarriage - almost exclusively because I'm pretty afraid of general anaesthetic. It took two weeks before I started bleeding. I had two days of bleeding before I passed the tissue. It was really painful and ibuprofen didn't help but it was about 45 minutes of intense cramps - then I passed the gestational sac and the cramps rapidly subsided. My biggest issue was that my bathroom was really cold - so in addition to bad cramps I was also really shivering which caused me to panic a bit. So if anyone has opted for expectant management - please try to stay warm. Crank up the heat, get a hot water bottle or a blanket and take big deep breaths.

Thank you so much

I had surgery for a MMC under GA on 30/11.

We had a scan at 10wks which looked great - heartbeat and waving. Then at 12 week scan found baby had died at 11weeks.

Heartbroken, but surgery itself was painless and fast physical recovery. Crappest bit was having to isolate from my husband over the weekend before it as I was Covid19 tested prior to surgery.

Did take a long time for hormone to drop though - did not get a BFN until 7 weeks after procedure (hormone is what causes symptoms).

I'm so sorry you're in this position too @tamsin424

Mine stopped growing about 8+1 after scanning fine at 7+5. I found out at what would have been 10+6 and had medical management at 11+3 and there had been zero spotting. As others have said you can also bleed a lot and not necessarily pass the tissue.

I hope you get your surgery, sending love x