Missed miscarriage stories

[HitsAndMrs]

I have had two inconclusive scans now. One when I should be 8 weeks, embryo measured at 6.2 no HB detected and one at the hospital at 8.5 weeks, gestational sac seen measuring 6.6 but no embryo seen.

I have to wait two weeks for another scan. I still have pregnancy symptoms, very nauseous. I don't know what to think. Can anyone give me any stories, good or bad. Thank you.

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I’m sorry you’re going through this @HitsAndMrs. I haven’t got any advice, but didn’t want to read and run.
I had a MMC at 11 weeks and had to wait over the weekend for the confirmation scan.

I hope that you have a positive outcome and are able to keep yourself busy over the next couple of weeks. This forum was a great help to me & the miscarriage association. Hopefully someone will be along with an experience more similar to yours xx

I’m sorry you are going through this. It can be absolutely awful.
Mine is bad unfortunately, I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage at what should of been 6 weeks. Scan showed sack but no heartbeat. I developed hyperemesis and waited 2 weeks for another scan so should of been 8 weeks. Again no heartbeat seen and all the while I was getting sick up to 20 times a day. Finally after another scan at 10 weeks I had a D&C. So it definitely possible to have symptoms yet still have no heartbeat
Had another missed miscarriage discovered at the 12 week scan again no heartbeat and development showed heartbeat stopped at 10 weeks.

Thank you so much for your replies.

How awful that we can still have symptoms, I thought I might have a chance as I feel so ill.

To be honest, I wish I hadn't even had an early scan.
Would you have the D&C or the medication? I have 2 other children at home.

Hi had an MVA (which is survival, but awake) and that was the best decision for me. Procedure wasn’t as bad as i thought and was over quickly. Recovery was really quick and physically I was back to normal that evening.

I often read about people having medical then having to have surgical anyway. Don’t rush your decision and do what’s best for you. If they offer an MVA, it’s nowhere near as bad as it’s sounds and that’s the route I would go down again xx

Thank you! I think I would do that actually, as GA scares me.
Sorry to hear all your sad experiences.

@HitsAndMrs so sorry you’re going through this. I haven’t got any advice really, just an experience of MMC to share. I had a MMC last year, I found out at 12 week scan that development had stopped at 8 weeks. Conservative management was recommended so I was asked to wait for 2 weeks to see if I’d miscarry naturally. Nothing happened so after another scan that showed no change I was offered either medical or surgery. I chose medical at home and ended up trying that twice over the course of a few days as the first lot didn’t work. It was pretty painful and I spent most of the time either lying on the sofa, in bed, or on the toilet. Unfortunately the second lot didn’t work either so I ended up going in for surgery under general anaesthetic a few days later. That was very straightforward and painless, and I was in and out same day. The whole process took about 4 weeks. For me, in hindsight, I wish I’d gone straight for surgery when given the option as I felt like I was in limbo the whole time and I just wanted it over with so I could move on x

So so sorry you are going through this, the 2 week wait will be awful, my experience isn't a good one either. I had a 10 week scan and there was no embryo, it's called a blighted ovum, where there is a chromosome abnormality so the sac and placenta grow but no baby actually forms, I hope for u this is not the case, cause it's still early days so baby might be too small to see, I'm crossing my fingers that is what's happening to u, however with a blighted ovum like most miscarriage u still have the pregnancy symptoms, I still had all the symptoms up until around 9.5 weeks, so was totally shocked to find out there was no baby, and I just had to wait to miscarry the sac and placenta, I'm currently still in the process of this, been bleeding 13 days now, and had to go to hosp before of the blood loss, I opted for natural miscarriage, and if I could go back in time 2 weeks I was offered to have a procedure where its vacuumed out, not sure the name of it, but I def should have done it, all I can say is take it easy and I hope everything works out for u, keep us updated xox

Thank you both so much, your replies are very comforting just to know I'm not alone. I had to take some cyclizine today for the nausea. I wish I would just start to bleed now, the wait is horrible knowing the chances of a baby are very low and still feeling pregnant.

I can't help with the outcome but I'm in a very similar situation. Had a private abdominal scan and ultrasound tech couldn't see a baby just the yolk sac and gest sac. I then had an internal scan which found a baby but measuring 5 weeks with no heartbeat (would be too early to see anyway) but I should be 9 weeks tomorrow. I've got another scan next Tuesday but I'm just not getting my hopes up. No way I could've got my dates wrong unfortunately :(

I'm so sorry you're going through this @HitsAndMrs

I had a MMC at about 8 weeks, picked up at what should have been 10+6 with no symptoms at all. The littlie had a heartbeat at 7+5 so must have stopped growing shortly after. I still felt pregnant, symptoms are only just tailing off now three weeks later.

I'm currently waiting for the pessary to (hopefully) work at home, I would have been 11+3 today. Will let you know how it goes, I've got to say the midwives and consultant at the hospital today were so lovely it made things a bit easier.

I do hope it's a better outcome for you xx

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this @HitsAndMrs. The wait is so unbearable- being in limbo just makes you feel so much worse. I had a MMC in 2018 at 8 weeks. I went for an ERPC 48 hours later and I’m very glad I did. It was painless and in a strange sort of way offered me some closure. Unfortunately today I found out I’ve suffered another MMC - I should be 10w + 2 but the baby has no heartbeat and is measuring 8+4. I actually went in for a scan exactly two weeks ago at 8+2 because of a bleed (it was diagnosed as a hematoma and I was told wouldn’t affect the baby). I feel a bit sick knowing that I saw it’s lovely little heartbeat only for it to stop a couple of days later. I have opted for another ERPC but due to Covid I need to be swabbed 72 hours before so there’s a wait. I’m frightened that it will happen naturally at home as I’ve been bleeding since yesterday and it is getting heavier. I have three children and can’t bear the thought of them seeing me go through that! My thoughts are with you during this horrid time, know that whatever happens there will be lots of support for you xx

I chose natural as I didn’t want surgical during covid, and I’d had a bad experience before with medical. My symptoms started reducing after the scan so I also felt like my hormones/body had the message that it was over and would trigger the natural process. It was painful - much more than a period - but ok with strong painkillers and knowing it wouldn’t last a long time. I also read up a bit on hypnobirthing - some of those tips really helped. Deep breathing, trying to relax, trusting your body, not fighting it and so on.

I found out at 13+4 weeks the embryo hadn't developed further than 4/5 weeks but the sac continued to grow. I had to wait a week for a rescan. The staff were lovely but one did suggest perhaps I had miscarried, my body bad reabsorbed the pregnancy and now this could be the beginning of a new pregnancy. I knew that was never going to be the case but but by law they have to rescan a week later. I started to bleed a few days later (typical my body fools me to believe I have an almost 14 week fetus growing inside me and then decides to miscarry after the traumatising scan). I bled for a couple of days and passed massive clots the night before my scan but the scan showed the sac and embryo were still there so opted to be put to sleep and have it surgically removed. If I ever had to go through that again I would choose the same procedure. Sorry you are going through this

Thank you all so much, really helpful to hear.
So sorry you've had to go through this.

I am actually more scared of being put to sleep, I would rather be awake.

I feel the most nauseous I have felt this whole pregnancy. I was prescribed anti sickness meds at 5 weeks due to previous HG and today is the first time I've had to take them.

The embryo could be seen but then it couldn't be found 3 days later. This makes me think it can't be a blighted ovum but may have been reabsorbed?

I have had a few missed miscarriages. Always had the medical option at home. Pain bad but manageable until the last one. I spent 10 hours throwing up and in agony. Could actually see my abdomen contracting. I would definitely go for a d&c if there is a next time. Don't want to scare you but it's worth knowing what it can be like. I'm very sorry you are going through this.

@HitsAndMrs at the hospital today they said they weren't doing general anaesthetics for the surgical option due to COVID, and that locals were always an option. It'll be different everywhere but you would have options if it's not the news you want.

I've passed most of the tissue now I think, lots of cramps but manageable. I prefer being at home but of course it's different for everyone x

I was told of my MMC at 14 weeks no hb detected baby stopped growing at 9 weeks.

I was due surgery but miscarried 9 days ago at home the day before surgery. I ended up in the trauma unit of the maternity hospital having a painful procedure to remove stuck material from my cervix which was causing continued heavy bleeding.
It took me 7 days to have enough energy to be out of bed more than a few hours. I think I'm a unlucky case but I lost a lot of blood. I'm also suffering emotionally from the trauma of it all as well as the pregnancy loss.

I wish I could have had the surgery although difficult still it at least would have been over quickly and I wouldn't have had the trauma.

Wow, these sound horrendous. Nothing I can do before my next scan but wait. I have my final exam for my 4 year degree next week which doesn't help.

What pain killers should I take or will they prescribe some?

@HitsAndMrs can you speak to your tutor to explain circumstances? It might give you a few options in terms of taking the exam or delaying or potential if required for a uncapped resit?

It depends on what procedure your having, if medical management or surgical they will provide pain relief. If not then it's just paracetamol and ibuprofen at home which for me didn't do a lot.

I had a mmc found at 12 weeks. Baby had stopped growing at 10 weeks. I was supposed to have surgical management 2 weeks later but my gynecologist wouldn't let me (turns out there was no reason for this other than her preference). I was forced into medical management which was horrendous. I was pressured into taking the pills and nothing happened but I was so distressed that I was pacing like a caged animal. Eventually the department head let me go home as nothing was happening and I'd have the surgery the next day. However when I was waiting for the taxi I had back to back contractions. This lasted 30 mins. I ended back on the ward as I started heammoraging and had to have retained products removed manually with no pain relief. It took 4 weeks to recover from the ordeal and blood loss.
I think the worst part for me was seeing my baby, her tiny fingers and toes - so perfect.
I know my story is horrendous and not representative of most poeples experiences but I'd advise surgical 100% every time

So sorry to hear about your loss OP.

I had a MMC last year. Found out at 12 week scan on 29th September that baby was only measuring at around 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat. Confirmed at EPU the next day, which is when DH and I were given options of expectant management, medical management or surgical management. We chose medical management as, for surgery, I needed someone to drive me home, but DH doesn't drive. We were booked in the next day at 3.30pm.
1st October, we attended EPU at 3.30pm, signed consent forms etc and was given pessaries. Bought pads on the way home as was told to prepare for heavy bleeding any time after given medication. Nothing happened until 3.15am the next morning when I woke up with severe cramping. I'm guessing these were contractions and what labour feels like. Had these for a couple of hours. Was sick at one point. The next day was just cramping throughout...like bad period pains.

Had a scan a week later to confirm everything had been passed and was told to take a test in 3-4 weeks time. The midwife was so lovely and said, next time I'm pregnant to contact the EPU, mention her name and request an early scan for when I'm 7 weeks. She said they don't do this for everyone, but wanted to offer it to us. So grateful she did. Can't praise the team enough. They were just so wonderful in supporting me and DH through an awful experience.

Thank you everyone.

I can postpone my exam but I just want it over with it so hopefully it doesn't happen at that time, if so I will have to defer it.

If I have the option to have surgical without GA, I will choose that.

I think my husband thinks there is hope as my last pregnancy I was put back two weeks but even so, to not see an embryo at 6.6 isn't good is it?

Wish I didn't have pregnancy symptoms

Honestly, I really do appreciate you all taking the time out to share your experiences.

So sorry to hear this
Had an ERPC for a mmc with GA at 11 weeks
Went on to have 2 x healthy children x

Going through this at the minute...Had my dating scan tuesday and it wasn't as hoped...

My sack was measuring 23mm which estimates 6 + 6 (thought I was 8+4) but my pcos could have thrown dates. I did have bloods 29th dec and they were 5k hcg which matched me being where I though. We weren't trying and pcos so I don't know when I ovulate .

They couldn't see anything in the sack so I am either too early or it's not developing 😢she said it wasn't conclusive of no development till 25mm sack size . Surely even 6+6 it wouldn't be empty?

Spoke to doctor and have a scan next week on Thursday (feels like forever away) she told me to prepare for the worse.

I just kind of want it over now as I can't move on with it hanging over me No cramping , no bleeding yet