Conceiving after Miscarriage

[5unshine]

Hi Everyone,

I had my 12 week scan last week and had started light bleeding the day before. I was hopeful that it was just spotting, my unfortunately my baby had stopped growing at around 6 weeks and I was therefore starting to miscarry :(

Me and my husband are really keen to start trying again as soon as possible and was wondering what everyone’s experiences were with this?

The nurse at the hospital advised me to wait at least one full menstrual cycle, however my midwife told me that they only tell you this for dating purposes, and I can actually try whenever I feel physically and emotionally ready to, even if I haven’t had a proper cycle yet (if I’m ovulating of course).

If anyone could share their personal experiences of conceiving after a miscarriage, I would be really grateful.

Thank you so much

So, I have only just miscarried myself @5unshine so dont have experience of conceiving again. Just wanted to add some info that I was given -

Its definitely recommended not to have sex until you stop bleeding, as this is an infection risk.

You would likely want to wait to TTC until after you are testing negative repeatedly on pregnancy tests. This is because if you dont wait, and then get a new positive result this could be 1) because of a new pregnancy OR 2) hormones leftover from the previous pregnancy (which would just make you sad) OR 3) tissue left over from the previous pregnancy (which needs medical attention). Without waiting for negative tests you dont know which it is.

Thank you TheDaydreamBelievers and sorry for your loss xx

It’s nice to know that you were given some info from the hospital, as I was just told I would have a heavy bleed and all other info could be found in the leaflets!

I will definitely wait until I’ve stopped bleeding and have had 100% negative pregnancy tests before trying again

Think I’m just so desperate to be pregnant again that I really want to be able to get back to it as soon as I can xxx

Hi when I miscarried I was similar to you found out at the 12 week stage.. I know for me I personally wanted a month but if you feel ready then I think as the others have said as long as the bleeding has fully stopped I don't think there's much research to say its any harm getting pregnant straight away. I unfortunately am 12 months post misscarriage now and no sign on being pregnant again 😔 and wish in a way I strarted straight away as some people say your more fertile.. Xxx

I'm the same @5unshine. We want to try again asap. I also found out at 12 week scan. All was fine at a 10 week (nhs) scan but the baby died approx 10+5.

Finding it hard that there is another unpredictable length of wait until bleeding stops and tests go negative - they said this should happen within 3 weeks and if it doesnt there might be retained stuff so would need to go back.

Btw - if you were to fall pregnant before next period there is no added risk to you or baby. It's purely for dating and anxiety around dating that they recommend you wait

Thank you for your reply @Sarahdaydreamer1234 I’ve also heard that you’re more fertile just after a miscarriage, so I guess we will give it a go once everything has settled down and just see what happens.

Sorry to hear that you haven’t had any Lily I yet, I will have my fingers crossed for you and hope that 2021 will bring some baby joy your way xxxx

@5unshine yes apparently so - good luck!

Thank you so much hopefully 2021 is all of years for lots of baby joy ❤️

@TheDaydreamBelievers I know exactly how you feel. Hopefully the bleeding stops soon with no need to go back and we can start a fresh year with a positive mindset to start trying again. Although staying positive is easier said than done isn’t it!

Yes that’s what the midwife told me also. It’s nice to hear from someone in the same position as me x

I'm sorry for your loss I'm also going through the same. With my last two MCs we started ttc again as soon as bleeding stopped and I tested negative. It took 3 months the first time, which resulted in DD. And it took 4 months after my 2nd MC, which sadly ended in the MMC I'm going through now.

I am so sorry for your loss! I am in the same boat. I started to bleed on the 5th of November ( I was about 9 weeks but scan only show 6 weeks). The bleeding stopped on the 18th and I had a scan a day later that confirmed all is clear and a pregnancy test came back negative.
We are trying since. I just want to be pregnant again, they only suggest to wait a month to make the dating easier. They also said you are more fertile after miscarriage, so if you don`t want to wait, start as soon as a pregnancy test comes back negative!
I believe our body will decide when is ready.

@marplemead Sorry to hear that you are going through an MMC now but how lovely that you have a DD, I bet she is the light of your life ♥️
Thank you for the info on how long it took to conceive afterwards. I will have to prepare myself to play a waiting game once we try again, as in my head it will happen straight away but I know this isn’t always the case.

If you TTC again I hope that all is successful for you

@Tina8800 Sorry for your loss also I have just realised how common it is to go through what we are and as upsetting as it is, I am grateful to have other people to speak with that are going through the same as me.

It’s useful to hear how long it took for your negative pregnancy test as I was wondering how long that took! Although I’m sure with different for everyone, it’s good to have an idea.

Wishing you luck on your next pregnancy journey I know exactly how you feel as I am desperate to be pregnant again too xxx

Thank you @5unshine I'm desperate to start ttc again too. I have a scan on Monday, which I'm hoping will confirm that everything has passed and I'll take a pg test the next day, which I hope will be negative. DD is my life, and does make the recurrent miscarriages easier to bear. I hope you will have your rainbow baby soon.

Good luck to you all I really hope it happens quickly... I am on month 12 post mc and today got the results of my bloods and scans that everything is normal for both of us which is great news.. I asked would anything after the mc's be affecting my fertility and the fertility nurse said no.. I just thought this might help some of you if it does take a while sometimes it's not that anything is wrong it just seems to change sometimes..i personally have got pregnant on a one off not ttc 4 months and now on month 12.. P. S i hope my post doesn't make anyone worry they will take a while I'm sure it won't !! Xxxx

Hi, unfortunately I had RPOC until the august. (I miscarried at 9 weeks in the June). We immediately TTC'd in the September. We had a Chemical in December and then I got my BFP in the January 2020.

He's currently In his high chair watching nursery rhymes

It is mentally draining after a miscarriage in ngl.

Thank you @Sarahdaydreamer1234 it definitely helps to know that there isn’t necessarily something wrong, just takes longer sometimes!

I’d also rather set myself for a year of TTC again than expect to fall pregnant straight away, so it’s great to have some first hand feedback as this is what I was after when starting the thread xxxx

@marauder1994 Awww just look at him! X
Thanks for the lovely post. Definitely gives me the inspiration to keep on trying even if the next pregnancy was to end up as another MC xxxx

Hi everyone. Sorry to hear about your losses.

I had a miscarriage last week at 8 weeks also had an ectopic in June
My bleeding seems to be stopping but I got a positive pregnancy test today.
I'm keen to start trying again so will wait until I get negative tests

Can’t offer any advice unfortunately, but wanted to share that I’m also in the same boat as you 😊 had surgical management under GA on Tuesday and haven’t had any bleeding, but maybe just some very very light spotting (finding it hard to tell!) I wasn’t given direct info on when we could try again, but instead was told that some women are more fertile so to be careful if we weren’t ready to try again. My body feels a bit achy and heavy down there, but I think once it all feels back to normal and we get a negative test we will also try again.

I had a blighted ovum miscarriage in April 2020. We're TTC and have been since about July/August. I was told I could start trying once the bleeding stopped, but I do think waiting a cycle is helpful, especially the later the miscarriage. I was hoping for a BFP this month, but I realized my stress isn't helping, so we're taking a month off. Good luck with TTC :-)

I'm sorry to hear of your loss

I'm currently on my 4th pregnancy (no children). Two of my pregnancies were conceived on the cycle following mc (my last mc was 5th November). One of my pregnancies was 10 months after the previous mc. Every single pregnancy after that first loss has been filled with anxiety. Constantly checking the loo paper, working out dates compared to when I started bleeding previously, 'if we get to this date it's the furthest we've got' etc. It hasn't made a difference for me whether it's the pregnancy the month following, or the one 10 months later. I suppose it just depends if you feel mentally ready to face it all again yet. The anxiety will be there whenever you next conceive, unfortunately that's just how it is after a loss

Sorry just to add - don't let my negative experience put you off. That is nothing to do with the the fact we conceived straight away afterwards because 2/3 of my previous pregnancies were not conceived straight after a loss, and they still failed (obviously there is something wrong our end)

I’m so sorry for all your losses @Daffodil21 😔😔 I can’t imagine going through this so many times. I really hope 2021 is the year for you!

Hi,

I am married since 8 years and had a miscarriage 6 years before. We have been trying since then but every time the results are ending up negative ; which is really depressing me.

I have PCOS problem but in the past 1 year i have tried to reduce weight and the good thing is that i am getting monthly cycles without taking progestrone tablets :)

Later, identified that my husband's sperm motillity is 37% and progressive motility 31% which is slightly low than the
required percentage.

I tried Clomid last month and ovulated but the results were negative. This time i took letrozole + trigger shot and ovulated :).
I Ovulated in the day 17 & 18 ( Tracked with ovulation kit ).

Any suggestion on when i can take the test and also anybody has same problem as mine and has it worked out positively. Reply Please. I am really keeping my fingers crossed.

Hi,

I am really sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage too and finding out at the scan was the most shocking thing that has ever happened to me.

I have actually had 2 miscarriages. After the 1st I started trying straight away as it helped deal with the heart break slightly (not much though!). It took 2 periods to pass before i fell pregnant and those two periods were literally 3x heavier than normal. i think it is because it can take a while for the body to start ovulating again after miscarriage. Having not ovulated on those months made the periods a lot heavier.

Try not to be stressed when trying again, because i suffered from so much stress i genuinely believe it caused the second miscarriage. i wasn't sleeping at all and was in a total state!

My last miscarriage was 6 weeks ago, so i am trying too now (stress free this time thank god!) Good luck!!!

Thank you @PumpkinEverything , here's hoping...! I'm sorry you find yourself here too, and I wish you the very best. I never thought TTC would be this tough!

@as88 it depends on the length of your luteal phase. If it's 14 days (which is average for most people I think), then AF would be due CD31 or CD32. You could test early with a more sensitive test. People on here seem to swear by FRERs but I've only ever had dodgy ones with a slight promise of a very faint (and false) line. Clear blue early detection can give you a result 6 days before you missed period, so 5 days before it due, which would be CD26 or CD27 for you. I've had clear early reliable results (4 days early) using the clear blue early detections so I would definitely recommend them. Good luck!