MMC at what should’ve been 12 weeks

[Will867]

After 13 days of brown spotting and small amounts of blood and knowing somethings wrong and having the worst anxiety, but being told by multiple gps it’s normal and nothing to worry about I have just found out today, 2 days before my dating scan that there was a sac with no foetus or embryo. I am devastated but not surprised. This is my 1st pregnancy and I was so excited. Had really bad morning sickness, all the usual pregnancy symptoms just no baby 😞.
All I feel is the sense of failure, that I’ve failed my partner and can’t help but wonder if this happened in my first pregnancy will I ever be able to have a viable pregnancy. I don’t even know how to start dealing with this? and seeing my other half cry as well breaks me

@Onceuponatimethen thank you I’m getting sleep and trying to eat. Things have eased thankfully I am just feeling so low. I’m frightened, all I do is read these forums looking for hope that I may one day carry my baby to term. I’m so scared that I won’t be able to conceive now or I will miscarry again. I feel like whereas while I was pregnant I could finally see myself as a mum now that seems to be quickly disappearing. I cry a lot. I know it’s my first time first pregnancy and only miscarriage so far but I’m so scared now

@Will867 it’s often very difficult not to feel hugely frightened after a mc. You have lost your baby and in a shocking way, without any warning. I think these are such normal feelings.

I am one of these people (I don’t know if you are) that finds comfort in statistics. The vast vast majority of people who have had a mc will get pg again and carry that pg to term.
My gynae also told me that in his experience once you have been pg once you are much more likely to get pg again. It is very likely that you will be able to get pg. Try to hold on to that dream of being a mum and for now just do what makes you feel calmest hour by hour. If that’s eating food you like, lying in (if you can), watching favourite escapist tv series and films. I watched nearly the whole box set of friends dvds after my Mmc, just to keep my brain occupied xx

@Emh1 I would try not to worry about the tests. It is most likely to be something routine like they just want to do a scan. That’s really hard about the friend’s baby news - I really sympathise. You totally have the right idea just keeping busy and trying to keep your mind off all of this as much as you can. This is a really hard time but hopefully soon things will feel just a little bit less dark

Hi, I know I'm rather late jumping in here, but I just wanted to let you know that I was the same, I had a MMC at the beginning of April, I didn't find out until my dating scan, but I knew something wasn't right and let them know when I went in, they just found an empty sac. Them saying it must have kicked it all off, because that same day the bleeding started and on the 4th, I passed the sac. I felt awful, didn't stop crying for a long time, but had my 3 year old to deal with, and that helped a lot.

Things do get better. I promise. Yesterday, I got a positive test result and I'm not getting too excited, because of what happened, but it helps to know I can still fall pregnant so easily. And hopefully that will help you too?

I hope things go smoothly for you. 💗