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Help. Miscarrying naturally with strong contractions. Has anyone been through this?
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Doughnut100 · 25/04/2020 09:41

Trigger warning for pregnant ladies, don't read if you are anxious about miscarrying.



Please help me. I was 12w pregnant, bleeding, went for a scan yesterday confirmed baby had stopped growing at 8w. Decided to manage expectantly as don't have to go to work and was already bleeding lightly.

Went home, had very strong contractions last night 930pm-midnight. Pain was unmanageable, too bad to leave the bathroom and go to A&A. Contractions a couple mins apart. But was not passing much blood at all, still light flow. 8pm took paracetamol & ibuprofen. 10pm self medicated 10mg diazepam, not prescribed.

midnight fell asleep, contractions stopped. Suspect it was the diazepam? Woke up 830pm slight contractions starting again. Took 5mg diazepam, ibuprofen & paracetamol. Contractions now 2-6 mins apart but manageable.

I am scared because I'm now about where I was just before it got bad last night. All the EPUs are closed over the weekend. I've been advised to go to A&E if the pain is unmanageable or the bleeding too heavy. A&E is my only route to help as it's the weekend.

What I want is to change my decision to surgical management. If I'm not even bleeding heavily yet how long is this going to go on for with terrible pain before I actually pass anything? But I don't know if they will be able to perform and ERPC/D&C quickly if I go to A&E. I telephoned the hospital and the midwife said they would give me stronger pain relief and confirm that the pain was the miscarriage, and that I could request surgical management. But especially due to covid I don't know if that will happen.

I can't face going through this pain for a long time at home. I'm tempted to take more diazepam as it seemed to stop the contractions last night. But will be delaying the inevitable. And maybe they will only take me seriously at A&E if I am in bad pain.

Sorry if this is too long and rambling. Has anyone been through a similar experience and can offer any advice? Thank you in advance. x

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TheHarryFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 25/04/2020 09:45

I went through this years ago and I wanted to miscarry naturally at home.
It took a few days and the GP prescribed codeine.
I was slightly further along but once everything had passed, I definitely knew.

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TheHarryFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 25/04/2020 09:46

I wouldn’t take the diazepam. You risk retaining tissue and possible infection / needing surgery

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Heygirlheyboy · 25/04/2020 09:48

Oh gosh I think best advice is with your maternity unit. So sorry you're going through this. I did it at home too but it was 10.5 weeks and it was painful but not so ongoing with that extreme pain. I had ponstin (sp?) and a hot water bottle and late on day 2 passed what would have been my baby Sad and the pain lessened after that. Nine years ago and I remember it like yesterday. Not much advice I'm afraid but pharmacist or midwife should help you. Thinking of you Flowers

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Heygirlheyboy · 25/04/2020 09:49

Yes, codeine in Ponstin also.

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Andcake · 25/04/2020 09:49

I had a very similar scenario about 8 years ago ended up dp calling ambulance. Most but a small bit had come away naturally and had stuck somehow. Pain was incredible. A night in hospital booked in for last bit to be medically done but after dr had dislodged bit stuck in cervical area after hospital rush pain decreased and all was gone by time medical appointment date. I was exactly the same weeks as you.

Get help and goodluck

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lovinglavidaloca · 25/04/2020 09:50

I wouldn’t do anything to try and slow it down and would do whatever I could to stay at home right now.

I went through similar at 8 weeks and it was absolutely horrific but did only last a few days.

I’m so sorry for your loss Flowers

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Oreoreo · 25/04/2020 09:52

When I miscarried naturally last year, the pain was intense only for the first few days. I continued to pass blood and other things over the next week or so, however I think the bulk of it was the first few days. The pain was in intervals for me as well, during which I tried to sleep. I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, my thoughts are with you xx

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seaduck · 25/04/2020 09:52

So sorry @Doughnut100. I was surprised at how painful my miscarriage was, I was measuring 8w too. It took a couple of days for mine to pass.
I'd imagine if you go to A&E they wouldn't be able to get you in for surgical management straight away, and you may have passed the majority anyway-I will say it was obvious when it was over and the pain subsided quickly. I hope you manage to get some relief today.

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LillyLeaf · 25/04/2020 09:53

So sorry you're going through this, can you get hold of any codeine? I was given codeine with ibuprofen when I had a medical management (pills) mmc by the epu which did take the edge off as well as a constant hot water bottle. Does your GP do out of hours calls, maybe they could give you a prescription for something stronger. Hope it passes quickly, it's such an awful thing to go through.

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Delbelleber · 25/04/2020 10:01

You need to tell them you are self medicating because the pain is unbearable. You might take too much.
I had a mmc some years ago and the pain was horrendous and I was bleeding loads because . I was self medicating and the hospital were concerned about how much I was taking to manage the pain. I was told to go in to a gynae ward (late at night) the doctor removed the sac that was stuck on my cervix and causing the bleeding and I had to stay a few hours to be monitored then let home where over the next 3 days the bleeding tailed off.
Sorry for your loss Flowers

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Delbelleber · 25/04/2020 10:03

*not because I was was self medicating. Because should not be there!

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Doughnut100 · 25/04/2020 10:16

Thanks so much for all your advice and kind words. The 5mg diazepam has now kicked in and I feel more relaxed and can feel my uterus has also relaxed, however I do understand your concerns that it could have adverse affects. The contractions are there for a reason so stopping them isn't helpful I know. I have called an out of hours GP line and the doctor is calling me back. I will ask for codeine and tell them about the self medication. Thank you again and my sympathies for all your experiences.

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Sheera1 · 25/04/2020 10:20

It is crazy how downplayed the pain of a miscarriage is. I had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks too 3 yrs ago and was measuring 8 weeks. It was such a shock as thought everything was fine. I went home and decided to let it pass naturally but had booked for medical help if it hadn't happened in a few days.

It all started that evening and the contractions woke me up they were so sore. Like an idiot I got up and drove my son to school! On the way back I had to pull over every contraction as it was so painful. I took co-codamol which has codeine and paracetamol but it didn't touch it.

I did phone EpAS saying was it meant to be so painful and they suggested going in, but I didn't want to do it in the hospital.

I went home and was literally bracing on the couch through the contractions. I could have done with a stick or leather bit in my mouth. They were about every minute and then a felt a wee rush and ran to the loo and there was a big rush of stuff that came out. Once that had happened the contractions and pain did stop I am pleased to let you know.

It is a really horrible painful thing. Having been in labour I can tell you it feels exactly like that just much shorter and maybe not quite so intense but not far off. The cervix must open a small way.

I am sending love and hugs as it is really unpleasant never mind the emotions you are feeling.

To give you hope I am currently 10 weeks pregnant and taking each day as a blessing.

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BabloHoney · 25/04/2020 10:26

Went through the same when I miscarried at home at 13 weeks.. I’ll be honest, the pain was horrific and the bleeding very heavy BUT once the sac had passed, the bleeding slowed down massively and the pain almost stopped instantly.

I’m so so sorry for your loss. Look after yourself Flowers

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Mum2b2020 · 25/04/2020 10:37

I had the same thing last year. The contractions only lasted a day or two I think but then I continued to bleed heavily for a total of a month before i felt an odd sensation internally and I passed the sac in the toilet. The bleeding stopped after that.

Half way through i had an appointment back at the MAU and was told it was an incomplete mmc but instructed to just go home and wait it out. They didnt offer me any surgical management.

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Tonimacaroni1920 · 25/04/2020 10:48

So sorry for your loss. Definitely ask for codeine- it made a big difference for me, and, as others have said, the pain is surprisingly intense but it shouldn't last for longer than a few days.

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Bounceyflouncey · 25/04/2020 10:51

Sorry to hear this OP Flowers I miscarried twins at 8 weeks, and I was naievely maybe extremely surprised by the pain. I found a hot water bottle resting firmly on my back, paracetamol and ibuprofen, watching something to distract me was the only thing that worked; it was still painful though. Thankfully it passed within a few hours as I all of a sudden felt the urge to sit on the toilet, and passed a mass. Please do reach out for support or advice if you feel it reaches the point that you can cope.

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Treaclepie19 · 25/04/2020 11:29

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

I miscarried naturally at 8+4 and was shocked at how painful it was. It did pass naturally after a couple of days but I'm glad you've got someone to speak to for advice.

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Justforthislifetime · 25/04/2020 11:48

Hello OP Flowers

I am a Nurse, just wanted to mention to you, sorry if this is upsetting but may help, the reason ibuprofen is used for period pain is because it reduces bleeding in this situation, therefore it is not recommended during miscarriage as it may hinder the process, sorry if upsetting.

Please ask the doctor for paracetamol and codeine as these are effective pain relief without the effect of ibuprofen as above.

Take care xx

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Justforthislifetime · 25/04/2020 11:49

Another suggestion that may naturally help things along if you feel up to it is some gentle exercise such as walking xx

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Justforthislifetime · 25/04/2020 11:56

And take regular pain relief within the allowed safe amount as this means the medication will work at maximum effect xx Flowers

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Doughnut100 · 25/04/2020 14:10

I'm overwhelmed by all your helpful replies, thank you so much. The doctor was very understanding and prescribed naproxen and codeine. I told him about my self medication and he actually said that diazepam is ok to continue taking for short term and that it relaxes the abdomen rather than the uterus, but I can't combine it with the codeine. He even said he was glad I had it for last night when I didn't have any prescription painkillers but obviously I should be mindful as it's addictive. I find hard to believe it doesn't relax the uterus though, because I was having contractions every few minutes this morning that stopped when the diazepam kicked in and haven't really started again yet.

FYI in case anyone else has reason to go to A&E he also told me that it is basically empty because of covid so waiting times are short, covid patients are segregated, and that I shouldn't be afraid to go in.

@Justforthislifetime thank you, I've stopped the ibuprofen

I am watching Disney films (discounting their rampant misogyny for these extenuating circumstances ha) and enjoying the fact I am relatively pain free for now.

Utterly shocked (and also not) how the hospital literature and the male doctor I spoke to described this as period cramps, but the moment you ask women there are so many accounts of contractions and excruciating pain. Sorry for all of your losses and best wishes for the future.

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Sheera1 · 25/04/2020 14:30

Yes I was shocked at how like labour contractions it was. Nothing like period pains. These documents must be written by men or females who haven't had a miscarriage. I was totally unprepared.

Glad you are feeling a bit better and lol on the disnet misogyny. X

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Justforthislifetime · 25/04/2020 14:48

@Doughnut100

Glad to hear you have spoken to the doctor and are feeling a bit better Smile

Just to add though that Naproxen is from the same drug family as ibuprofen, and so personally I would stick with regular paracetamol and codeine within the daily limits as per your prescription, take care Flowers

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Doughnut100 · 25/04/2020 15:03

@Sheera1 I had the same name as you on fertility friend, I feel like we are kindred spirits. I really hope your current pregnancy is your rainbow baby.

@Justforthislifetime thank you for your advice. The doctor was an out of hours GP and very kind but I appreciate he is not a specialist in this area. He advised to try naproxen first and then codeine. Do you think maybe he advised this way round because codeine is the addictive one? I am inclined to take your advice over his especially as many other women on this thread have mentioned codeine. I'm still waiting for the right time to elapse since my last doses before I take it.

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