First MC. Scan this morning

[f00k]

I've been reading the really helpful advice and all your stories on this board for the past hour. I should be 10 weeks pregnant with DC3 today but yesterday I woke up bleeding. It was like the first day of a period but no pain or cramping. I went to A&E as my hospital's maternity ward won't see you before 16 weeks so they advised me to go to A&E. I had bloods taken which showed raised hCG levels and I had a positive pregnancy test. They arranged for me to visit EPU this morning and sent me home. I went for a scan at EPU this morning which showed a sac and a baby that is barely 5 weeks. The sonographer said it was too small to get an accurate date but around that. No heartbeat but it would normally be too soon to see one at 5 weeks anyway. Baby measures 3mm but the hospital won't do anything until they have confirmation that baby hasn't grown up to 7mm. So I have to go back in 10 days for a rescan to confirm no growth.

I know from my LMP and ovulation tracking that my dates cannot be wrong. Even if I were out by a week or two, baby should not be measuring 5 weeks. My LMP was 22nd Nov, so I know the second scan is just a formality. After my scan I was told to go back in the waiting room and wait for my rescan to be arranged. I was given the date and sent home. No information on what I should expect from my body over the next 10 days. I've been bleeding continuously for 31 hours now. I know a MC is happening but it seems that because they need the rescan to confirm it, they've sent me away without any support or information. Maybe I get the handholding and the support after my next scan but what about now? I might MC before that scan and I've been told nothing. I just feel in limbo and wanted to come here to talk. I've never experienced a MC before and I've been reading your posts here for support and help. Any support and advice would be much appreciated.

I understand their thought process, that they need another scan without further growth to officially confirm a MC, but I'm clearly having one so it feels like a "closing the stable door after the horse has bolted" scenario. Maybe I'll give them a call on Monday and let them know what's happened today and if they can fit me in sooner to confirm things. Are you still going for your scan on Monday?

I'm glad of any advice you can pass on. I have a close friend who has experienced two miscarriages but it's an emotive subject so not something you can really ask someone to share unless they want to offer that information first. So reading anything and everything on here has been helpful.

Morning
Could ou get any sleep?
How are you doing now?

Hi @f00k
How are you doing? Sorey that you're going through this. I had a miscarriage in October under similar circumstances to you. It was terrible. I spiraled down emotionally, but now 4 months on, I'm a bit okay. I hope that brings you some hope that things will look up one day. ❤
I'm still very upset and frustrated about how women are sent away when their baby measures less than 7mm with zero information. I was told (incorrectly) how to pay for the car park and nothing else. I want to change this but where do you even start? I thought my experience was a mistake and a stand-alone, but I've since read way too many account of women experiencing the same. :(

I miscarried at home and it was awful but I did call the EPU and get my scan brought forward by 6 days (initially it was for 2 weeks after the first one but I miscarried 6 days after that first scan) so I'd definitely call to see if they can do that for you. aAs horrible as it was to hear the words ' complete miscarriage', it was a relief to be out of the limbo. xxxx

@Whathappenedwhy finally got to sleep at 5am. Had really bad stomach pains throughout the night and found sleeping flat or on my side made it worse so ended up propped up on the sofa. Not the best sleep but I had a nap this evening to catch up. Cramping not as bad or as often today and I think everything may have passed today but we'll see. How are you feeling? Are you going for a scan tomorrow?

@Zoey36 I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm glad to hear things feel a bit better for you now and I hope your days get brighter as time goes on. I know things will feel better eventually... I've been through many shit times but not quite like this though. This weekend has been a rollercoaster of emotions. One minute I'm calm and practical, the next I'm a crying mess.
I'm sorry your hospital was as unhelpful as mine. The lack of support has surprised me. My MW still hasn't replied to my text from Friday. I know midwives are busy people but some support from a professional before going through this would have been good. I think after reading your post I'm going to call the EPU tomorrow and let them know I've already miscarried.

Hi I had a missed miscarriage, the week before my 12 week scan I had some spotting so went to A&E who did my bloods said HCG levels were normal, went for a scan and they said they could see a sac but no baby, I had to take a tablet to pass the pregnancy but never got any answers as to how far along I was, I was hoping to post a picture on here of what I passed to see if anyone knew how far gone I was as I think I can see a small foetus, just trying to figure out how to send photos on here

f00k they will still want to scan you to see if you have passed everything.
Same thing happened to me in August, but I ended up having to call an ambulance because I haemorrhaged. Cue going into cervical shock and spending 4 days in hospital.
I was also never warned what to expect, I was just sent home with another scan appointment for a weeks time. I have a bleeding disorder and even with that knowledge, they still never gave advice.
I'm sorry to read about everyone's losses

Hi everyone. Sorry, I have not managed to keep up with the thread the last few days. I had a huge haemorrhage on Saturday night and ended up having an emergency d&c at 4 am. Unlike some others' experiences, the care I've had was really good, but still, it is so heartbreaking.

It has all hit me really hard, tbh. Had to hold it all in because of the kids, but have finally managed to have a good cry.

Hope you are doing ok.

Oh my goodness @SylvanianFrenemies. How are you feeling now? That sounds so scary. Glad to hear you were taken good care of though. Look after yourself and take things easy 

@ofwarren they've moved my scan forward to this Friday so at least I don't have to wait as long now. Gosh, your experience sounds so scary. That must have been so frightening to go through. Sorry to hear your hospital was as helpful as mine in regards to preparing you. I've learnt what I know so far from going through it over the weekend, Googling and getting advice from here. But a heads up from the hospital would have been good!

@JoMcMo20 I'm so sorry for your loss and lack of answers. That must be really hard for you.

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Hi f, 00k* How is everyone doing?
I got my period this evening, like clockwork, it's shit.

Hi @Whathappenedwhy. That's shitty how have you been these past few weeks? It's been 4 weeks since my MC and no period yet. I haven't done a test yet either to confirm a negative because I've been putting it off. My second scan showed there was nothing left so I know it's long over with by now. I just don't want to do that test.

Spoke too soon. AF started yesterday and much heavier than usual part of me hoped we'd conceive again straight away but at least now we can begin afresh and TTC this month.