First MC. Scan this morning

[f00k]

I've been reading the really helpful advice and all your stories on this board for the past hour. I should be 10 weeks pregnant with DC3 today but yesterday I woke up bleeding. It was like the first day of a period but no pain or cramping. I went to A&E as my hospital's maternity ward won't see you before 16 weeks so they advised me to go to A&E. I had bloods taken which showed raised hCG levels and I had a positive pregnancy test. They arranged for me to visit EPU this morning and sent me home. I went for a scan at EPU this morning which showed a sac and a baby that is barely 5 weeks. The sonographer said it was too small to get an accurate date but around that. No heartbeat but it would normally be too soon to see one at 5 weeks anyway. Baby measures 3mm but the hospital won't do anything until they have confirmation that baby hasn't grown up to 7mm. So I have to go back in 10 days for a rescan to confirm no growth.

I know from my LMP and ovulation tracking that my dates cannot be wrong. Even if I were out by a week or two, baby should not be measuring 5 weeks. My LMP was 22nd Nov, so I know the second scan is just a formality. After my scan I was told to go back in the waiting room and wait for my rescan to be arranged. I was given the date and sent home. No information on what I should expect from my body over the next 10 days. I've been bleeding continuously for 31 hours now. I know a MC is happening but it seems that because they need the rescan to confirm it, they've sent me away without any support or information. Maybe I get the handholding and the support after my next scan but what about now? I might MC before that scan and I've been told nothing. I just feel in limbo and wanted to come here to talk. I've never experienced a MC before and I've been reading your posts here for support and help. Any support and advice would be much appreciated.

[f00k]

Spoke too soon. AF started yesterday and much heavier than usual part of me hoped we'd conceive again straight away but at least now we can begin afresh and TTC this month.

[f00k]

Hi @Whathappenedwhy. That's shitty how have you been these past few weeks? It's been 4 weeks since my MC and no period yet. I haven't done a test yet either to confirm a negative because I've been putting it off. My second scan showed there was nothing left so I know it's long over with by now. I just don't want to do that test.

[Whathappenedwhy]

Hi f, 00k* How is everyone doing?
I got my period this evening, like clockwork, it's shit.

[Zoey36]

NICE guidelines regarding what should happen when baby

[f00k]

Oh my goodness @SylvanianFrenemies. How are you feeling now? That sounds so scary. Glad to hear you were taken good care of though. Look after yourself and take things easy 

@ofwarren they've moved my scan forward to this Friday so at least I don't have to wait as long now. Gosh, your experience sounds so scary. That must have been so frightening to go through. Sorry to hear your hospital was as helpful as mine in regards to preparing you. I've learnt what I know so far from going through it over the weekend, Googling and getting advice from here. But a heads up from the hospital would have been good!

@JoMcMo20 I'm so sorry for your loss and lack of answers. That must be really hard for you.

[SylvanianFrenemies]

Hi everyone. Sorry, I have not managed to keep up with the thread the last few days. I had a huge haemorrhage on Saturday night and ended up having an emergency d&c at 4 am. Unlike some others' experiences, the care I've had was really good, but still, it is so heartbreaking.

It has all hit me really hard, tbh. Had to hold it all in because of the kids, but have finally managed to have a good cry.

Hope you are doing ok.

[ofwarren]

f00k they will still want to scan you to see if you have passed everything.
Same thing happened to me in August, but I ended up having to call an ambulance because I haemorrhaged. Cue going into cervical shock and spending 4 days in hospital.
I was also never warned what to expect, I was just sent home with another scan appointment for a weeks time. I have a bleeding disorder and even with that knowledge, they still never gave advice.
I'm sorry to read about everyone's losses

[JoMcMo20]

Hi I had a missed miscarriage, the week before my 12 week scan I had some spotting so went to A&E who did my bloods said HCG levels were normal, went for a scan and they said they could see a sac but no baby, I had to take a tablet to pass the pregnancy but never got any answers as to how far along I was, I was hoping to post a picture on here of what I passed to see if anyone knew how far gone I was as I think I can see a small foetus, just trying to figure out how to send photos on here

[f00k]

@Whathappenedwhy finally got to sleep at 5am. Had really bad stomach pains throughout the night and found sleeping flat or on my side made it worse so ended up propped up on the sofa. Not the best sleep but I had a nap this evening to catch up. Cramping not as bad or as often today and I think everything may have passed today but we'll see. How are you feeling? Are you going for a scan tomorrow?

@Zoey36 I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm glad to hear things feel a bit better for you now and I hope your days get brighter as time goes on. I know things will feel better eventually... I've been through many shit times but not quite like this though. This weekend has been a rollercoaster of emotions. One minute I'm calm and practical, the next I'm a crying mess.
I'm sorry your hospital was as unhelpful as mine. The lack of support has surprised me. My MW still hasn't replied to my text from Friday. I know midwives are busy people but some support from a professional before going through this would have been good. I think after reading your post I'm going to call the EPU tomorrow and let them know I've already miscarried.

[Zoey36]

Hi @f00k
How are you doing? Sorey that you're going through this. I had a miscarriage in October under similar circumstances to you. It was terrible. I spiraled down emotionally, but now 4 months on, I'm a bit okay. I hope that brings you some hope that things will look up one day. ❤
I'm still very upset and frustrated about how women are sent away when their baby measures less than 7mm with zero information. I was told (incorrectly) how to pay for the car park and nothing else. I want to change this but where do you even start? I thought my experience was a mistake and a stand-alone, but I've since read way too many account of women experiencing the same. :(

I miscarried at home and it was awful but I did call the EPU and get my scan brought forward by 6 days (initially it was for 2 weeks after the first one but I miscarried 6 days after that first scan) so I'd definitely call to see if they can do that for you. aAs horrible as it was to hear the words ' complete miscarriage', it was a relief to be out of the limbo. xxxx

[Whathappenedwhy]

Morning
Could ou get any sleep?
How are you doing now?

[f00k]

I understand their thought process, that they need another scan without further growth to officially confirm a MC, but I'm clearly having one so it feels like a "closing the stable door after the horse has bolted" scenario. Maybe I'll give them a call on Monday and let them know what's happened today and if they can fit me in sooner to confirm things. Are you still going for your scan on Monday?

I'm glad of any advice you can pass on. I have a close friend who has experienced two miscarriages but it's an emotive subject so not something you can really ask someone to share unless they want to offer that information first. So reading anything and everything on here has been helpful.

[Whathappenedwhy]

Ah F00k
That such along time now for you, yes they should have given you more information. I'm in Ireland so it must be different I just not fair they are leaving you 10ndats for nect scan.
I can tell you how I knew I was passing if that would help? I know every body is different and will have different experience

[f00k]

@Whathappenedwhy I'm glad to hear you're feeling better now. I hope this will be over for you soon 

The pain became very intense late afternoon and TMI, I passed large clots about three times then the cramps went away for a couple of hours but they've come back again this evening but not as intense so I don't think it's over just yet. I've been taking painkillers every 4 hours and had a water bottle on my stomach earlier. I'm really grateful for the advice on here so I had some idea of what to expect. I wish the hospital had explained things on Friday rather than leaving me to it. I think by the time I go back in 9 days there won't be anything on the scan

Thank you @Upsydaisyy. I'm a SAHM. My youngest is only 16 months old though so not much chance to relax and have time to myself. DP is going to take a few days off and do the school runs for our 9yr old and allow me to get through this and not have to face anyone so soon. I've mostly been pretty calm and sort of accepting what is happening, but then DP will ask if I'm okay and I'll start crying.

[Upsydaisyy]

@Whathappenedwhy @f00k I hope you both start to feel better soon, Well as much as you can. I’d also recommend taking some time from work if you do work, it really helped to have some time off to gather my thoughts and properly heal

[Whathappenedwhy]

f00k

The cramps coming in waves sounds like contractions. It might get more intense and painful. Contractions will as you said come in waves through your back, belly or both with pressure aswell
F00k I really feel you going through this now .
My body is fine now, very light bleeding no pain or cramps at all.

[f00k]

How are you feeling now @Whathappenedwhy? I've just started cramping in the last hour. I've had c-sections with both of my DC, so I've never experienced contractions before. The cramps are coming in waves. It gets intense for a few moments then goes. I've taken paracetamol.

Thank you for the advice @Upsydaisyy and I'm sorry you've been through this. I only have standard pads at home because my periods aren't usually heavy so I'm sending DP out for thick pads and more paracetamol.

[Whathappenedwhy]

Hi Upsydaisyy

I've passed everything now, after nearly 2 and a half hours of contractions I start passing and took about an hour. I was a bit shocked at the amount of blood also. Its eased up now though to like a light period.
Everything was a lot quicker than I expected. The contractions were hard to deal with knowing that it was a mc.
Still can't get my head around it all xx

[Upsydaisyy]

I’m sorry you are all going through this, it’s an awful thing to go through, I have just come out of the other side so to speak. I was almost 9 weeks but only measuring 6. I thought being fairly early it would be like a heavy period but this wasn’t the case at all, I don’t mean to scare you at all but I wish I had been more prepared. If you find yourself having to change full pads more than once an hour I would go to a&e. Stock up on lots of pads, huge pants, comfy clothes and paracetamol. Big hugs xxx

[Whathappenedwhy]

SylvanianFrenemies
How are you doing now did you call them to see what to do?
I'm getting contractions now.
This is so cruel.
Really thinking of you both

[SylvanianFrenemies]

Thank you for sharing your precious picture @Whathappenedwhy.

@f00k thank you. The hardest thing was taking the tablet to end the pregnancy. But we felt lucky to see and hold him afterwards. It was obvious that he physically wasn't well, which helped with accepting and making sense of things. That's why I'm tempted to take the tests offered this time.

I'm bleeding at a period level now. I'm meant to be going to EPU for my first tablet in a couple of hours but might phone them to see if I still should.

[Whathappenedwhy]

*so strange not to have pain.

[Whathappenedwhy]

Isn't it so stange not to have no pain when you think you should. I've had some cramping but very easy untill the bleeding slowed down and no cramps at all now.
You said in your op they didn't give you much information.
My midwife told me that the baby can pass in blood like a period or with clots or clumps or it can happen that the sac is still intact and that you may see the baby xx but that's not usual.

[f00k]

Still bleeding too. It hasn't stopped at any point since Thursday morning. Changing a pad every few hours at the moment. I'd like to know when it will happen too. Haven't experienced any pain or cramps at all. I'm dreading it happening but at the same time I don't want this to go on and on.

[Whathappenedwhy]

f00k
to you also.
Still in this in between world.
How are you now? My bleeding has been lighter the last few hours, would like to know when it will happen.