How long after BFN did you get your period (AF)?

[danielasummer]

Hi all, just wanted to know how long after BFN did you get your period (AF)? I lost my baby at 6+3 and had a missed miscarriage, so found out 3 weeks later.. had medical management and bled for 13 days, but testing positive now which is utterly rubbish :( waiting for a BFN so I can start to move forwards. Thank you in advance x

Just bumping. Hope you don't mind MN x

Currently going through the same thing and also wondering this (i dont have answers yet though obviously but hopefully someone else will see this and can give their experiences:) )

I had medical management at around the same gestation but not until I should have been 11 weeks.
I wanted things to happen naturally.
Baby stopped growing at 7 weeks.
I was in hospital for days while they tried to get it to work and in the end I had to have forceps to remove everything from the cervix that had become stuck.
I didn't bleed at all , although had done the week before very very heavily.
My periods didn't get back to normal for 4 months, I was still testing positive for 2 months after.
The experience was awful.
I hope you get back to normal ASAP op.
So sorry for your loss

@Anny27 then we're in this together! Keep me updated and I will let you know too. Hopefully AF comes for us quicker than what the NHS are saying x

@MzPumpkinPie that sounds so awful, I'm so so sorry you had to go through that. It must have been terrible. Thank you for sharing and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy in the future, if that is what you've decided you want to do x

Similar situation as you ladies apart from I went for the surgical route and had operation 2 weeks ago yesterday. I’d say properly stopped bleeding on Friday although have now got an infection so on antibiotics.

Decided today to test and got the BFN - now just waiting to see how long before AF! Just wanting to get back into normal cycle so I know where I am. x

So sorry to hear about what has happened.

I'm sharing my experience just in case it is in any way helpful.

I had surgical management of miscarriage on 6th Sep this year (would have been 11 weeks at the time but baby stopped growing at 5.5 weeks). I carried on getting positive tests every week for the next 9 weeks (!!) which was really difficult, as the hospital said it should happen in 2-3. I finally got my first period after the miscarriage last weekend, so 9 weeks after the surgery.

I really hope your body gets back to normal more quickly than mine, but I just wanted to share what happened to me, in case it is in any way helpful. When I kept getting positive tests I searched so many forums to try and see if it had happened to anyone else, but couldn't find much.

All the best :)

@ELM7 hi, thank you for posting. So sorry for your loss. Also sorry for your infection, we can't seem to catch a break can we?! Glad you tested negative. Please let me know when you get AF - fingers crossed for you. It's horrible being in limbo isn't it x

@sunshinefordays hi, I recognise your username, I'm sure we were on a pregnancy board together? Really sorry to hear of your loss. It's awful isn't it. I bet getting positive tests for 9 weeks is so hard - I found it difficult after only 2 weeks after taking the medication, and I'm dreading buying another pregnancy test as the last time I bought one I was so excited to take it and confirm my pregnancy :( sometimes life can be so cruel. How was your period, if you don't mind me asking? Was it like it was before pregnancy?

Thank you so much for sharing. x

@danielasummer

Yes it's rubbish - if you're worried at all that's it's taking long to get a negative than they said then you should definitely go back to the EPU for reassurance - I have found them really helpful.

I'm not sure it was me on the pregnancy board (probably someone with a similar name as sadly I've only ever posted in this section.

My period was actually very normal (I have read lots of horror stories on it being like a second miscarriage for some people). It was a bit shorter than usual too (4 days) and not that heavy. I hope when you get yours it isn't too bad.

Strangely though for me I took a test this morning wanting to finally see a negative (period finished on Tuesday) and it was STILL a faint positive. I've no idea what to make of it (it can't be a new pregnancy as haven't ovulated yet). So I may also go back to EPU/GP to try and get some answers.

Really hope you get back to normal quickly and can have a healthy baby soon :)

@sunshinefordays I will be testing again tomorrow morning so fingers crossed it's negative and I can begin to move on.

So glad your period was normal. I've also heard horror stories but just wanting it to come now so that I can ovulate and get on with things!

Did you talk to the EPU/GP about getting a positive on Saturday? Hope they have some answers for you x

I ended up having to have emergency ERPC because i lost too much blood so i think my day 1 was friday so i have 2 weeks and then i will test again.

@danielasummer are you using high sensitivity tests?

@Anny27 bless you, that sounds awful. How are you feeling? I hope you're resting up.

Today is 3 weeks since medical management for me and last week I had a BFP which was heartbreaking, and today I got a BFN on two tests. They are the superdrug cheapies.. do you think they are sensitive enough?

@danielasummer that should be okay i think when i get a bfn on my cheapy internet ones i will take a frer which is really sensitive just to make sure!

Sounds promissing for you though - wishing you all the luck on your ttc journey!

@Anny27 Hello, thank you for replying - I think I will buy a FRER (is this the first response test?)

Thank you so much. I wish you all the best too

Yep the first response tests :) @daniellasummer

So sorry for your loss. I had medical management at 10 weeks pregnant (baby died at 8 weeks). I think I was testing positive at 2 weeks after and it gradually faded to negative around 3 weeks after (internet cheapy tests which I think are really sensitive). I got my period around 4 weeks or maybe slightly more after the medical management, almost as if a normal cycle which really surprised me. I'd ring EPU if you want some reassurance or if you aren't feeling pregnant and the tests are getting fainter then just give it a few more days.

@Anny27 thank you x

@Starlight39 hi, thank you, I'm so sorry you had to go through this too. It's awful isn't it? Really glad you got your period soonish after..hoping that happens for me too. With your period did you get it 4 weeks after the day you took the medicine or 4 weeks after the bleeding stopped, if you don't mind me asking? Thank you xx

Thanks @danielasummer - yes, it's a really awful thing to go through. It was around 4.5 weeks from taking the medicine to the beginning of my period. The main bleeding after the miscarriage stopped after a few days for me then I just spotted for a week or two. So, I only had 2 weeks or less of not bleeding before my period came.

@Starlight39 thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm hoping that my period will come soon so that things can get back to whatever 'normal' is for me now. Thank you x

Hi all, I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. I really hope you’re all doing ok. I have been watching this thread for the last few weeks because the same thing happened to me...found out at 12 week scan that I had lost the baby on 25th Nov. Spent 3 days in hospital 28th-30th Nov having medical management but it didn’t work so I had to have an ERPC on 30th Nov. It was traumatic but on the whole I am feeling ok. I am hoping my period will come back around the end of Dec/beginning of Jan so that we can begin to TTC again soon.

I was just wondering how you’re all getting on? 💐 xxx
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@Starlight39
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@ELM7

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@MilsCookie - so sorry that you've been through this too. How awful to find out at the 12 weeks - I'm really sorry to hear. Are you recovering OK from the ERPC? Hope your body does recover quickly so that you can try again. It's such a hidden grief.

I have just started my second cycle since my MMC in early Sep. I got my hopes up last week that I was pregnant again as my period didn't arrive on the usual 28 days, but was then really disappointed when it did arrive last week - I think it was just a longer cycle (probably due to the miscarriage).

Here's hoping 2020 is our year

@sunshinefordays hey lovely, thanks for replying. Ahhh rubbish that AF came - but at least now you know your body is back to normal and you can start trying again. Roughly how long do you think that cycle was?

I have high hopes for us all for 2020 😊 🌈 xxx

@sunshinefordays oops posted too soon. For about 10 days I had light bleeding following the ERPC but wasn’t in any pain. I just had a really bizarre twinge feeling on the left side of my uterus when I walked up and down stairs! But that seems to have faded now. It’s almost 3 weeks since I had the op and I’m feeling ok both physically and emotionally. I am still obviously gutted about losing my first one, but so desperate to try again it’s all I can think about at the moment! 🙄🙈 xxx

So sorry to hear about your MMC @MilsCookie, it's such a tough thing to go through. Hope your period comes soon so you can try again. Time does heal things a bit I'm finding - it all feels less raw but I do get times when I feel like I just wanted that baby so much.

@sunshinefordays sorry your period got your hopes up - it's so hard when you don't know quite what your body is doing. Hoping for a January BFP for you.

I'm on my 2nd TTC cycle since my MC and am 8 dpo. We gave it a good go this month but I'm trying to be relaxed about it all and thinking if I don't get a Christmas BFP, I'll get to have a few glasses of wine over Christmas (obviously I'd much prefer to be pregnant and tee total though!).

Hi Ladies.

So to update AF arrived just short of 5 weeks from having surgery. It’s a strange time because I felt pleased that it had come for getting back into a normal cycle and then there is the rubbish side that it’s the reminder that the babies have gone. So was a bit of an emotional week.

And now the next bit is waiting again to know if my cycle will go straight back to being regular (which it always was) or if we will get a BFP. Just feel like we are always waiting.

I’d been pretty relaxed about things before our first BFP and now I feel I’m obsessed and it’s all I can think of is being pregnant again yet terrified that if I do fall pregnant that I will have another miscarriage. I’m driving myself crazy!

Trying to drag myself in to the festive spirit but it’s a bit of a struggle!