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miscarriage following amnio

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mears · 23/09/2004 00:03

Anybody got a link to a site that can give reassurance to parents who have lost a baby following complication of amnio? Amnio was performed because of increased Down's risk. Result came back normal but infection set in and caused miscarriage. Parents are distraught.

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cab · 23/09/2004 00:05

Oh mears that's awful. Sorry can't help. Won't the miscarriage association be the best starting point for them?

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mears · 23/09/2004 00:09

I have given them that contact number but I am not sure if they will be truly be able to help. They are in such a no-man's-land. Perhaps the miscarriage association are the best people.

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Blu · 23/09/2004 00:21

Sorry, Mears, have been googling like mad, but have found nothing except the Miscarriage Association.
How sad and awful - and it must be distressing for you, too Mears.

Chandra · 23/09/2004 01:16

Ouch, that hurts... sorry to hear that Mears.

AussieSim · 23/09/2004 03:51

That is really off-putting. I was thinking I would have one with the next pregnancy, but that is a really high price to pay.

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mears · 23/09/2004 09:30

anyone else?

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mummytosteven · 23/09/2004 09:44

also been googling
can't find anything other than MA - only other thing I can think of is SANDS.

bundle · 23/09/2004 09:52

this happened to a friend of mine and she found a similar lack of the right kind of support

lou33 · 23/09/2004 09:55

I wonder is this support group may help?

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mears · 23/09/2004 10:23

thanks. I can't get on that site yet lou. Will try later. I think 18 weeks is too soon for SANDS support as they focus on Stillbirths and Neonatal Death. Thanks for all your posts.

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Marina · 23/09/2004 10:27

Oh no. How desperately sad. Mears, have you tried SANDS? I am assuming the baby was at least 20 weeks. I found them so much more helpful when Tom was born than the MA to be honest - the MA's literature is much more suited to the reality of first-trimester miscarriage.
SANDS is there to help anyone with a baby still-born after 20 weeks. Mears, I am thinking of that poor couple. What rotten luck.

Marina · 23/09/2004 10:28

Sorry, posts crossed Mears. I still think SANDS will help, do try them (maybe you could contact them on the parents' behalf?)

Twinkie · 23/09/2004 10:38

I would try SANDS - think they are willing to help with anything to do with neo natal death no matter how it happens.

Its always shocks me when you hear of something liek this no matter how much we are told that there is a 1 in 100 chance - you just never think of the person who is that 1 in 100.

There were a few books I bought my sister from Amazon that she thought were really helpful - I will have a look in a while and try to find out the names of them for you.

Twinkie · 23/09/2004 10:41

\link{http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/search-handle-form/026-7432354-9625244}

Hope this works mears - did a search and came up with these - empty cradle broken heart is supposed to be really good andf you could try contacting Kings they might have some literature that relates to this problem or know of some good counsellors.

Good Luck.

Twinkie · 23/09/2004 10:42

Sorry try again

have a look at \link www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/search-handle-form/026-7432354-9625244

Twinkie · 23/09/2004 10:42

Nope well here goes again

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Twinkie · 23/09/2004 10:43

Oh dear sorry hopefully you can copy and paste the URL or someone else can manage the link!!

Twiga · 23/09/2004 11:42

Here you go Twinkie
empty cradle broken heart

bundle · 23/09/2004 11:44

(mears, my friend had a lovely baby girl after her amnio loss - but has had all sorts of problems since, which she blames on the amnio & subsequent infections..not sure if the literature bears this out though)

suedonim · 23/09/2004 16:27

I'm so sorry to hear of this, Mears. Have you tried the NCT's Experience Register on 0870 444 8707? They may have someone available who's been through the same thing.

Dingle · 23/09/2004 16:41

Oh mears, my heart goes out to them. Can't possibly imagine how I would cope- I chose not to have any tests- hence the shock (& guilt in a way) when dd was born.
I hope that they get all the help & support they need to see them through this.((HUGS))

aloha · 23/09/2004 17:20

Tommy's charity deals with all sort of premature birth. Don't have a number but it's on the net. How absolutely dreadful for them. Grief and guilt make a very bad combination. Of course they shouldn't feel guilt at all, but it would be only natural to.

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mears · 23/09/2004 17:26

Thank you very much for your suggestions. Will have a look at the book. I really hate the hurdles that are put in women's way when it comes to pregnancy. There are the screening tests and scans that often cause more worry than the reassurance they are supposed to provide. You then make the most difficult decision reagrding invasive testing, and the result is horrendous. Don't know the answer really. I am sure many women opt to have tests because they are so routine and they presume that they will be normal. I did it myself. I was just so fortunate that I did not have to cross that hurdle.

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Sarahx2005 · 22/02/2005 12:18

I've heard that there is more chance of losing a healthy baby from having an amnio than there is of anything being wrong with the baby.
Sarah x

Dophus · 22/02/2005 14:43

Absolutely..

Risk of miscarriage after amnio is 1 in 200 - I can't understand why anyone would have one done.