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2 MC in 11 weeks - v sad

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 06/08/2007 15:12

Title says it all really Got pregnant in the month after my 1st MC (at 5 weeks) - was thrilled and hopeful. Tried to think positive and focus on the fact that it would be more likely to succeed this time.

Had spotting last week (7.5 weeks), scan on Friday confirmed the embryo was fine and there was a heartbeat. Started bleeding more heavily at the weekend and passing clots today so I know I am losing it. Got a scan tomorrow at EPU but I am not hopeful.

Just utterly gutted and don't know what to do for the best, swing between feelings of anger, bitterness and despair. Also so frustrated that I can't hold on to a pregnancy.

Any advice thoughts gratefully received

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beansprout · 06/08/2007 15:13

Milf, I am so, so sorry

Be kind to yourself and just do what you need to do to get through the next few days and weeks.

What have the hospital/your GP said?

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 06/08/2007 15:16

Not much really, I've got PCOS (although I don't display many of the typical symptoms) so i don't know if this is a factor - the GP/consultant dismissed my concerns. Everyone just seems to say it is just one of those things which is not helpful.

I guess I am looking for answers that probably aren't there.

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belgo · 06/08/2007 15:18

milf - I'm so sorry to hear this.

beansprout · 06/08/2007 15:19

PCOS may be a factor but it is reasonable that they should be able to tell you what bearing it could have and what your options are. You really shouldn't be dismissed, especially at a time like this. Could you see another GP?

fawkeoff · 06/08/2007 15:21

so sorryur going through this......thats pretty much all they say unless u have had 3 consecutive miscarriages.i had 3 miscarriage before i had dd then another one before i had ds.......just wanted to let u know that i understand how ur feeling at the moment x

fawkeoff · 06/08/2007 15:22

sorry had 2 before dd not 3.....so they wouldnt do tests to see if there was anything wrong

paulaplumpbottom · 06/08/2007 15:25

Honey I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. Its especially hard after you have seen it on a scan and seen its little heartbeat. I am so sorry you have lost your babies. Chin up, there is always next time. I know that isn't much comfort but it is the truth. Get lots of rest. Make sure your DH spoils you for a week or so. Remember no baths.

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 06/08/2007 15:29

No baths???

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paulaplumpbottom · 06/08/2007 15:47

Sorry sweetie. It could cause an infection so only showers until all the bleeding has stopped.

paulaplumpbottom · 06/08/2007 15:49

Are you in any pain?

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 06/08/2007 15:51

Ah right.

Just achey in my back, seems to get worse before I pass clots (not had anything big yet though??). Hoping this won't drag on for too long and everything passes out quickly.

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paulaplumpbottom · 06/08/2007 22:56

Its just your womb cleaning itself out and it will pass so don't worry. Make sure you are taking it easy.

Jenkeylovesdazzy · 06/08/2007 23:01

I know you're not in the right place to think about all this now but I have pcos and had two miscarriages very close together. I was taking metformin for my pcos but not a high enough dose - consultant put me on 2000mg/day and it made all the difference.I don't want to overload you at the moment though as you are going through a very difficult time. I know you feel in your heart that this pregnancy has already passed but I did have very heavy bleeding with my third pregnancy and it did all turn out ok. Thinking of you. xx

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 07/08/2007 16:05

Ok so here is the weird thing, had a scan and embryo is still there having grown normally and the heart is beating away??? So they don't know where the clots are coming from and why I am bleeding??

Said it is not coming from the womb or the embryo so more likely to be from the cervix. Does anyone know the symptoms of cervical erosion or what it might be?

They said if bleeding doesn't stop I have to go back next week for further tests, and at the moment I have a 50% chance of miscarrying.

So good and bad news.

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paulaplumpbottom · 07/08/2007 17:45

Thats great !!!!! and not so great at the same time. You'll have to take it extra easy now. Keep your chin up

belgo · 07/08/2007 19:01

milf - the baby is still fine?!!that's great news!! I hope the bleeding gets better soon.

paulaplumpbottom · 07/08/2007 19:03

So what else did they say?

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 07/08/2007 19:06

They didn't say anything else, just if the bleeding/clots continue next week to go back for further tests.

Is there any chance I could be miscarrying a twin or am I deluding myself??

(Have started another thread here about this.... www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=1367&threadid=368029&stamp=070807184138

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belgo · 07/08/2007 19:07
  • maybe you are miscarrying a twin. This most be a nervewrecking time for you.
belgo · 07/08/2007 19:07

must not most!

paulaplumpbottom · 07/08/2007 22:32

Can you miscarry just one twin?

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 08/08/2007 08:35

Apparently so, one study suggests that 1 in 7 of us were twins yet so few twin conceptions actually stick. Happened to a friend of my sisters', exactly the same experience as I am currently happening.

Passed some more clots this morning so I have no idea what is happening. Just wait and see I guess.

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belgo · 08/08/2007 09:39

milf - are you seeing your GP/Epu today to find out more? It's worrying that you're still passing clots. I really hope all is ok xxx

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milfAKAmonkeymonkeymoomoo · 08/08/2007 09:43

Just phoned for an emergency appointment at 11.10 with my GP so will see what he says.

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belgo · 08/08/2007 09:48

good luck milf.