Miscarriage

[Ruthsoph]

Hi all
I recently had a scan at 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat so had to go back a week later to check and still no heartbeat so I am now faced with letting the miscarriage come naturally, medical or surgical
Can't face waiting for it to happen and it's now been 3 weeks so what did other opt for - I did think medical but then I couldn't face if it didn't work and then with surgical I was told that this could effect future pregnancy's??
Any advice would be greatly appreciated x

Question to those of you who have had surgery to speed up the process (mainly missed miscarriage ones)- how did you find it? Did the surgery hurt, have you had to be knocked out or just local anaesthetic? I'm very nervous about it but I think I'm going to chose that option if everything is confirmed at the next scan. I just want to end this awful period and start again as soon as possible.

Hi Babybloom - noticed your question. My erpc was under general anaesthetic. It was a day surgery, I was in from early morning to early evening. Having had a mc (hb stopped) at 9 weeks that took another 10 days to actually happen, I was keen for something quicker. I would say physically this was the easiest, just to have a day you go in and it’s all finished that day. Well not the emotional response, obviously.
You continue to bleed afterwards but wasn’t in any particular pain. I would not want to be awake for the procedure.

@Tunnockswafer thank you! I'm terrified of general anaesthetic so I'm now really anxious and worried what to do. I still try to cling onto the tiniest bit of hope that at the next scan they will miraculously say that baby appeared but I know it's just me being silly, so I'm trying to prepare myself.

I don't see why it couldn't be done under local, it would just be upsetting though so maybe that's why they don't - nothing wrong with waiting for everything to pass naturally if you prefer - or there are tablets I believe though I didn't have those. I had two earlier mcs without intervention and they were over fairly quickly, it was just the one which I suppose was a mmc though they didn't call it that.

@Babybloom I had the surgical last week and was out to sleep - the actual op takes like 10 minutes and I slept for 3 hours after - it was just a day stay
I could of had the tablets but it's not 100% that it would all come away and I just wanted it gone so that I can start again ASAP
Still bleeding now but not heavy
Xxx

@Ruthsoph @Tunnockswafer if you don't mind me asking did you have a blighted ovum? I'm wondering if it would be really hard and long for my body to realise there isn't anything in the sacs. I have two empty sacs, nothing in there not even a yolk sac. Thanks for your answers ladies and totally understand if you don't want to talk about it!

No I don't think so - I'd 4 mcs and they all developed to an extent (two had heartbeats) and then just stopped growing. I had treatment and had a successful pg, thank goodness. He's 5 now so it's a lot easier to talk about the mcs than it was back then. I hope you get a better outcome with your next scan but if not then please don't lose hope.

@Babybloom I had my scan at 7 weeks and I had a fetal pole but no heartbeat, had another scan a week later and the sac was still growing but that was all and still no heartbeat
A year previously on the day of my 3 mth scan I started to bleed, at the scan they told me the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks - so it took 6 weeks for my body to realise - I didn't want to wait this time for my body to realise so that's why I had the surgical last week
Xxx

Back to work tomorrow... absolutely dreading it. Nerves! Just don't want to discuss it with people even though I know they mean well. Can't wait to get tomorrow over x

@Ruthsoph so sorry for your loss. I feel your pain. I've been going through ivf & recently got 1st positive result only to miscarry at 3 wks. Listen to medical staff and see what they advise but also listen to your own heart I know your head probably in a daze like mine lately but try trust in what your heart is telling you to do x x