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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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3 m/cs then succesful pregnancy?

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frogger77 · 01/06/2007 18:20

Anybody had three miscarriages then gone on to have a succesful pregnancy? I have had three now and am awaiting date to go to recurrent mc clinic. Just wondering if anybody has any nice stories to give me incentive to continue trying.

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HellKat · 14/06/2007 20:26

Hiya,
So sorry for your losses.
I have had 4 mcs.
Had ds1, then 1st mc.
Had 2 in between. Had ds2, then had my 4th & went on to have our dd1.
There is light at the end of the tunnel & this site has been a godsend.
A wonderful thread I used to be on (but luckily graduated from ) is the TTC after MC thread. They all understand what it's like.
Good luck hun, hope everything works out.
x

karney · 10/07/2007 12:13

hi I'm new to this. I'm having my 3rd m/c in a row. Was so postive about this one as I had a scan at 8weeks and there was a strong heartbeat, but the baby stopped growing at week 9. Really struggling to cope with this. We want a child so much and i'm so scared it won't be possible. Got to go for tests Thursday 12July. Thanks for sharing your experiences it's helped me face another day.

plummymummy · 10/07/2007 16:36

Hello I have just been told my baby is dead. I am having an ERPC tomorrow. It is my 3rd consective m/c (2 last year) and I am being referred to recurrent m/c clinic. Like the op I am cheered by stories that 4th need not go the same way. I have a 3 yr old ds so lucky to have him but so want a brother or sister for him.

karney · 11/07/2007 10:38

Hi plummymummy, i'm really sorry for your loss. 3 in a row seems such a hard blow but I have to keep reminding myself that there are lots of bridges to cross and plenty of examples of woman who have have children after recurrent mc. The hardest thing for me just now is to stay positive and take each day as it comes without jumping a way ahead into the unknown. i really wish you all the best.

sfxmum · 11/07/2007 10:51

have not read all but to OP

yes had 3 before dd, now 2.1
all mc before 12 wks have PCOS

am trying again and i am anxious again about possible mc, it never leaves you that
also while pregnant was permanently in the toilet checking my knickers

best of luck

sfxmum · 11/07/2007 10:56

i meant to say i am very sorry for your loss

one thing i found hard to take at the time was being told that only after 3 would i be eligible for referral, i think it makes sense but so very hard to take

wishing you all the best

downbutnotout · 11/07/2007 22:41

The facts are on your side frogger - you still have a 60% chance of a baby from the next pregnancy. I wish you all the luck in the world! I'm still getting over my 3rd consecutive mc last month and trying to sort out in my head what I'll do next. I have a lovely daughter from my first (very uncomplicated) pregnancy so I have to believe that it's still possible, but I understand how not being able to have the baby you want makes the desire even stronger to the point where you think you can't bear it - but you can. We'll get there...

orangehead · 11/07/2007 23:33

yes I had three miscarriages then had two successful pregancies. I had all the tests done which revealed nothing which was hard, as how can you fix something when you dont know what is wrong? I then read about taking low dose aspirin, so I talked to my consultant about it. She said that my blood results for blood clotting was normal but they are not always accurate so I could take the aspirin if I wanted. So the next two times I got pregant I took it and I have have two gorgoeus boys. I am not saying you should take it but perhaps ask your consultant. I am very sorry for your lose and wish you all the luck. Even though I had two healthy boys I did bleed though most of both the pregs, I am telling you this as after 3 miscarriages I was a mess when I started bleeding and convinced I was going 2 lose the baby but I didnt. Anyway good luck

plummymummy · 12/07/2007 09:54

Hi Karney, wish you all the best for today with the tests. Like you, my baby had a heartbeat at 7.5 weeks, but then stopped developing. I found out at 11 weeks that it had died 4 weeks before. I am grateful that I found out now rather than at the nuchal scan which was due next week. That would've been awful. How are you feeling? Has the m/c been awful physically? My first one was v painful, the second not too bad and this one is the best yet as it was an EPRC so I did not have to go through the trauma of seeing the retained products

plummymummy · 12/07/2007 09:55

orangehead - glad you had two successful pgs after your m/cs. Do you think the aspirin made the difference or could it have been coincidence?

karney · 12/07/2007 13:15

Hi Plummymummy, just back from hospital, scan showed a complete m/c again. All of my m/c have been over very quickly and all quite intense. You know, the physical pain I can bear but the mental anguish from this one was/is hell. I suppose that,s because it was the 3rd and I was losing hope and I also thought because of successful early scans that it would work out. Had the blood tests done today and it'll be 8wks before they're all back. I've just got to let that be for a while.I feel a bit better 2day knowing that's out of the way. Hope you are coping ok and all goes well.

orangehead · 12/07/2007 16:31

plummymummy- I dont know, it could of just been the right time, but it could well of been. After three I had lost all hope, I thought I would never have a baby. We decided to stop trying as I couldnt face losing another baby, but got preg by accident (glad I did) so took the aspirin straight away. When you are that desperate I would of tried anything. I will def take it for my next preg (not planned 4 a few years. Again I would stress that not anyone should take it but to ask yr doc.

Apparently the reason it works is some women develop blood clots in the placenta in the bodies attempt to stop feeding what the body thinks is a foreign body so the aspirin thins the blood to try and prevent this. Most hosp do the test 4 this after yr 3rd lose so you are not preg at time, but the results are better done while you are actually preg to see if this response is happening, but apparently even iit is not always picked up then. I hope you and karney are coping as best as you can

orangehead · 12/07/2007 16:45

karney- I was reading some of yr messages, 2 of my miscarriages showed healthy heartbeats at 9 weeks then no heartbeat at 12 wks. Its so hard when you see you baby moving and seemily ok then for it to happen. It doesnt make it easy but some of my friends who have miscarried earlier are very upset that they have no memto of thier babies and although 4 along time I couldnt look at my scans pictures it was nice to know I have them. Sometimes I look at them now years down the line and I glad I have them. Anyway hope you ok

orangehead · 12/07/2007 17:21

plummymummy - sorry to waffle on but just had another thought about the aspirin. Because two of my babies had heartbeats at 9 weeks and the 1st the hosp said died at 11 weeks I felt convinced, although would be wrong, that the babies were healthily and didnt have a defeat like apparently what alot of m/c babies do, b4 I knew about the aspirin I felt something else was going. I feel the blood clot explains this, but obviously I dont know and never will. When I gave birth 2 my 1st son my doc introduced me to every other doc as "this lady is an aspirin success case", but again it could of just been time

plummymummy · 12/07/2007 18:14

Thanks orangehead. It's useful to know. I can mention it to the medics when I get my appt at the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

CorrieDale · 12/07/2007 18:22

I had 3 and then DS arrived. Two years later, DD arrived. I took baby aspirin during both successful pgs.

plummymummy · 12/07/2007 18:26

corriedale, did they find anything wrong with your clotting or did you just take it as prophylaxis (in case).

karney · 13/07/2007 10:38

thanks orangehead, I,d had a crazy thought to get rid of everthing in the house that had a connection to any of my pregnancys. Glad now, I've put my scans etc. in a drawer and mabye in the future I can look at them. I,m just trying my best to wait for the outcome of my tests and then decide what to do next. Had heard about the aspirin/herapin method but I don,t know whats wrong with me yet. Hopefully I will find out in time and mabye something can be done. However, need to get something to occupy my mind as I,m not working a the moment and although I need a bit of reccuperation I also don't want too much time to think.

orangehead · 13/07/2007 17:43

Karney- Im glad you kept them. With my 1st I had a baby record book that someone brought when I got preg and I had started to fill it in and I threw that away, infact I tore it up, when I m/c. I regret doin that but so glad I kept my scans. I hardly get them out now perhaps very few months, even though it still hurts what happened its not in a morbid way that I look at them infact it feels quite positive - they are my babies and I never want 2 forget them coz they r part of me, part of what has made me the person I am 2day and made me in2 a better mother to my boys. I hope yr tests go well, it seems strange to hope they find something wrong, just remember if everything comes back normal thats good 2 it just might not feel like it at the time. Hope u coping ok and finding something 2 occupy yrself, this time of waiting can be hell.

karney · 14/07/2007 14:03

orangehead thanks very much, your message has given me a wee boost for the day. Just didn't want to get out of bed today, felt anxious. Have made an appointment to see a m/c counseller next monday. You know, I think I can cope with this better if I wasn't dogged by fear of the worst. I really want to be more positive. I suppose in the last wk i,ve had the scan,tests and a complete m/c in a matter of days. Hormones are all over the place. I got a call regarding a couple of days work yesterday, will give that a bash and see how it goes from there. thanks again.

Tutter · 14/07/2007 14:04

sorry haven't read thread

but i had an ectopic pregancy and two early miscarriages beore concieving ds1

i then conceived ds2 with no problems

best of luck - i know how shitty it all is x

poppy34 · 14/07/2007 19:58

karney fwiw I've had 2 m/c then a tx due to abnormalities - despite massive reservations at first I've found counselling massively helpful (only wish I'd done it earlier and not waited for 3rd mishap to happen).

hope the counselling helps x

orangehead · 15/07/2007 00:03

karney- counseeling is a good idea. Some hosps also have support groups

karney · 15/07/2007 17:10

hey guys, thanks for your support, means a lot. xx

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frogger77 · 16/07/2007 14:32

Hi Karney,
Just wondering about your blood tests that you had done. Were they for recurrent miscarriage or for something else? I have to go for recurrent mc tests on the 19th and have been told they will take between 8-15 vials of blood. Just wondering what else to expect really.
Hope everybody is doing ok!

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