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Can’t cope

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 03:12

Going through my second mc just now. Woke up in lots of pain. Why is life so cruel sometimes 😞 was hard enough getting over the first one.

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Eggyegg · 05/04/2018 03:19

So sorry, OP. Flowers

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 03:24

Thank you xx

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Ritzsaltedcrackers · 05/04/2018 03:35

Oh OP. Been there. I am so sorry. It’s so unfair, isn’t it? Hope you have someone with you? Flowers I know there’s nothing anyone can say to help. Sending you hugs. Xx

boobah23 · 05/04/2018 03:36

So sorry. Xxx

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 03:41

Thank you both. Had just hoped it would be different this time. My husband is here but I’ve just left him sleeping just now, will wake him up if I need him xx

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Ritzsaltedcrackers · 05/04/2018 03:42

How far on are you OP? Is it definitely a MC - not just pregnancy bleeding? X

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 03:46

Only about 6 weeks I think. Can’t imagine with this pain that it is anything else also my test lines weren’t getting any darker and symptoms were faded xx

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Ritzsaltedcrackers · 05/04/2018 03:54

Oh no. It does sound like a MC. I’m so sorry. Can your DH stay with you tomorrow?

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 04:16

Thank you, it sucks. Yes he should be able to, I’ll ask him when he wakes up. xx

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Ritzsaltedcrackers · 05/04/2018 04:36

That’s good. Try to get some sleep maybe if you can. Xx

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 07:53

Thank you, managed to get some sleep. It looks like I have passed everything now so know it’s a mc for sure.
Hope you are doing ok today x

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Ritzsaltedcrackers · 05/04/2018 08:53

Ah, I’m so sorry. That really truly sucks. Take good care of yourself, and keep posting if it helps. X

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 08:57

Thank you, I really appreciate your support xx

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NeverMetACakeIDidntLike · 05/04/2018 08:58

Life is horrible and cruel sometimes :(

Sending you lots and lots of hope for the future xxx

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 08:59

It really is. Thank you 😊 xx

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Jessabean · 05/04/2018 14:17

I'm sorry @K0013 Thanks

Really feel for you. Life really does just suck sometimes & is ok to to just allow yourself to feel shitty for a while. I just had my second mmc couple of weeks ago. If you want any support or even just to openly rant for a bit of needed am here.
So harsh that something so painful is still such a taboo in society. Means we just can't grieve as openly in real life after these things which just makes everything even harder still to deal with. It just sucks... hope you're ok.

XxxX

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 14:53

Thank you, I really appreciate your message. I hope you are doing ok! It really does suck! xx

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sweetpea0318 · 05/04/2018 17:24

I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm struggling to come to terms with my own mc which happened over Easter. Had to go back to the hospital today for blood test and ended up in floods of tears in the car park. I've been reading so many stories online since this all began and gaining some strength from them but it's tough. Hope all you ladies are doing ok x

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 17:30

Hi sweetpea, thank you for your message. I’m so sorry you are going through this, life is so cruel at times. Sending you big hugs xx

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NeverMetACakeIDidntLike · 05/04/2018 18:45

Stay strong ladies.

I had a mc at 6 weeks (after trying for a long time) and I was heartbroken. It happened over Christmas time too which was awful.

However, fast forward three years and I have my beautiful toddler - she's awesome and totally worth waiting for.

Wishing you lots of luck xxx

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 18:53

Aww it’s good to hear some good news. Thank you 😊 I’m sure in time we will have positive stories to share as well xx

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KnitKitty · 05/04/2018 19:17

K0013 I'm so sorry for your loss. Flowers

I had a D&C last week for a MMC. I lost it around 6 weeks as well. I would have been 12 weeks this week.

Be kind to yourself.

Life can be cruel sometimes. There are a lot of women who have had two or more miscarriages and gone on to have healthy children so don't lose hope. I find it really comforting to read stories of others who've been through it already and had a successful pregnancy afterwards. There's a light at the end of that dark tunnel. It's just hard to see it sometimes.

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K0013 · 05/04/2018 20:10

Thank you ❤️ The one thing that makes me feel better is how kind people are, especially on these forums, makes me have more faith in humanity.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope you are ok. You are right there is light at the end of the tunnel, it might just take a little while to find it but we’ll get there xx

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Ritzsaltedcrackers · 05/04/2018 20:44

I had my MC at 7 weeks after TTC for a year. I was so heartbroken as we’d been so ecstatic that I was finally pregnant, I’d been starting to give up hope. The good news is that I conceived again very quickly after my MC and now have a beautiful 8 year old girl. There’s always hope. X

Ritzsaltedcrackers · 05/04/2018 20:45

Flowers to knitkitty and sweetpea too x