Terrified for the pain

[Hopeful4444]

I’m in the process of miscarrying at 7 weeks. So far I haven’t had any pain and passed some large clots but I know it’s going to get worse and I’m so scared. I just want it to be over.

[Hopeful4444]

Please don’t misunderstand me though. Of course I am sad for our loss, I just need to be in the present for my family and for my own emotional well-being

[colourful86]

Totally understand where you are with this, I've sat aside time today to start some wedding planning, we got engaged at New Year, and like you I just want to feel like I'm starting to moving forward, I'm no where near over it but the blackness is starting to fade slowly. Not left the house yet though, not dared in case something happens x

[Hopeful4444]

Congratulations on your engagement. I feel like I did my mourning before I knew the outcome and now I know I can accept it. I just wish I could prepare myself physically. I’m ok in the day it’s the night time I get scared for some reason x

[BifsWif]

I too have had four miscarriages, the worst was like a really bad period and the others weren’t painful at all.

Try to be kind to yourself x

[Hopeful4444]

Thank you BifsWif. So sorry that you’ve had to go through this four times.

[Enirroc]

I completely understand. I had one complete miscarriage, which just happened, and I had one that was missed and only picked up on a scan. I waited three weeks after the scan before having it surgically removed as it just wanted to stay and wasn't happening naturally. Carrying on in that time was horrific especially as I had a nine month old to look after and was also visibly pregnant.

You can do this x

[Purplerain101]

Sorry you are going through this.
I had one at about 7 weeks and it was like very bad period pains but it wasn’t completely unbearable. The next day I felt fine physically again. Good luck x

[Hopeful4444]

Thank you for sharing your stories. I have a 10 month old to look after so just want to be better for her. Got some Solpadeine and sleeping stuff from the pharmacy so hoping I will be a bit calmer tonight x

[Enirroc]

Still in my thoughts x

[anothernetter]

Hi Hopeful. I'm sorry you are going through this. I've had two miscarriages. One around 6 weeks (found out when I was supposed to be around 9/10 weeks) and the other was around 5 weeks. They were both very different experiences but pain wise it was bearable and not at all scary. Trust your body it knows what it's doing. I will admit the first time was more intense than the second one. It got uncomfortable at some points but what I found that was getting in a warm bath had an amazing effect on making the pain almost disappear completely. I had my mum and partner there for support which really helped. The second time it was like having a very heavy period apart from one afternoon when it was a bit heavier. Have plenty of pain killers to hand and try and be near home if you can. I was really devastated after the first time it happened but after the second one (which happened after I had DC1 and we were ttc a second child) I felt like you in that I just wanted it to be over with so I could move on from it. We took a month off ttc after it happened and we were lucky enough to conceive again the following month.

[anothernetter]

Also just to say when I went through it the first time I came across the Miscarriage Association and got a lot of support from them and the website.

[Nb85]

Not sure if i am posting in the right place, i am new to this site.
I found out i was pregnant on the 15.01.18 had slight back pain so my doctor referred me to the early bleeding clinic. I had bloods on the wednesday hcg was 225. Repeated friday 191. Repeated sunday 241. Scan monday tubes looked good, no swelling or internal bleeding. Womb thickening nicely like it should far to early (around 3-4weeks pregnant). They are pushing me to have the injection to end the pregnancy as they say it is a PUL pregnancy unknown location and possibly an eptopic. Had anyone been through this and gone on to have a healthy baby ? Please any advice would be helpfull.
Thankyou

[Hopeful4444]

anothernetter thank you so much for sharing your story and reassuring me. I’m having mild cramps this morning so taken some painkillers already.
Nb so sorry to hear your story lovely, I have no advice but I would start a separate thread so someone can give you some advice. Xxx

[Lisalou88]

Hi I’m so sorry to hear what your going through. I also found out last week that I had had a missed miscarriage, I should have been 11+5 but baby only measured 7+5 with no heartbeat. That was last Thursday and I had to wait till today to be get a D&C.

I was also terrified of it happening naturally before the D&C and how bad it would be as I had read lots of stories online. In the end I did end up miscarrying naturally last night & it really wasn’t like I thought it would be. I had been having bleeding less than a normal period since Monday and cramps on & off then last night I started getting really bad contraction like pains that were unbearable at one point but it did only last 30 mins and then I had lots of bleeding & passed the pregnancy sac & immediately the pain went away. I went in today for scan and was told it looked like everything had passed naturally.

Everyone is different and for you might just be like a normal period. I had worked myself up for it so much and also like you couldn’t sleep for worry but please just try and stay calm, have painkillers ready for when you get first few twinges of pain & have a hot water bottle as this helped me.

Take care of yourself xx