20 week scan no heart beat

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I had my 20 week scan today and there was no heart beat. I’ve taken the first drug with a view to taking the second on sunday to begin labour. How bad will it be? I had a planned c section with my first so no experience of labour.

So sad and sorry to hear your news - hope you get well looked after x

So sorry to read this. I lost a son at 21 weeks and 5 days. Not sure if my experience will help but will share hoping it does.
I had a routine mw appointment and was sent for a scan as she couldn't detect his heartbeat, the scan confirmed there was no blood flow through the heart or placenta. After that I must have been in shock, I know there was discussion but I can't recall specifics. I was admitted to a private room and given an oral tablet to take. 2 days later I think, I was induced. The labour took around 7 hours. Afterwards my baby was taken away for a little while then brought back to my room. He had been dressed in a tiny sleep suit and hat. He only weighed 14oz. The mw took a couple of photos and did hand and footprints. As he was born pre 24 weeks his birth would not be registered which means his death wasn't and they made a little birth certificate. The mw sat up with me the whole night, for the most part silently but I really appreciated that I was given the time to sit and at least see my son.
The next day we arranged a small blessing.
I consented to a post mortem to establish what had happened. I'm very glad I did that as it showed that what happened was a fluke and unlikely to happen again (cord compression)

What you are experiencing is so sad and I can't express how sorry I am.

I'm so sorry you have experienced this: so sorry for your loss x

The same thing happened to me, nearly three years ago and was the worst experience of my life.
As others have said take all pain medication that is offered. I sort of behaved robotically (non-emotional at the time) just to get through the whole process (labour etc), it hit me later. Maitland has offered some good advice up thread so I won't elaborate.
The raw grief has passed now but my loss (a little boy at 22 weeks) travels with me. Most days I am O.K and then suddenly and unexpectedly, I remember and think about what he would be doing now x But essentially, it does get better, if that is the right word, with time.