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miscarraige:please give me stories of future successful pregnancy

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griffintribe · 26/02/2007 09:43

10 days ago i found out that my baby had died, i was 15 weeks pregnant.

I already have a 18month old dd but i am terrified that i will never be able to have another baby.

Has anyone suffered a miscarriage and then went on to have lots of healthy children?

I need some hope for the future.

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jellybeans · 06/03/2007 17:50

^ 11 weeks that should say xxxxx

manicmama · 06/03/2007 17:52

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It is devastating.

After having two healthy children with no problems I had three miscarriages in a row.
I am now 36 weeks pregnant so there is hope!

Best of luck for the future.

3andnomore · 06/03/2007 18:11

((((griffin)))))) sorry to hear about your m/c. It's sad if that happens.
I had 2 m/c's, but at an earlier stage (one at around 8-9 weeks, and one at 5-6weeks).
My first one happened before es, I fell very quickly pg again (my lost Baby was due on 29th feb) and my es was born beginning of June.
I had some bleeding when pg wiht es, and was, obviously, very freaked, especially after I was told that I must have lost him, too (stupid stand in doc apparentlty wasn't that great with scanning, stupid biatch), but obviously he wasn't lost, and is now 10 1/2 years old.
I then had another m/c when he was about 2years old, after that loss wedecided to stop trying at the time, as es was a bit of a handful then anyway.
Well, my ms was born when es was 6 1/2 , no probs whatsoever with getting pg, no bleeding, pretty uneventful pg and BIrth all in all...and when he was 13 month old I found out that I was pg with ys...again, all in all an eventless pg, again no bleeding...
Of course, with all my pg's I was always on edge...but I suppose that is norma, especially if you had a m/c...that you carried a child out is a very good sign, so, try not to worry to much!
Best of luck, and sorry for the long essay!

wishingchair · 08/03/2007 09:42

Hi. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It is really awful but there is light at the end of the tunnel I promise. My DD really did help get me through it - you have to get up every day for their sake.

I was 19 wks when I lost my baby. I got pregnant about 9 months later and went on to have an absolutely beautiful baby girl. The pregnancy was problem free but wasn't easy at all ... it did become easier once I could feel her move though. It took me 6 months to conceive though (normally it was around 3 months) and I'm sure it was cos I was so stressed out about it all.

There is hope ... good luck x

evenhope · 09/03/2007 10:18

I had 2 missed m/c. One at 11 weeks in August 2005 and another in Feb 2006 at 8 weeks. I was 42 and amazed to have conceived so quickly in the first place. I am currently 38 weeks pg having conceived again almost immediately following the last m/c despite being 43.

HTH

Hulababy · 09/03/2007 10:20

I had an early miscarry with my first pregnancy, back in April 2000. I went on and had a very healthy litle girl in April 2002, who is now almost 5.

So sorry you are going through this traumatic time.

mumto3girls · 09/03/2007 10:28

I had three mc's whilst trying for dd3..one was a missed one found at 12 weeks scan. Devastating...the other two were at 7-8 weeks.

Then I fell pg again and had dd3 alsmost exactly one year to date ofdue date of first lost baby....after a further 6 months of trying i have just got a bfp this week so fingers crossed again for no.4!!

I'm sorry you're going through this...i think you only find out how common it is when it happens to you then you think 'how did i never hear about this?'

Get well and try again when you feel ready. Best of luck!!

evenhope · 10/03/2007 10:40

mumto3girls, this baby is due almost a year to the day of the EDD for the first lost one as well. Isn't it weird?

ElizabethF · 11/03/2007 00:27

I lost 4 babies and then went onto have a healthy baby boy on my 5th pregancy. It was a hard journey but well worth it. My son is now 9 months old and a complete joy.

mumto3girls · 11/03/2007 19:31

Evenhope - yes it is weird..my llost babe was due 27/4/04 and my dd3 was due 30/4/05 ( although she actually arrived 3/5/05...

Can you belive that my mw actually managed to mess up my notes and i got notes to take to a scan which were my old ones for the year before...hence a red-faced mw....

DimpledThighs · 11/03/2007 19:34

horrid news - poor you.

I had a m/c 20 weeks then my son then m/c 12 weeks then my daughter.

best wishes.

IamBlossom · 11/03/2007 20:04

Not directly relevant, in that it wasn't a MC but...

I posted on here last February about my friend who lost her baby at birth, and who nearly died herself giving birth to him. It was a horrendous time, and neither I nor, any of her friends can quite believe such a terrible thing actually happened....

I am delighted, proud and so happy to be able to say that she gave birth to a healthy and beautiful daughter last week. Her and her Dh have come through the unimaginable and now have their longed for baby in their house, in the room that has waited for a baby for a year, kitted out with all essentials.

Don't give up hope, is what I am trying to say, and good things DO happen to good people too...

DimpledThighs · 11/03/2007 20:17

I thought I would never have children ever - I was convinced I would be childless and I have two of the wittest and most divine ones now.

BandofMothers · 11/03/2007 20:46

Sorry for the loss of your baby, but don't worry, I had a m/c before any kids. Was really upset cos I thought it would mean it would take ages to get pg again after it. I must've ovulated immediately, because 2 weeks later I was pg with DD1. DD2 arrived 2 1/2 years later.

Don't worry.

funkimummy · 11/03/2007 20:53

Sorry for your loss griffintribe,

I know a fair few mums who've had miscarriages and then have gone on to have successful pregnancies afterwards.

There's plenty of hope for the future.

xx

JoMaddy · 11/03/2007 20:54

There is hope.
I had 6 very early miscarriages in the space of 18 months. I think it's shocking that you have to have three before tests are performed. All tests were clear and I wasn't hopeful when I went for 6 week scan and now she is 4 months old and so very worth the wait.
There must have been a reason for the others not to survive, that is what kept me going.

whywhywhy · 11/03/2007 21:09

Hi griffintribe,

Sorry for your loss I had an mc back in 2002 and was told I might have real trouble conceiving other children because of polycystic ovarian syndrome. This turned out to be completely untrue. I had ds1 a year later and am now expecting ds2 in 4 weeks.

I have met other women, far unluckier than myself, who had multiple miscarriages and then- for some reason no one can fathom- just got pregnant, and it stuck, and in most cases they had more children after that.

There is hope- plenty of it.

recoveringmum · 11/03/2007 21:15

sorry.

my sil had a misacarriage at week 40 and two moths later got pregnant. (she now has 3)

i have also at least 5 friends who have had children after misscarriages

kittywaitsfornumber6 · 11/03/2007 21:17

Hi griffintribe, so sorry that must have been such a terrible shock for you.
My history is:
1998 ds1
1999 ds2
2000 mc
2001 dd1
2002 2x mc
2003 dd2
2004 mc
2005 2x mc
2005 dd3
2007 1 week off having number 6.
So six miscarriages , 6 children, there IS hope, best of luck to you

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bubblymummy · 13/03/2007 22:18

griffin

So sorry for your loss. After my miscarriage I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and had a beautiful son.

Have hope.x

Spidermama · 13/03/2007 22:20

Wow! Kitty. and

You're a bit of a supermum aren't you?

Good luck with number 6.

StinkyPete · 13/03/2007 22:30

sorry for your loss griffintribe

I m/c at 12 weeks. was due around ds's birthday. it was horrid for a few months, but i had a weird feeling by the time my due date came that ds was sooo not ready to be a 'big brother'; he still v much liked being the baby of the house. went on to have the most fantastic dd a year later and think that we've all enjoyed her so much better for the passing of another year.
it's strange looking back. cos at the time it was the worse thing in the world (of course) and maybe i'm projecting a positive spin to make it better, but now i have 2 healthy happy children; i can't feel sad.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 13/03/2007 22:33

my god kitty- what a rollercoaster.

i lost my first babe in 2005 but then went on to have ds1 in 2005 and ds2 in 2006.

no hitches with either pregnancy.
2 very healthy little lads.

alibobins · 13/03/2007 22:36

Had DD in 2000 mc in 2002/3 over new year and had ds in dec 2004.