Termination at five months - heartbreaking story

[Ruth404]

Oh God, has anyone read this? This poor woman had to end her baby's life when she discovered she wouldn't have been able to survive. I can't even get my head around what that must've been like.
standardissuemagazine.com/health/maybe-baby/

Thank you.

This is a beautiful article. Although different to our circumstances (our little boy was stillborn at 36w, and had been apparently fine until just a few hours before labour), many of the things she writes about ring true.

I agree, seeking out pregnancy/baby loss support on the pregnancy board would be tough. I found after our losses (several miscarriages as well), that there seemed to be more bumps and babies around than ever before. It needs to be a safe place, but not a hidden-away place.

Is this policy now, that posts should be hidden away in pregnancy loss to keep them out of the Pregnancy board?

The pregnancy loss board is a good resource, its where people can go to specifically look for those posts, that doesn't change. But deliberately taking posts out of pregnancy to hide in there is a different matter altogether. It feels as if you are reinforcing the notion that we are meant to be hush hush about these things, don't talk about it.

I could't agree more with everything that has been discussed in this thread.

Having a missed miscarriage at almost 13 weeks recently, I had to search for quite a while before finding the miscarriage/pregnancy loss threads & was slightly perplexed as to why it wasn't in the pregnancy/becoming a parent section.

The pregnancy loss threads & discussion were things I had never read before in my life or gone looking for.

It is so shocking- one minute you are pregnant and all is looking rosy, the next you debating whether you should undergo a surgical procedure or shove medication up your vagina to allow the removal of the contents of your uterus...your baby.

Very glad this thread has been moved back under a suitable topic.

Didn't really get the logic of moving it into the Chat section where it'll get deleted after 90 days, alongside with all the lighthearted stuff that gets posted there. This is anything but.

The pregnancy loss section is the rightful place- in the pregnancy threads, to me, it would seem in wrong place alongside all the slightly hysterical "could I be pregnant?!" or having a panic about drinking half a glass of wine before finding out I was pregnant.

Not to minimise these threads, but seeing this article in amongst all the others would not sit well with me.

Hugs to everyone experiencing a very bad time.

I will admit that my MMC experience has left me rather bitter.

Previous to this, I was someone who had had experienced a perfect, textbook pregnancy and is now wondering whether this is the start of a long struggle to have another baby.

Wishing you all the best Turquoise x