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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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I seem to be miscarrying... what do I do?

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 12:01

7 weeks pg. Saw dr yesterday (was booked anyway but mentioned pg & bleeding) - he said it was likely to be a miscarriage and to wait and see and call an ambulance if it becomes excrutiatingly painful.

any advice?

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BowiesJumper · 06/05/2015 12:05

Sorry you're going through this.

It depends on the heaviness of the bleeding and whether you're in pain etc, but I would ask for a referral to the early pregnancy unit (or ring them to see if you can self refer, you can in some places) so that they can scan you and see what is going on. Lots of women bleed during pregnancy for a variety of reasons. I had a phone appointment with my GP who referred me that way.

Good luck!

LorryHen · 06/05/2015 12:15

Hi barefeet,

I'm not sure how a doctor could tell you you're miscarrying without checking the baby.

Did they say definite miscarriage or threatened miscarriage?

I've had bleeding 3 times in the first trimester and now I'm 16 weeks, it doesn't always end badly.

Good luck x

happygojo · 06/05/2015 12:31

Definitely try and get a referral to your EPAU, in some areas it is self referral and the Dr should have referred you anyway IMO.

I really hope it isn't a MC but in case it is I have the following advice:

Don't be alone, it isn't the time to be alone
if you are scared or worried or in a lot of pain... go to A&E, do not hesitate
Get some painkillers, it isn't the time to be a hero.
Get some big pads

There is LOTS of practical advice on the bereavement board and it really helped me through mine. Feel however you need to feel. Whatever you feel is ok. For a long time I felt so angry

But first things first..... get a referral. If you need to, call 111 or go to A&E if the doctors won't refer you.

Good luck xxxx

If the worst happens, I got my next BFP 9 weeks after my MC, I am now 26 weeks xxx

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 06/05/2015 12:34

I'm sorry you're going through this. Your gp gave you really bad advice.

How heavily are you bleeding? There is no way to say for sure whether or not your are having a mc unless you are having really very heavy bleeding and cramps and passing large clots- and even then it isn't certain.
The best thing would be for you to have a scan. Even that might not give you an absolutely certain answer, but it may. Call your epu and try and get a scan asap. If scan shows that the pregnancy is not developing, you will have several options but as you are already bleeding, it means that a mc probably wouldn't be too prolonged and you wouldn't need to wait and rescan.
If it is uncertain (for example the pregnancy measures a week or two behind) and you aren't bleeding heavily, they should rescan in a week or two to see if the pregnancy develops between the two dates.
Sorry you have this uncertainty- I have been there.

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 12:40

Thank you. It's like a period - I have really heavy ones but it's not as bad as that. Lots of clots but small ones. I'm not in pain but it's really uncomfortable. I don't know how to contact EPU or if I am meant to callgp. He seemed to think I should just go home and wait. Haven't seen midwife yet so no contact info for them.

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halestone · 06/05/2015 13:02

You need pads, the thick ones are comfier in my experience. Wear leggings so that your comfy and thr pad feels secure.

Definitely get an appointment at your EPAU, if you can't do that ring your local Gynae unit they will advise you. If they are no help present at A+E and they will tell you definitely what is going on. This is not a time to be in limbo.

Keep your phone/tablet charged incase you need to sit on the toilet for a while.

Yes to medication if you are having a mc paracetamol and ibruprofen were enough for me but i ended up having a ERPC as mine was a mmc and i had to wait for bleeding to start.

Sorry you are going through this it is awful. Allow your body and mind the chance to do what it needs to. So if you want to cry then do it. Sleep then do that, eat then do that.

happygojo · 06/05/2015 13:06

Just google your local hospital and EPU/EPAU they should have a number with what you need to do. When I had my MC, I just called up my doctors and asked for a referral and they did it without me going in. Or go to A&E.

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 13:20

Spoke to EPU who said to go to A&E or try my GP again to get a referral. GPs closed til 2.

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Bogal · 06/05/2015 13:34

Barefeet I'm so sorry you're going through this - I echo what others have said about your Dr not giving the best advice - surprised they didn't refer you to your nearest EPU.

There is a page on here that gives advice on miscarriage www.mumsnet.com/pregnancy/miscarriage but from personal experience stay close to the bathroom and have handy there: painkillers, thick pads, baby wipes, a towel (even just to keep your legs warm), iPod, spare pants and either your phone or someone in the house you can shout to

take care of yourself xx

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 13:38

Thank you.

I'm so sad.

I'm so disappointed that the Dr didn't help yesterday.

DP didn't really want this baby anyway but I did.

I don't even have any pads because I don't usually use them. Kids home from school in a couple of hours so I need to pull myself together.

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happygojo · 06/05/2015 13:43

Hiya, you NEED to get pads (Dr should have told you that too) tampons aren't advised for an MC or any bleeding during pregnancy. I THINK because of the infection, or maybe because it is easier to monitor.... I definitely got told to only use pads until the MC bleed had stopped completely

Izzy24 · 06/05/2015 13:50

I'm appalled by your GPs advice.

You definitely need an EPAC/EPAU appointment.

Quickest route will be to go via A&E.

Take someone with you if you can.

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 13:53

I don't feel like I can justify A&E. I don't want to waste their time. It's increasingly uncomfortable but I'm not in loads of pain.

I have a couple of pads that a visitor left so am ok for now.

DP says he's worried and wants to help but wasn't doing anything to help so I sent him back to work.

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MNHQ

BeccaMumsnet · 06/05/2015 13:53

Hi everyone - we're just going to pop this over to Miscarriage at the OP's request.

Barefeet - wishing you all the best from MNHQ

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 06/05/2015 13:56

You do need to know what's going on though. If you bleed for a few days, you really won't know if you have miscarried or not and so you definitely need to be scanned.
If you do feel certain you have miscarried (with mine, I was very definitely aware of passing the sac) then you still need to keep an eye on things and ideally be scanned so you know if it is complete.

ArfurFoulkesayke · 06/05/2015 13:57

Really surprised / disappointed at your GP's advice. Ring your local early pregnancy unit and they should sort out when they can scan you, or go to A&E (basically what Izzy24 said)

I had a MMC with my second pregnancy and then a big bleed at about 6 weeks with my third, GP said she thought I was miscarrying but sent me to the EPU anyway for a scan - all was absolutely fine, no reason every given for the bleed, DD is now nearly 6.

Am keeping all crossed for you Barefeet

Fatty12 · 06/05/2015 14:09

Hi Barefeet
I went through exactly the same at 12 weeks but without the clots. I went to A&E and they booked me for an early scan at EPAU the following morning. It turned out to be a bloodclot and baby was fine! .. I think you should google the EPAY number for a hosp nearby to you and just ring them for advice. The nurses from where I live were really understanding.

Goodluck anyway, hope it all goes well for you.

fingers crossed xx

Fatty12 · 06/05/2015 14:10

Just to add on, a bloodclot in my stomach that was trying to push its way out hence the bleeding and cramps.

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 14:10

Thank you. Arfur, EPU won't see me without referral from GP. GP won;t refer without seeing me (even though they saw me yesterday) so I have to go up there later. I don't want to leave the house

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 14:26

Ugh, coincidentally, the midwife just called me to make my booking in appointment. She greeted me with 'CONGRATULATIONS'

She'll call tomorrow to see how I get on today and to see if I need her after all.

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Barefeet · 06/05/2015 14:27

Thank you MNHQ for moving this thread.

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Izzy24 · 06/05/2015 14:41

Midwives should be able to make an EPAU appt for you.

GinPleaseThankYou · 06/05/2015 15:16

Oh barefeet.

In all honesty, I got so fucked off with EPUs fobbing me off without a Dr referral that I rang around my local area until I found one who would see me that day without a referral. Can you try and do this? izzy is also right - you could phone your midwife back and ask her to refer you.

Making a woman wait days when she's going through this is fucking unfair and adds to the trauma of an already horrible situation.

I hope you get some answers very soon.

happygojo · 07/05/2015 09:06

I hope you are doing ok xxxxx

halestone · 07/05/2015 10:11

How are you today Barefoot?

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