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MMC: Where the knicker checking is terrifying.

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halestone · 03/04/2015 07:41

Went for a scan yesterday at the EPAU. It was just meant to be a reassurance scan as i had seen the heartbeat 2 weeks ago at 7.1 weeks. However i was insistant that something felt off about this pregnancy.

Unfortunately i was right and it wasn't routine and the heartbeat had stopped and there was no activity within the foetus. A second sonographer came in and confirmed a MMC. Bloods/swabs were taken and i was given my options. I decided to come home and make a decision by next tuesday. I have had a MMC in the past and rushed into a ERPC i always regretted not thinking about it so i am giving my body chance to get use to it before i decide.

The waiting is horrible though. I am stocked up with medication, maternity pads and mats. Practically i think i would be able to deal with it if it happens before Tuesday,i have contact numbers incase i think things are going wrong. But honestly every damp feeling has me running to the toilet. Its the uncertainty thats bothering me.

I am lucky that i have my 2 year old Dd with me, she makes me smile while i want to cry. I managed 2 hours sleep last night, i kept seeing that screen with my baby on itSad

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sebsmummy1 · 07/04/2015 21:59

I heard the same stat re. seeing the heart beat. I also fell into the crap stat after seeing everything perfect at nearly 10 weeks.

Hand holding xx

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halestone · 07/04/2015 22:16

Thank You Sebsmummy, hope your ok alsoThanks

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Adventuregame · 08/04/2015 08:21

Halestone I had bleeding and severe cramping on the sunday but then it stopped and dr said cervix was closed. I didn't have any more bleeding or cramping between then and my ERPC so hopefully you'll hold out til your procedure tomorrow. I've hardly had any bleeding and no pain after the procedure and it was definitely the right decision for me.
I hadn't realised the stats re seeing heartbeat - I saw hearbeat at 5 weeks but baby stopped at 9 weeks and I found out at 12. It's so sad !

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halestone · 08/04/2015 20:30

AdventureThanks it is awful, i wouldn't wish this on anyone. I've had some horrific cramps today and even had to ask my Dad to help me out with my Dd (Dp works nights so was in bed) But still no clots just pretty consistant bleeding. Just have to get to tomorrow afternoon then i can have a ERPC.

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halestone · 09/04/2015 01:55

I can't sleep and feel the need to vomitSad

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Cliffdiver · 09/04/2015 02:32

halestone noticed your thread on active, am awake all night if you need hand holding Flowers

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halestone · 09/04/2015 02:36

Thank You Cliffdiver, i am vomiting now but unusually for me its not providing any relief from the nausea. Hope you are okThanks

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Cliffdiver · 09/04/2015 02:41

Poor you, I find some cool boiled water helps to settle my stomach a little when vomiting.

I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you manage to feel physically better soon.

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halestone · 09/04/2015 02:58

Thank You i shall try thatSmile

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Marymaymay · 10/04/2015 06:34

How are you doing Hales? I'm hopping the ERPC went ok and you're recovering xxx

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halestone · 10/04/2015 12:32

The ERPC went well had to stay in recovery for a little bit but was home quickly. I slept alot yesterday and last night so feel refreshed for the first time in a long time. Got a headache and discomfort today and very minimal bleeding.

How was your scan?

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Marymaymay · 11/04/2015 07:03

Good to hear it went ok. Are you taking iron supplements? They gave me a hernia last time so am on some gentler liquid stuff now.

It's a week today since my mc and am recovering well, much better than last time, both emotionally and physically. Scan went as well as could have hoped. Nothing left, no 'products of pregnancy' (they need to find another phrase for that). Spoke to the clinic who've said I can start my next round on my next period, so should be 4-6 wks.

Spoke to 2 consultants, both of whom said because I already have a child and because there's nothing structurally wrong that they don't feel
I'm at increased risk next time. One if them said that only 1% of women who have 2mc go on to have a third. Not sure this is right but they definitely reassured me that trying again soon is a good idea.

Got the invoice from the clinic yesterday for a grand which felt a bit like a kick in the teeth!

Are you feeling a bit better today?

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halestone · 11/04/2015 13:07

Are you excited to start again? I am sorry about the bill and can completely understand why it felt like a slap in the face.

Dp doesn't want to try again so i have to leave the subject alone for abit.

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