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miscarriage advice please

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thehairybabysmum · 30/10/2006 11:13

Hello, i started bleeding last week and had a scan on thurs that showed 1 yolk sac + 1 dark area, sonographer said it was v. early in preg (i thought i was aprox 8 weeks but irregular cycle) and too early to tell if second area was a twin, failed second preg or a blood clot type thing. i was booked in again for 2 weeks time.

Since then i have had heavy bleeding and clots yesterday then more bleeding and passed a bubble thing today which i guess is a sac(??).

Im assuming the worst that i'm no longer pregnant but does anyone know if its possible for this to be linked to the unknown area of my scan without affecting the other sac...is this possibele?

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

I have rung the hospital and have a scan tomorrow am, just clinging onto any faint hope til then really.

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Jossie · 01/11/2006 18:57

HBM-this year I've had 2 m/c the first I went through naturally, the second I didn't have any option and had to have the ERPC due to my medical circumstances.
Both times my af started about 6 weeks after m/c, the ERPC didn't hurt, but the bit of m/c before I had the op that time did, with the natural m/c, I was fortunate to have very little pain, just strong period type pains on day 3, but I know other people have been a lot worse than that. With both m/c I had no pain at the start, the forst time I needed to go through it naturally to prove to myself that the baby really had died and that there was no hope, the second time there certainly wasn't any doubt that the pg had ended. Really it's up to you and what your gut instinct is telling you is right for you

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thehairybabysmum · 06/11/2006 09:04

Morning all, thanks everyone (again) for your advice, its just such a shame that you've all been through it too.

Just thought i would update you all, I rang the unit and they booked me in for D&C on friday, then on thurs eve i lost what i can only assume was the 2nd sac; my bleeding then tailed off v. quickly. The hospital said to come in anyway where they did a scan that confirmed everything had gone and that my uterus lining was thin so no surgery needed. The bleeding has virtually stopped over the weekend so I guess i've been lucky that things have settled down relatively quickly.

Monalisasmile sorry to hear you're going through the same right now. How are you feeling after thurs??

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alexh · 08/11/2006 12:15

Hi there -

Just the same has just happened to me: except that I have not yet had any real bleeing and so 9 days after the scan showed 2 sacs with no heartbeat I am still waiting to miscarry. It is not fun. I am having a scan in a week's time and if there is still stuff there (my consultant thinks for some reason it mya just all reabsorb) I am going to have a D&C.

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thehairybabysmum · 08/11/2006 13:26

Hi Alexh, sorry this is happening to you too. The waiting is not nice, its like being in limbo.

If you are finding it hard could you ring the hospital again and ask for an earlier scan/D&C; a week is a long time in this situation, personally i wanted to get the physical side of it over and dome with as quickly as poss.

Thinking of you and keep posting if you need some support and kind words.

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alexh · 08/11/2006 13:51

Thanks for the support. The thing is, I actually have a private fantastic consultant who is the world expert in this stuff and she has advised me to wait it out for a bit longer. I respect her 100% and have been with her for years. she wants to avoid a D&C

However, I have taken an executive decision to not go to work on Monday and spend the whole day in a very posh spa having manicure, pedicure, masage and leg wax. Just to cheer myself up

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thehairybabysmum · 08/11/2006 14:11

well im no expert but that sounds like an excellent plan to me, although personally i would recommend having your eyelashes tinted as well!

Keep me posted how you go next week

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alexh · 09/11/2006 12:13

Hmmm..eyelash tint. What a good idea. I rather thought I might have my hair cut and highlighted and buy some new makeup whilst I was about it

Got rather upset yesterday - a close friend of mine is 7 weeks pregnant with twins - babies No 4 and 5. It just seems so unfair.

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thehairybabysmum · 13/11/2006 09:47

Hi Alexh...sorry i havent managed to fire the computer up before now. Hopeyou have a nice relaxing day today...with the full monty of pampering by the sound of it!!

Ive been thinking that i will be upset by anyone i know announcing a pregnancy in the near future. I think it is natural to think it's not fair i should be pregnant too!!

Do you think you will try again soon?? Im really wanting to get pregnant again as quickly as possible, i guess i feel it will be less upsetting come next June if i am pregnant again. But then there is thet worry of what if it happens again??

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alexh · 15/11/2006 10:45

Hi there

I think we will start trying again after Xmas. I am 38 and a half and I don't think we have time to do what I would like to do which is to wait 6 months

Its now 2.5 weeks after the scan and I still have had no bleeding. EPRC for me on Monday if it hasn't happened by then

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thehairybabysmum · 15/11/2006 11:29

Hi alex...im 36, 37 in march so feeling the time pressure too!!!

Well hope you are looking fabulous after your day yesterday. I might not get to logon again after today so will be thinking of you monday . Are you ok about going in??

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alexh · 20/11/2006 15:35

Hi there

Well had a scan and not surprisingly I still have a sac in there. But my consultant has given me some drugs and wants me to miscarry naturally rather than have an ERPC (long story but I agree with her and trust her). God this is all taking so LONG

am actually fine.

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thehairybabysmum · 20/11/2006 15:59

You being fine is the main thing, and trusting your doc can only be good too.

Keep me posted how you go, i was wondering how you were over the weekend.

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ladypanda · 20/11/2006 19:04

I just miscarried at 6 weeks, and as was bleeding heavily opted for a natural clearance. As soon as I got home the bleeding eased off however, and the pain intensified- I nearly blacked out. Anyone know if this is normal, or whether it wil go on like this? Not sure I can cope if so, but have missed this week's opportunity for a procedure apparently. Can these things be done privately if neccesary? Any knowledge welcome, I'm totally at sea

Jossie · 20/11/2006 19:11

FWIW-I opted for the natural option with my first m/c in April and everything was fine, with minimal pain and blleding, but with my 2nd m/c in August, things were ok, then the bleeding got extremely heavy and I was in a lot of pain, felt something 'pop' and then unfortunately passed out, bleeding heavily and had to go to hospital for an ERPC. I'm not recounting this to scare you ladypanda, or anyone else, but more to say if you are unhappy with anything that's happenning, get it checked out, ironically I was walking home from the doctors where I had been because I was worried, when it all kicked off!!
Hope everything goes better for you!!

Jossie · 20/11/2006 19:13

Also meant to say that if they say you can't have an ERPC this week, I think it is awful, especially if you are in pain-if you want to have it done, then it might work if you go to the A&E department

rahrah1 · 20/11/2006 19:25

HI There - so sorry for your loss thehairybabysmum. I went through many threatened miscarriages and had constant bleeding - it is the worse feeling in the world. I had a different outcome and managed to get to 24 weeks, but still lost our son. I am seeing a consultant next month to discuss what happened and also a way forward. My advise to you is prior to starting again make sure you see a consultant. My consultant has suggested that it could be as simple as taking an asprin everyday during pregnancy. I really hope everything works out (For us both!!) We are looking to try again. All out LOVE.. Rahrah XX

ladypanda · 20/11/2006 19:53

thanks Jossie, makes me feel less alone. Was the procedure painful/ how quickly did you recover?Very sorry for your two losses, and very best luck when it's next time.

Jossie · 20/11/2006 22:36

Hiya
ERPC wasn't painful, didn't even need painkillers afterwards (maybe I was lucky, maybe that's how it always was).
Short procedure under general anaesthetic, then out shortly afterwards.
I preferred the natural way, but 2nd time ERPC was necessary so that was the way it had to be
Best wishes

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thehairybabysmum · 21/11/2006 08:35

Ladypanda...sorry dont know the answer to this...but i agree with Jossie to maybe try A&E so that you dont have to wait til next week.

Rahrah...i read your other thread, am so sorry for you hope you are ok (or as ok as can be expected at least). Im really hoping that the fact i already have a DS is a good sign and that this was just a 'blip'; obviously there's no way of knowing at this stage though. Ive not been offered a consultant follow up so guess i will just see what happens??

Glad to hear that you are getting some follow up support from the hospital though.

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alexh · 24/11/2006 15:25

Hello

Well Itook the drugs and had the miscarriage on Wednesday. It was short and sharp and pretty unpleasant but I passed both of teh scas and am now feeling a great deal better

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thehairybabysmum · 27/11/2006 09:09

Hello Alexh, its just pants isnt it!! At least now the physical aspect is over and you are not in that limbo now.

Hope you are ok x

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alexh · 27/11/2006 09:13

I am fine - in fact I feel better than I have done since conception. I think I had underestimated the impact of carrying around 3 dead things inside me for 6 weeks.......

The question now, is how long do we wait before trying again........

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thehairybabysmum · 27/11/2006 11:05

Ive started trying already...not using contraception rather than timing of things (im not organised enough for this, plus DH works away). Mind you we are currently doing our house up (bathroom at the mo) so what with that, the little one and work we've both been too knackered to try very often !!

Are you still waiting til after xmas??

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lulumama · 27/11/2006 11:08

THBM..just to say hi, glad you are feeling more positive.......xx

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thehairybabysmum · 27/11/2006 11:45

Thanks lulamama...I'm feeling fine, sad every now and then especially if i see baby twins or a tiny baby but i guess thats par for the course.

I dont tend to stew about things in general, tend to go for the onwards and upwards approach to life so this probably helps.

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