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miscarriage advice please

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thehairybabysmum · 30/10/2006 11:13

Hello, i started bleeding last week and had a scan on thurs that showed 1 yolk sac + 1 dark area, sonographer said it was v. early in preg (i thought i was aprox 8 weeks but irregular cycle) and too early to tell if second area was a twin, failed second preg or a blood clot type thing. i was booked in again for 2 weeks time.

Since then i have had heavy bleeding and clots yesterday then more bleeding and passed a bubble thing today which i guess is a sac(??).

Im assuming the worst that i'm no longer pregnant but does anyone know if its possible for this to be linked to the unknown area of my scan without affecting the other sac...is this possibele?

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

I have rung the hospital and have a scan tomorrow am, just clinging onto any faint hope til then really.

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lulumama · 30/10/2006 11:24

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i have no personal experience..but will bump this for you.....

heavy bleeding & clots could suggest that you have lost the pregnancy...

but i think only the scan can tell you definitively...

can they scan you earlier?

pinkranger · 30/10/2006 11:27

Hi , i have no experince of what you are going thorugh, i have had a m/c but it was a missed one so i have no bleeds.

This could have ben a twin.
wishing the best tomorrowxx

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thehairybabysmum · 30/10/2006 11:53

bump

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oinker · 30/10/2006 13:40

I have had expereince of this...

Mine was the same... Docs thought I was m/c'g. I still had loadsa symptoms. It was decided that I was expecting twins. I lost one twin at about 7week stage. Second was there and appeared to have a hb. By 11 weeks and a lot of flaffing around it was confirmed that I had m/c'd both. I then had a d&c. During the first loss I passed small clots and dark red blood. Not lots though.

Though this sounds really negative I know of one mumsnetter...Hellkat to have gone thru what you are and though they beleived she was m/c and offered a d&c she refused and now has a healthy baby girl. The bleeding was from a cyst....

I wish you all the luck in the world for tomorrows scan...

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thehairybabysmum · 30/10/2006 13:41

thanks, couldnt get an earlier appt. so will just have to ride it out until tomorrrow.

Would just like to say that Lulamama you are always the voice of reason, i see you on lots of threadds.

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zoepybus · 30/10/2006 13:46

Hi, can't imagine how you must be feeling at the moment. I had a miscarriage, then fell pregnant quite soon after, but during the first few weeks before I even realised I was pregnant again I had a very heavy bleed for a few days - but went on to have a perfect little girl. The doctors couldn't tell me what the bleed was, I asked about maybe a twin that didn't make it but never got an answer.

So all I can really say is good luck and I really hope tomorrow brings good news for you, because even a heavy bleed may not mean the worst. Fingers crossed!

emned · 30/10/2006 14:15

Totally agree with Lulumama.
Can't think the worse until you know for definite at the scan.
I feel for you as I miscarried at 12 weeks on April 3rd and amazingly I'm pregnant again and due on April 3rd!!! Sometimes these things just aren't meant to be.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you for tomorrow.
Good Luck!

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thehairybabysmum · 30/10/2006 15:01

wow emned, to be due on the same date is amazing...your cycle must be regular to the minute!

Thanks for all your thoughts, I will keep you all posted.

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lulumama · 30/10/2006 15:03

thank you ......i do hope that you get a positive outcome...should it not be so...you won;t be short of support.....xx

oinker · 31/10/2006 08:13

Good luck for today.

lulumama · 31/10/2006 08:35

morning......fingers crossed for positive news today......hope you got some sleep last night...

emned · 31/10/2006 14:22

Thought I'd check in to see how you got on. Been thinking of you today. Fingers are still firmly crossed for you.

edie123 · 31/10/2006 18:03

How did it go?

lulumama · 31/10/2006 18:14

just checking in......thinking of you ....

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thehairybabysmum · 01/11/2006 09:21

Hello everyone, thanks for all thinking of me, tis really nicce to know. Well had a scan and im afraid it's not good news there is still something in there but there is no longer a yolk sac and it is small and irregular in shape than last week so they think it is a second failed pregnancy still remamining.

Im still bleeding and have chosen to let it happen naturally for now although they said i could have a D&C if i wanted.

Im really disappointed and obviously sad but not really surprised. What is surprising me though is that i feel really annoyed...not an emotion i expected to feel at all. Im cross that im not still pregnant as i was delighted and im also cross that it was probably twins as i really wanted twins, how bizarre is this!!

Anyway it clearly wasnt meant to be this time and i jsut feel lucky i already have one gorgoeus bub, i think i would have been really devastated if this had happened before i had him rahter than my current upset but fairly pragmatic (apart from being cross!) feelings im having at the mo.

The support on this site is amazing, ive used the site since my last pregnancy but only started posting more recently and its really helped....on another thread someone said to give hairybaby a big hug, that made me smile several times yesterday just thinking of him as hairybaby and it really helped.

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lulumama · 01/11/2006 09:26

((hug)) - sad news ,but you sound like you are getting you head around it as much as you can......take it easy...be kind to yourself...whatever emotions you are experiencing..and they will probably change frequently...let them come .....don't feel you have to 'be' a certain way......be annoyed if thats what you need!

take care........

emned · 01/11/2006 09:33

I did wonder as we didn't hear anything from you yesterday but you're looking at the whole situation in exactly the right way. You've got one beautiful baby so you know you can do it. It's just a case of getting back on the horse when you feel you're ready.
Anger is good as it's all part of the grieving process and that I'm afraid is still what you have to do
When it happened to me I was told to think of it as a test run to get my body in to gear for the real thing and it doesn't mean that you forget but as you said just think it wasn't meant to be this time. My thoughts are with you as it is a rotten thing to go through but you will get through and your right the support is here.
(((BIG HUGS)))

zoepybus · 01/11/2006 11:05

I'm so sorry it wasn't the outcome we all wished for you - take care of yourself and just let the emotions run.

foundintranslation · 01/11/2006 11:07

I'm really very sorry hairybabysmum.

Whatever you feel, grief, anger, irritation... is entirely normal; go with it, and be kind to yourself.

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thehairybabysmum · 01/11/2006 14:12

More advice needed if anyone is still around...I opted not to have a D&C yesterday when offered, i just wanted to get out of the hospital really and didnt really think it over.

Now ive had a bit more time im thinking it might be the best option as it would get it over and done with. Not sure how long i can expect it to carry on naturally...i had a look at the pregnancyloss website and it seems that it could be a while. Ive already been bleeding for 1 week and dont really want to be like this for another 2-3 weeks?? Also if i do have D&C can i expect my cycle to return more quickly??

Can anyone give me any idea of what to expect from D&C, does it hurt, what were the after effects??

Thanks again

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oinker · 01/11/2006 14:18

I am so sorry this has happened to you.

Like I explained earlier I went thru the same.

I opted for a d&c. My periods came back 28 days after my last bleed from the d&c. The bleed was very light after the op and almost painless. I would definately opt for it again. It was my second. I have had 4 naturally at home. They were long and drawn out.

The decision is yours. Do what you feel is right for you hun.

Thinking of you.

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thehairybabysmum · 01/11/2006 14:31

thanks...long and drawn out is what i would like to avoid. I think ill ring EPADS and have a chat with the nurse, she said to call if i had any questions.

So sorry you've had to go through this so many times

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Scubes · 01/11/2006 16:57

Hi HBM

Sorry to hear all your news, it's utter cr@p isn't it?!

I had a missed miscarriage in Sept, first pregnancy. I opted for the D&C because I coulnd't face going through it naturally (had already done 2 days and was in a lot of pain). But before I made the decision we did come home and read up before ringing back to make the appt.

This one is a personal preference but having read your thoughts I would encourage you to have the op. I didn't have any pain or bleeding afterwards and had my first period 6 weeks later. I think it takes long enough for your body to get back to normal so don't underestimate the physical effects, for me the op helped me to get on with coping with my emotions without any pain distracting me.

I was of couirse worried about the procedure but it all went very smoothly and the staff were very supportive.

Whatever you decide good luck xx

d4phne · 01/11/2006 17:48

Hairybabiesmum. Sorry to hear of your loss. I had exactly the same concerns and ended up opting for D&C. For me the main concern was what would be the best in avoiding a post-m/c depression in terms of hormones. It's been six weeks since my ERPC and AF hasn't arrived yet. Indeed I tested positive until yesterday and didn't know if it was leftover hormones or a new pg. If I'd have to do it again, I would ask to have my hormones levels checked as part of the aftercare.

monalisasmile · 01/11/2006 18:41

Hi HBM, im so sorry to hear of your news and am glad that you are being well supported on this site.

My own situation replicates yours to virtually the last detail, and though I have rare ly posted i have received a lot of secondary support and advice, just by reading the other threads. thanks to everyone on this site.

i will be going in for a d+c tomorrow morning and I am sure that once you've been given the advice and a chance to weigh up the pros and cons, you may find that making the decision will, in itself, help you on the road to moving on. no doubt you will continue to receive such great support here.

all the best, whatever you decide is the right decision and please let us know how you are doing - good or bad.

hug and all.