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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 11

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bakingtins · 02/08/2014 10:39

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

OP posts:
TinyTear · 04/08/2014 20:56

Hmmm so you got the steroids as well... They didn't stop them when you got results...

I'll see how it all goes...

Ahrgh.. Nervous now in case it's BFP tomorrow...

longestlurkerever · 04/08/2014 20:59

Hello everyone. Thanks for the new thread. Belatedly here are my stats. 33 yo. 1 dd born Aug 2011, started ttc dc2 in March 2013. 1 chemical pregnancy in Aug 2013, 1 mmc at 11 weeks in Jan 2014 (gestation 6 weeks), 1 mc at 7 weeks (gestation 5 weeks) in June 2014. Currently undergoing tests at St Mary's. Possible thin blood and PCOS but need to speak to Mr Rai next week.

Am on holiday and feeling miles better. Can go several hours without thinking of pregnancy and miscarriage! Have been swimming in the sea which was great.

Hugs, Cat. The tree sounds lovely. On your question. I am actually very pro choice. An unwanted baby is a tragedy for all concerned. But I don't know what choice I personally would make.

WiFi here is a bit slow so sorry for not naming everyone.Will catch up properly when back.

JBrd · 04/08/2014 22:29

Fab fab news, tanny, so pleased for you!ThanksThanks If I remember correctly, a good scan after 8 weeks gives you a massive chance for a good outcome! Hope you can relax a little bit now.

Cat, I hope you've managed to channel some of your grief by planting the rose. Due dates suck Sad And they come round far too often...

Well, I got the antibiotics, which make me feel very queasy, but still miles better than before! I'm knackered, tough, early night for me.

bootles · 04/08/2014 22:48

Tanny Brilliant! Fabulous that things are on track and another milestone has been passed.

So am I right in saying nothing wrong was found in any of your previous investigations, and you are on clexane and progesterone as a sort of precaution/cover all the bases?

bootles · 04/08/2014 22:56

cat sorry to hear that today would have been your due date. The rose is a lovely idea. These dates are tough, and I feel for you today. My next one is coming up in a few days, not looking forward to it.

tiny totally get why you are fed up. It is so incredibly frustrating when a cause is not found. Hope your call with them answers at least some questions.

tannyLoo · 04/08/2014 23:06

Yes, with prednisolone, because my nk results weren't back before I got a BFP.

But who knows why this one is working.

The support of the Coventry team.

And maybe just a goodun in amongst a load of duffers.

I was well rested too, having had 5 months off.

I also have had 7 months of fortnightly acupuncture.

And I left my stressy job.

I wish I had the answer, but at least I can inspire hope! If I can do this with no diagnosis, there is hope for everyone here...

bootles · 04/08/2014 23:28

The Downs news story is very sad. I feel for everyone involved. As others have said, whilst the Australian couple do seem to have made a rather heartless decision, they must have been through a lot to be going down the surrogacy road, and to find out one of the babies had a chromosomal abnormality it must have been pretty tough. I read they discovered this at 7 months into the pregnancy, by which time the surrogate could not bear to terminate. Painfully hard all round. The surrogate did not sign up to be a parent again, and already has children to support - tough on her, however much she loves and cares for the baby.

As others have said, hopefully this will only be a blip for the use of surrogates, or ensure that all the legal documentation is very clear (wonder what the contract in this case said?)

Personally, I think there is no right or wrong when it comes to termination whether for social or medical reasons - there is just a woman,maybe a coup!e, maybe a family, trying to do what they think is best.

My second loss was a termination for medical reasons, and there was a week between finding out at the 12 WK scan that the baby was 80-90% likely to die in-utero, and the actual termination. Long list of problems at scan, with zero chance of any quality of life even if she made it to birth, which I very much doubt she would have done. I felt very guilty that I couldn't save/protect her (later found out it was a girl, and chromosomally normal),but also felt I was saving her from possible pain.I still think we did the right thing for us, but it was a very, very, hard thing to do.

A child with Downs may grow into an adult who has a job, relationships, friendships, and is reasonably healthy. Or they may not be able to communicate, have a limited quality of life, and serious health problems.

I don't know what I would do. In the case on the news it seems there are details we don't yet know, and the fact is that there is a little boy who needs lookng after.

bootles · 04/08/2014 23:34

Tanny, am going to work on the rest and acupuncture. I swear if I left my job and did what I really want to do, the cells in my body would be so happy I wouldn't be surprised if it did the trick! Whatever the reason, its all good x

tannyLoo · 04/08/2014 23:47

Bootles sounds like a plan! x

TinyTear · 05/08/2014 02:02

Here we go again...

Ahhhh the nerves!!!!

bootles · 05/08/2014 06:19

tiny were you up testing in the middle of the night? Or just up worrying? Have you tested yet?

TinyTear · 05/08/2014 06:32

I was testing at 2am
Grin

Needed a wee so went for it...

Really clear result on a first response

So now need to email Coventry to try and get a call today, email my GP to get my thyroid bloods redone and tell my boss so he knows in case I need to go to Coventry at really short notice...

At least I have the counselling starting next week. This is a total headfuck...

tannyLoo · 05/08/2014 06:42

Oh Tiny! A strong line is a good start, you will have excellent support from Coventry, and you've had a good break. Strong things in favour of this one!

Excited and nervous for you, sooooo much! Big squeeze, and whispered congratulations Grin

tannyLoo · 05/08/2014 06:44

Prof B had gone home sick yesterday afternoon, so may not be there today. I'm sure they'll have something in place for this evening though xxx

bootles · 05/08/2014 06:53

tiny A line is great! Mental torture though of course. We are here to listen. How many days post O are you? Am interested in when everyone else tests. One day at a time tiny x

bootles · 05/08/2014 07:00

I mean one day a time is the only way to get through the mental torture - posting paranoia that I haven't written things clearly.

TinyTear · 05/08/2014 07:45

13 dpo. I don't like testing early and I don't test a lot

Justonemoretime · 05/08/2014 08:32

Well done, Tiny, whispered congratulations. xx

Justonemoretime · 05/08/2014 08:35

For comparison, my uNK cell count was 1.76.

TinyTear · 05/08/2014 08:42

just not too far then...

oh well, emailed Kerri and emailed my GP... now just need to spring this up on my boss when he arrives today from his 2 week holiday

longestlurkerever · 05/08/2014 09:15

Great news Tiny! And Tanny! Looks like our thread is looking up this month after the hideousness that was July for so many of us. Hugs to those who still need it. XX

JBrd · 05/08/2014 09:22

Wow tiny! Well done you! Having everything crossed for you that this one sticks around for the next 8-9 months Grin
Why do you have to tell you boss immediately...?

Catlover2014 · 05/08/2014 09:29

tiny this is great news! Congrats. I know you must be nervous but hopefully with the support of the Coventry team you'll get your rainbow baby this time. Where did you say you live? Hope you don't have too far to travel?

I notice you say about work. Does that mean you'll be telling your manager when he's back? I'm unsure what to do with my next pregnancy (if I get one). It's normally kept secret until about 16 weeks at my work but with all my issues I can't see me keeping it quiet that long.

Thanks all for your lovely messages yesterday. The day came and went and wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. bootles sorry to hear you have a date coming up too. Make sure you plan some nice treats and a little something to Mark it with.

XX

TinyTear · 05/08/2014 09:30

I told my boss in case I need to go to Coventry at short notice for scans...

He is cool with it, he has been my boss for 10 years and seen me through 5 miscarriages and 1 successful pregnancy... I would rather he knows (also in case I am a bit more nervous and scatter-brained)

TinyTear · 05/08/2014 09:31

London to Coventry... not too bad... but a bit... last time managed to get tickets for £6 each way
:-)