Having a medical termination tomorrow at 20 weeks

[DRSLondon]

We received the tragic news that our baby had spina bifida and so we made the heartbreaking decision to terminate the pregnancy to spare our child a lifetime of suffering. I am devastated and in shock. I'm also frightened about the labour and what the whole nightmare experience will be like. I know it's too soon to think of the future but I hope I will be able to conceive and have a healthy baby soon. It's the only way I can see myself moving on and being happy again. Has anyone been through anything similar? My sympathies to you if so.

Completely agree Tantrums.

I hope the OP feels able to come back for support or alternatively starts a new thread which I sincerely hope Zigglett will have the decency to steer well clear of.

MNHQ please delete Zigglet's horribly insensitive posts!

OP, I hope you haven't come back to this thread but if you have, I am so sorry for your loss.

DRS I'm so sorry for your loss love

I completely agree they SHOULD be deleted. I hope they are. I was just guessing as to why they might not be (wrongly, in my opinion!)

I have reported yet again and also emailed hq and Justine.

I cannot even begin to imagine the awfulness of the situation for the op and if you are reading this op, please know that I support you and admire your courage and the vast majority of us have compassion and sympathy for you.

Horrified by ziglett's insensitivity.

So sorry for your loss OP. I have no experience of this but my close friend had a medical termination at 23 weeks. It was horrific for her but a few years on they've had 2 healthy children who know about their elder brother and the family feels fondness, not just sadness, when they think of him.

Justine's on the case now.

Morning everyone,

Thank you for all your reports about this thread. They came in too late for the MNHQ staffers, and none of the Nightwatch spotted them. We're sorry the posts were left up overnight, we've now removed them.

for you DRS - our thoughts are with you.

Phew.

Thanks MNHQ. Hugs to OP. What a brave lady.

Hi everyone
WOW! I am amazed by the support you have all given to me at this difficult time. I really appreciate all your messages of kindness and comfort. I also thank you all for standing up for me. I have been too preoccupied with everything so (thankfully) did not see the offending comments. However it seems that you ensured that I don't have to and for that I am very grateful.
It has been a very difficult time and I hope we will begin to heal now and look to the future. I so wish it could all have been very different. Not sure how to face the future yet but I wish you all well and hope that we all have happier times ahead.
Many thanks
D x

Hi DRS - thanks for the update, all the best to you and your DP for the future x.

All the best, love.

Hi to all the lovely ladies who supported me at my darkest time when we lost our precious baby almost year ago. Just wanted to let you know that after the heartbreak of last year we finally got our happy ending and I am sat here writing whilst holding my 5 week old baby boy. Miracles can happen! If you are going through a rough time I hope you will also be blessed with a healthy baby. Hang in there. The storm will pass. Good luck to you all Xxx
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I am happy that you have some good news after such a hard time.

Congratulations DRS, that is the nicest thing I have 'heard' all day. .

How wonderful to hear this. Many congratulations x

How lovely! Congratulations

Hi DRS - so glad to hear you have your precious LO safe and sound. Thank you so much for coming back and letting us know. Congratulations to you and your DP x.

I think I may have something in my eye. Congratulations op.
Enjoy your little one.

Congratulations, that is wonderful news.

How lovely, what a fantastic update, congratulations

DRS, I didn't see your original thread and have just read through and felt so many emotions.

34 years ago I had a similar experience as my baby had anencephaly. The termination at 23 weeks was a very difficult experience with none of the accompanying sensitivity which seems the norm now.

I was then part of the trial which identified folic acid as essential for the prevention of spina bifida, although it took me another 5 pregnancies to get to my happy ending. (I now have 19 year old twins who are in their first year at uni.)

Your happy news is lovely to hear. I'm sending you a big hug, unmumsnetty it may be, I don't care!

Thats lovely, congratulations