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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 9

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bakingtins · 19/01/2014 07:41

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

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bakingtins · 11/02/2014 22:23

not that sounds really frustrating. It's not great to send results with no explanation. Did you have an AMH test? I had that as part of RMC investigation to check out ovarian reserve, mine was adequate which was about as much as I could expect at 38.
Wouldn't mind the advice to put on weight though! Bring on the Wine Cake Biscuit and let the comfort eating commence!
Hope someone gets back to you with more concrete advice on your results soon.

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squizita · 12/02/2014 07:45

Not if it's St Mary's that have sent you stuff with no explanation, give them a ring. They will usually be able to contact you (via Yash) with some explanation within about 48 hr because they clincians meet very regularly.

Halfbaked · 12/02/2014 08:43

Yesterday was a bit of an emotional roller coaster.

I had the scan and saw an embryo measuring about 5weeks, well protected, Dr asked if I could have got my dates wrong, would be 7weeks. Glimmer of hope, but blood tests showed I have less than 1 of progesterone should be 40. Still having a blood test in 48 hours to check hcg level.

happyhippo you mentioned drugs, can I ask for something to speed up the process?

Like many others on this thread I'm a teacher, and finding having this time off really tough at this time of year. I'd rather be in work keeping busy, but feel a bit like a ticking bomb waiting to fully miscarry. I guess I'd rather that happens at home.

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bakingtins · 12/02/2014 08:55

halfbaked thinking of you, the limbo stage is so tough. If it's confirmed as a miscarriage then you can ask to have medical management, which involves having prostaglandins as oral tablets and vaginal pessaries to open the cervix and make the womb contract. If you are already bleeding they just give you the pessaries to insert, twice at 24 hour intervals. You'd probably need to stay in hospital for a few hours after the first one just to make sure no adverse reactions, I was given the second dose to do myself at home.
I know it must be hard being off work, teachers in particular always seem to struggle with feeling they are letting their pupils down, but you really need to make your physical and emotional health number one priority at the moment and take any time you need.

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tannyLoo · 12/02/2014 09:10

Ffs. Just got a babycentre email about my baby at 23 weeks.

TinyTear · 12/02/2014 10:01

bastards! i now stopped joining anything until i get a confirmed scan...

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bakingtins · 12/02/2014 11:25

Sorry tanny you don't need those kicks in the teeth right now.

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squizita · 12/02/2014 12:09

Tannysorry to hear. :(

Halfbaked I couldn't handle the limbo, especially not at work with kids everywhere. I did as Baking mentioned and asked for treatment (in my case ERPC). Don't feel guilty about time off: if you're at work sad and frightened, that's no good for you or the kids. Better to take the time you need and recover. x

Notgivingup1 · 12/02/2014 12:37

halfbaked so utterly rubbish and I agree with what the others have said. I get that guilt thing about work so much - I went back far too quickly after my first one and it ended up carrying on for ages. You just have to look after yourself - that's an order!

Thanks baking and squiz. Bit disappointed with St Mary's to be honest but I suppose 3 days is nothing to them & they'll get back to me at some point. They didn't do AMH which I also find odd as I thought that was the better test these days as FSH can be quite inaccurate for various reasons. I think I'll ask my GP to do it. baking did you do it through your GP at the time? Meanwhile stuffing my face with nuts and cake...all in a good cause!

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bakingtins · 12/02/2014 14:59

No, it was done by the private consultant, she said the GP wouldn't fund it. No harm is asking though.
If they won't, it's quite straightforward to get it done privately by BUPA/Spire etc.

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bakingtins · 14/02/2014 07:59

tanny how are you doing?

halfbaked hope your bloods today bring clarity. Hand-holding for an anxious wait for results.

not did you get any sense out of your clinic?

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TinyTear · 14/02/2014 08:36

Got a call from my GP yesterday and it seems I have been taking too much thyroxine as i was a bit hyper so reducing dose again...

let's see how it goes... 4 days until the scan

T I A P

tannyLoo · 14/02/2014 13:44

I'm off work, as they have increased my workload and I couldn't cope and was crying all over the place.

Physically I'm fine. Not many symptoms at all and sleeping well. No bleeding yet. I have hated doing the heparin injections but am a bit chuffed (weird how I can still be) as I've only got one small bruise so far.

Emotionally I'm a wreck. I am sure this pg is going to end soon and yet there are moments of hopefulness that it could be ok. I'm also incredibly angry at every one and thing around me.

TinyTear · 14/02/2014 13:56

oh tanny I remember those feelings of anger and honestly I am bracing myself for them come tuesday after my scan...

I think as i didn't expect to get pregnant in January i am not sure I am mentally prepared...

and the terrible twos make me wonder if I reeeeally want another

tannyLoo · 14/02/2014 14:04

Tiny ha ha. I can empathise with that one!

JBrd · 14/02/2014 14:04

tanny Stay at home, have a cuppa and hide under a blanket! You poor thing. I get the anger, I have never experienced such rage as when things were going wrong. When will you get another scan? Are you bleeding at all?
It is such a shit situation to be in Sad

tannyLoo · 14/02/2014 14:05

Will keep everything crossed for you for Tuesday. We can't both be out again! x

TinyTear · 14/02/2014 14:15

Thanks Tanny
I will keep everyone posted and I hope you are not out either! xx

Notgivingup1 · 14/02/2014 15:34

Thanks for checking in Baking. Finally heard back from them last night. It seems the results are fine. Good in fact. So that teaches me not to use Dr Google. I am going to leave it at that for now as don't really need the stress of more tests and just carry on eating cake! It has been a bit of a wake up call to the extent of my underlying anxiety- need to find a way to take a step back. I still think they should have just told me that it was fine when they sent me the results!

Hope everyone else is doing ok. purple was thinking of you and wondered how you got on with your latest test results. Know you were worried because of no AF.

tiny glad they are looking after you and being proactive.

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bakingtins · 14/02/2014 16:01

That's good news. They could have told you that in the first place and saved you the anxiety though. Enjoy your Cake

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Notgivingup1 · 14/02/2014 18:46

tanny so sorry our posts must have crossed. Didn't want you to think I was being utterly selfish. Glad you are off work - you need that space. So get the rage thing too - the injustice of it just makes you so ANGRY. Get under a blanket, hide from this awful weather and look after yourself. You can rant & rave here all you like

butterfly86 · 15/02/2014 07:38

Morning ladies I know I wasn't gone long but I wanted to give you an update everything went fine at 20 week scan yesterday, it was such a weight off my mind I've been unbelievably anxious this week I've been horrendous to live with! And we found out we are team pink :)

Hope everyone is ok

TinyTear · 15/02/2014 08:21

hooray! great news Butterfly

Purplefrogshoes · 15/02/2014 09:42

tanny the limbo is awful! Fx for you

tinytear good luck

butterfly yay and yay for team pink Grin

not good news but they should have told you instead of leaving you to worry Angry

My hcg finally came back as non detectable! AF finally showed up on day 41 and was really short, goodness nows what's going on, all my tests so far have come back fine Confused

Hope everyone is doing ok Brew Cake Thanks

DogandBeth · 15/02/2014 10:29

Hi all, haven't posted for a few days but have been thinking of you all. So sorry to hear those of you who are going through it, I was there too a week ago x
I have an appointment with the gp on Monday to talk about the miscarriages and what happens next re testing etc. As this is my first appointment about this, I wondered if any of you who are further down this road than me had any tips, what I should do or ask or anything ? I am a bit nervous about it- I haven't met this gp before although she seems nice enough on the phone but I've had a few bad experiences with HCPs recently over care for D's so I'm a bit wary these days.
I stopped bleeding on Wednesday but don't appear to have passed any 'products'so I don't have anything like that to taken hopefully its not still inside of me!
Anyway, any advice gratefully received
Thanks d and b x