2 Miscarriages since April, now possibly going through another one... someone help me stay strong and positive? :(

[RileyTheLittleMonster]

I lost my little boy at 23 weeks on April 6th
I then had two D&C's after in May and June, followed by PID in July.
Then got pregnant and Miscarried August 16th at 6 weeks. Both the pregnancies were planned.

Loosing my baby boy and squid it gave the motivation to do what i want, so i went back to college but found out 10 days ago I'm pregnant again.

I had a really heavy bleed on Friday within the hour it leaked through my trousers with little clots.. I got scanned today and it showed a 6 week baby with no heartbeat, they said they cant tell me until my next scan on christmas eve what is happening . i havent bleed since friday so I'm guessing if I bleed im miscarrying, they said it may be that babys heartbeat hasn't pushed forward.

Positive thinking doesnt get you anywhere anymore, just feel so down and negative and i never usually am

So sorry for your losses. I have had 3 live births and 3 miscarriages and had early often large bleeds with most of my pregnancies - unfortunately it is not possible to predict which way your present one will go - but if i were you I'd ask for an earlier scan than 24 december because it is a very long time to be in limbo. x

They won't give earlier ones they make you wait 2 weeks

I haven't bled since Friday and my hgc is 9000, which will make some people positive. But after my other loses I don't want to think positive because it will probably end badly.

Thank you for your reply, means alot! Sorry to hear about your miscarriages. X

Well my thoughts are with you and I hope you do get a good outcome but if it is bad news just try to focus on getting yourself back to good health both mentally and physically for the future. I am lucky enough to have 3 healthy children but in my heart I still have a special place for my other babies who didn't make it - they were all lost quite early on 7, 8 and 10 weeks - for you at 23 weeks must have been terrible x

Were they inbetween your children? Really sorry to hear, I'm hoping for the best but if its the worst im going to wait for abit. Yeah it was he was called Riley, perfectly formed and looked like his daddy... we have out memories which keep us going

My 1st i lost, my second and third were keepers, fourth and fifth lost and the 6th I had at the grand old age of 44 years and 10 months - she was an unexpected and wonderful surprise! Take care and look after yourself!

Atleast you have 3 beautiful children! . There's nothing wrong with having a child at 44, whatever makes you happy 8 say

I'm only 18 so I'm focusing on college, and university if this pregnancy ends badly. My boyfriend is 25 so he's at that stage where he wants them, but is prepared to wait for me

Riley so sorry to hear of your losses and really hope this one works out for you. If not please ask your doctor to refer you for some tests. I had 4 miscarriage before being found to have (controversial as the theory is for some doctors) high natural killer cells and since being given medication have had a little boy. There are plenty tests worth exploring to do with blood clotting and immune issues. There used to be a thread here called Recurrent Buns where I, and quite a few others, found out about these things. There are some pretty forward thinking doctors out there such as Mr Shehata at the Miscarriage Clinic who I saw and who might be able to help.

freelance sorry to hear about your loses. Makes me think positivd when woman tell me they have gone to gave a health baby

I had a few tests after losing riley at 23 weeks. the chromosomes came back normal, and I think I had blood clotting aswel which came back normal.

What other tests do they do? Thank you, your post was very helpful
Text my midwife to try and get a scan sooner.

Sorry about grammar mistakes, on my phone.

I had a scan letter through today saying my local hospital has booked me in for a scan on the 18th which is next tuesday... Is this too early to go back? It'll be a week and two days after first scan. Im starting to feel so positive, i read some things on the internet about other womans experiences and they all have positive outcomes! fingers crossed i'm one of them! thank you for all your support!

There are indeed a lot of positive outcomes with bleeds in pregnancy.

Tests I had with my gp included a lot of clotting ones, there are many different types. I have a list somewhere so will try dig it out. However I was eventually diagnosed with high natural killer cells by a specialist and the treatment was with steroids and other medication. A week and a bit should be enough to see a change. How pregnant will you be by then?

Vitamin d, selenium and low dose aspirin have also been show to help - I would take these if I were you on top of the usual pregnancy vitamins plus omega 3. Aspirin is controversial to some but I know lots of people who have taken a low dose (75mg) successfully. Vitamin d is proving to be more and more vital in helping with a healthy pregnancy.

I take pregnicare which i hink is folic acid and a vitamin.

Hopefully I don't have to go through tests and Tuesday will give me good news.

What are natural killer cells? X

I'll be 7 weeks next Tuesday. x

I just want to give you some hope.

I have had similar losses to you and at 6 weeks (ish) pregnant I bled so heavily it was gushing out. I had clots bigger and as thick as my palm.

My hcg levels took ages to drop, had a scan and I was 12 weeks. I'm now 15 weeks and so far do good but I can't relax about the pregnancy!

Riley, am so sorry you are going through this..have my fingers and toes crossed for you..I can't imagine the strain you are feeling..keep us posted..

Pregnacare is folic acid and several vitamins including D, but some health care advice is to take an additional dosage of D on top of this. Google it and see what you think. Do the same for low dose aspirin too, there is a lot of info on it.

The high NKC theory my specialist tested and treated for is that certain people have high levels of these cells which fight off the baby as a perceived foreign object. It's more likely to be the case if you gave a family history of autoimmune issues, allergies, asthma, arthritis etc. treatment for me was steroids which resulted in my little boy 5 months ago after 4 miscarriages.

I do hope everything goes well with this pregnancy and will have everything crossed for you. Do let us know. That wait for scans is horrible I know.

Glad they've pushed your scan forward.
I've read about Riley and am so sorry you lost your little boy.
I have everything crossed for you, good luck.

sleepless thank-you its really good to hear positive stories! It gives me hope. Good luck on the rest of your pregnancy and congratulations!

Cynner and Gary thank you, please keep them crossed tightly. It's hard but I have college to keep me busy and a very supportive boyfriend

Aw, happy you have a beautiful Dd freelance happy ending . In my future pregnancies I will look it up and plan ahead... if my baby is ok next week ill take more vitamin D.

I will keep you all posted, thank you so much for your support its defiantly needed as its nearly Christmas

Hello everyone!

Feeling very positive! Normal pregnancy discharge, very tired, moody, stretching pain and I've even got a hard noticable bump at 6+5! When people say they have one at this stage I never believed them, and its defiantly a bump because I have a very flat belly normally! Only 2 days, do. Guys think it sounds positive? Thank you for giving me hope and support!

So glad you're grumpy, stretchy & sleepy

I'm 6+2 this week (cycle after mc, which is why I lurk here) & I can't fit into my regular sized clothes (flat belly here too so it's noticeable), so your bump sounds really positive!

Really hope you get positive news on Tuesday & can spend the holiday break relaxing, being pampered & falling asleep in the afternoon!

Ooo its good to hear my bump is good news . I lost 2 stone due to hqving an overactive tyriod so I went out and got lots of new size 8 clothes! Not truer them on since bump has arrived, probably wont fit me tomorrow properly!

Sorry to hear about your mc, glad to hear this pregnancy is going well for you :-)!

Big bleed this morning, can't think positive

(((Riley))) How do you feel now?
Do you think it's over...are you still going for the scan tomorrow?

Will keep my fingers tightly crossed for you.
x

I do think it's over, mainly because there was no hb on 1st scan so maybe I'm just going to mc.

Over the past week and 2 days since first bleed I've had symptoms, belly has gottwn hard, sickness but I've lost all hope in a matter of a day I'm expecting not to see baby siddy on scan tomorrow.

Thank you Gary, means alot. X

Good luck, hope all is well.