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so worried

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southportmum · 18/04/2012 10:33

i had an eptopic pregnancy last november and i am now 5 weeks pregnant again, im having light pink spotting really worried got an early scan on friday ...

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jodidi · 18/04/2012 10:37

I'm sorry to hear about your loss in November. Try really hard not to worry too much about the spotting now, it could be perfectly normal. I have had plenty of friends who had spotting and went on to have perfectly healthy pregnancies, but there are also the unlucky ones (like me) where spotting leads to miscarriage. Worrying will not help either way, although it is the normal and natural thing to do.

I really hope you get good news on Friday. Good luck.

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southportmum · 18/04/2012 10:40

thanks i reeally enjoyed my first 2 pregnancys but since what happened in november i really cant enjoy this 1 constant worry all the time

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fanjodisfunction · 18/04/2012 18:01

Can I hold your hand for my own comfort and to offer you mine.
I had a stillbirth last april, the anniversary for my daughters birth is next friday. I then had a chemical pregnancy in july and I'm currently 5 weeks 2 days and have been spotting for the past three days, today has been the worst with more brownish slightly dark red discharge, also I am cramping.
I remember spotting in early pg last time but due to my history now - am totally freaking out. I so desperatly want and need this child to be here.
Trying not to worry is so hard, I am trying so hard but I'm close to tears often. I havnt rung epu kind of thinking its to early anyway, but I will ring them next week at the end of to book my 8 week scan, that's if nothing has happened.

Hugs to you, let's hope we get through this.

wrigle · 18/04/2012 21:37

Sending you both positive vibes, hope this passes soon an don a good note.

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southportmum · 19/04/2012 09:33

oooh thats an awful thing to go through.... spotting can be normal but its very hard not to worry.... keeping all my fingers crossed for you

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fanjodisfunction · 19/04/2012 09:49

How are you holding up southportmum?

Im freaking out more than ever, I had some quite heavy spotting yesterday, so much so that I was convinced that I was miscarrying, but then there was nothing again. I dont feel well, I have a had a few chills and well sometimes I m really hot, I think I may have an infection. Maybe a uti. But Im not getting my hopes up that this pg is going well, I really think I am miscarrying, but I dont know. Ive got a doctors appointment later this afternoon, so maybe they will make an appointment with the epu for me.

fanjodisfunction · 20/04/2012 17:01

Well I miscarried today, after all the spotting and thinking it may be ok. Its really rubbish. I hope so much southportmum that you are doing ok and that little one is sticking.

jodidi · 20/04/2012 19:12

I'm so sorry for your loss fanjodisfunction. It really is rubbish, I'm sorry you have to go through this.

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southportmum · 21/04/2012 08:42

hey guys well i went for my scan yesterday and it showed nothing in the womb no sack or anything, they are hoping im just to early to see anything, they took my hcg level and it only came back at 352 which is really low, i have to go back on sunday to have them re-done, if its a healthy pg then they should have doubled, but the spotting has got heavier and there was a little tissue yesterday nothing major but im so worried im right back where i was in november, why cant i have just be like my friends who are also pg and it just go smooth

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southportmum · 21/04/2012 08:43

so sorry fanjodisfunction. thats awful news

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fanjodisfunction · 21/04/2012 09:01

southportmum I have my fingers crossed for you.

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southportmum · 21/04/2012 09:12

thanks

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southportmum · 24/04/2012 08:30

well bad news i have misscarried again... Really dont know what to think now 2 in the space of 5 months... Do i try again or just admit defeat

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ExpatAl · 24/04/2012 08:43

So sorry southportmum x

ExpatAl · 24/04/2012 08:48

How are you feeling? Keep posting - it really does help

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southportmum · 24/04/2012 16:15

confused angry why me..... will i ever have a baby again... do i wait or just get straight back onto trying again.... what if it happens again... thinking everything expat al

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ExpatAl · 24/04/2012 16:34

Well a lot of the girls posting here seem to have had great results in trying again straight away. You need to make sure you're physically up to it first though. Your hormones will all be up in the air at the moment. Be kind to yourself and take your time. X

huntersmum · 24/04/2012 20:23

I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks shortly followed by two more at around 5-6 weeks but we kept going and eight months after the first miscarriage I had a successful twin pregnancy. Had lots of scans etc but it all worked out so keep on trying.

jodidi · 24/04/2012 23:41

I'm so sorry southportmum. It must be horrible for you to have 2 mc so close together. Take your time to grieve for this one before you put pressure on yourself to decide whether to try again. There are lots of people who have successful pregnancies after miscarriages.

Countmyblessings · 05/05/2012 20:19

So sorry for your loss, trust me I know how it is!

Goofymum · 06/05/2012 11:17

I am very sorry for what you're going through southportmum. It is so horrible and scary to be going through this. I have just had my 2nd MC, this one being quite complicated, and am also very wary of trying again ever!!. I am going to concentrate on getting physically and mentally strong again before thinking about it. I have read some great success stories on here, people who've had up to 9 MC and then are successful. God know what keeps them going. It's reassuring to read successes but it is Godawful when it's happening to you. Take care of yourself. x

Countmyblessings · 10/05/2012 22:46

Goofymum - I'm sorry for your loss, it's very
hard to deal with child loss the pain, emotions and physical and mental healing!!! Trust me 10 days on and just started crying after seeing the Clearblue advert??????? Wth!!!!!

Goofymum · 10/05/2012 22:58

I found my original positive pregnancy test over the weekend. I shouted FUCK OFF at it. How childish is that. I was ashamed at myself but just so angry.

Countmyblessings · 11/05/2012 18:38

How you doing Goofymum? All I have to mark this pregnancy is my positive clearblue pictures I was able to put in my pregnancy app!
It's was a private folder as we never told anyone yet!
Didn't even get to the gp or midwife so didn't get any paperwork!
All I have is the discharge letter from the hospital explaining what happened and my photos sad really all I have for another baby gone!
Think today is a down day! ; (

Goofymum · 11/05/2012 19:55

Countmyblessings, sorry to hear you're having a down day. One step at a time. Am OK today, busy at my 2nd day back at work so that takes my mind off it. But did have a chat to DH this morning about the fact that I still cry in bed every night, he had no idea. Is still early days I suppose and the trauma of the miscarriage meant that I didn't actually mourn the loss of my baby well at the time. How many MC have you had, if you don't mind me asking? x