Miscarriage in older mums

[nevergiveuphope]

I am looking for older mums who have gone through an mc as I am finding it hard to cope with

I'm 37 & going through mc at the moment! I had a mc in my twenties & then had a very healthy pregnancy & had my gorgeous twin daughters. This pg was a surprise but much wanted. Had scan on Tues to reveal no heartbeat & baby measuring much smaller than the 10 weeks I should have been. So sorry for your loss. Lots of lovely ladies on here to talk too & hope you start to feel better soon.

It is hard to cope. I'm so sorry for your loss. This is v hard for you. It's awful. Of course you find it hard, you've last your baby, your dreams, your hopes....
I hope I give you hope. Had my first mc age 37-38. At 12 weeks, had a scan at 7 and all was hunky dory, lovely heartbeat, scan at 12, no heartbeat. So sudden. I felt robbed. Devastated beyond words. Cried and cried and then cried some more. And then felt the pressure of time. Not a good time for me. And I couldn't understand my level of grief. No one talks much about it. People tend to minimise it. Meaning the best, they'd say, you'll have another (I didn't have any). I WANTED THAT BABY, I wanted to say. My baby. My baby with the beating heart. Time passed. Had 2 more mc in the next 2 years, me and DH said one more time and that's it. And at the ripe old age of 41 I had my first DD. And at 43 and 1 month old, I had my 2nd DD. I never forget the grief of my mc's. But I did get thru it and you will too. 37 isn't old. Please don't worry about age. You don't need to.

I had a mc this time last year at 39. Now at 40 (obviously!) I'm nearly 41 weeks pregnant with dc2.

I'm sorry you're going through this but there is hope.

Does the bleeding ever stop I had mc on Wednesday but been bleeding since Christmas day I was just over seven weeks

I had a mmc at 11 weeks at the age of 42. Had another mmc 6 months later. DH said no more, couldn't stand to go through this again. Less than 3 months later another BFP. The pregnancy was nerve wracking but DD was born safe and healthy 2 months before my 44th birthday.

A very dear friend, who due to depression and health issues did not find herself able to marry and TTC till her late 30s had a MC at 41 and the most beautiful DS just before her 43 birthday.
It was just so special to see her feeding him and I just hope you all have good outcomes to.

I am 44 and was so happy when I found out I was.I had my last one at 40 and it's been fantastic.we decided to try again and it's taken 3years so the pain I feel at the moment is eating away at me and I keep thinking I did something wrong but I don't want to give up trying

Hi I'm 40. I miscarried on Thursday and I'm still bleeding today. Cramps finally gone. I was nearly 7wks. It is such a horrible experience but so many mums have gone through it. I had a dd at 37 and my pregnancy was a breeze. We are going to try again asap. Wishing everyone well. It just seems to be one of life's dreadful things. I'm so grateful I've had access to brilliant drs and hospitals unlike some poor women around the world.

What age is classed as old? I am mid 40's and have had 9 miss but also lucky to have 4 healthy children.
How do you feel you are not coping. Some days were awful but some better.

Does anyone know how long it takes for your hormone levels to go back to normal I had mc 13days ago was 7plus weeks done test yesterday still a pos result and boobs sore worried still retained a bit

Hi nevergiveuphope, I've had medical management of my miscarriage & was told to take a pregnancy test 3 weeks from the day I took pills to induce miscarriage. So guess it takes about 3 weeks for hormone levels to settle & I was told if I get a positive result after 3 weeks it indicates that pregnancy products may still remain! Hope that helps. x

Yeah thanks for that.epu told me to do test two weeks after she done scan and if positive have to give them a call to go in for scan and tomorrow is the two weeks guess I'm just trying to hold onto something that's gone after three years of trying x

I have never been on one of these sites before but feel need to talk about things. I have a 5 year old and have since had 3 miscarriages one every year for the past 3 years. I have been refurred for tests and I am due to go to the hospital in Feb. In one way I want to find out and in another way I feel like maybe I should let it go I am 44 in March and should I just accept that it is not going to happen?? It doesn't help that I haven't had much sympathy for my miscarriages from family just told you have one child be happy with that! I have just found out my step sister is pregnant and due the time my last baby would have been born. Is it me or is does everyone seem pregnant at the moment? Maybe I am being selfish and should accept nature. Anyone had a similar experience??

Hi everyone.

Isnt this whole ttc thing just shit. Someone has to invent a better way to do this
. never.. I had Medical management twice, it didnt work then surgery nearly a month ago and still getting faint positive pg and ov tests. I found out it was a "failed" pregnancy at our 12 wk scan. My outlook was that there must'v been something wrong with the baby and better it happen then than it go full term then "fail" or worse still have a really poorly baby - I dont think I could cope with the emotional upheaval of that. I was bad enough when my DD broke her leg last year.
paula2012 I agree, every1 is pregnant. But everyone younger than me. One of the mothers at my DD playgroup had her baby at the weekend. I just keep looking at dates thinking I should be 4 months now. I just want to get back to where I was.

Ive got PCOS so feck knows when ill actually bloody ovulate again. Ive been referred back to gynae to get clomid but been waiting for an age for the letter. When you dont know when your going to ov every day is a wasted day iyswim. Dont know about you but all I hear is tick tock tick tock.

Yes I agree everyone is younger and then you hear about so-called celebrities who are pregnant and you think why not be honest and tell us if you used donor eggs, ivf etc. instead of making out u conceived naturally! What makes it worse is my child saying all his friends have brothers and sisters he just doesn't understand? Defintely coming back as a man they don't have any of this stress!

Yeah Paula, my gorgeous DD is 3 and will pick up random items and pretend they're her brother or sister. She picked up a bird ornament at her grandparents the other wk, ran into the kitchen showing grandad her new little brother, Robin. Bless her - it was a robin as well! This was lovely and cute when I was pregnant but its bloody heart breaking now.

I really didnt feel confident with the pregnancy tho. I half expected to find something wrong something at the nuchal test thingy, it wasnt just the usual worries, but i didnt think the litle mite had given up! Has anyone else felt like this or was it just me???

Yes I felt the same last time I was pregnant I didn't tell anyone except my other half and I expected the bleeding to start which I did. You almost can't get excited because you know you are going to lose it again. I know we should be grateful we have children but it doesn't make it any easier! I will tell my son one day that I tried to give him a brother or sister but I feel the same it is heartbreaking. Also when people say to you about having an only child if only they knew!

Im an only child myself and it was pants. So im desperate to ensure she isnt. I had the bleeding early on with both pregnancies so that didnt bother me, I even saw the heartbeat at the scan at 7 weeks. Im sick of people saying, soooo when are you having another. I just want to get to the gynae get some clomid and ovulate and get back up the duff!! And today, I dont want to wait - not that im impatient or anything!!!

I had mc two weeks ago and not waiting to try again my clock is ticking I'm 44 and ain't gonna quit

That's good made me feel better that I am not the only older woman going through this let's hope it happens for all of us soon.....

45 getting closer so on a mission if we can do it once then we can do it again

What was your response from GP Paula all I got was what to expect because of my age and that's the last thing I wanted to hear I also got the same from the doctor in the epu when I was going through it all not what I wanted to hear and am gutted

I asked and the doctor if it was worth doing tests at my age and he said he would write to the hospital and see what they thought. They wrote back suggesting I should go to the reccurent miscarriage clinic which is where I am going in Feb. To be honest I thought they wouldn't bother so I see that as positive as surely they wouldn't see me if there was no hope?? It is frustrating as I can get pregnant but I never get beyond 10 weeks I am hoping they find something that they can put right? If you never try you never know. No-one has mentioned my age yet but I will let you know what I hear in 2 weeks!

Good luck I wish you all the best and you have given me hope at my age thanks