Miscarriage in older mums

[nevergiveuphope]

I am looking for older mums who have gone through an mc as I am finding it hard to cope with

I wish you all the best and hope you get the answers your looking for

Sorry to read all the stories on here and wanted to add my own. I'm 37 and have had two mc over the last 18 months. I'm now on a super ovulation programme privately. Expensive, but I don't feel I've got much time left. 38 next month!

Best wishes for speedy BFPs and healthy pg very soon.

I am nearly 44 and diagnosed with mmc last thursday at 9 weeks, no clue before that. yesterday started spotting, a bit more today. But having been through this 11 times before I know that the real pain and everything is yet to come.

I have 3 wonderful children, last one born when I was 40. since then I have had 11 miscarriages.

Most of the doctors automatically blame my age. If the stats were 100% miscarriages for my age, I might believe them. But the stats are at most 50% and for me to get pregnant 11 times in the last 3 years it is clear that I am regularly ovulating and can get pregnant. Are they all duff eggs now????? Or is something else going on.

I have been to St Mary's and several other doctors for testing. Almost all the tests have come back as normal. I had raised TEG when miscarrying with clots! I have ANA+ but only slightly.

I have tried progesterone, asprin and heperin treatments to no avail. I know logically I should give up, but whilst my head says stop, my heart will not let go of the tiny bit of hope.

Right now I have to face the next couple of weeks and getting through this latest miscarriage, I am even contemplating going for an erpc this time, to avoid the "when" will it finally happen. But trying to let it happen naturally.
Sorry I am waffling so much, I am still trying to work through my emotions.

Hi, i had my 6th mc last July, i was nearly 41.

We had decided to stop then.
Last week got talking and decided to try again
Its not going to hapen i know but its nice thinking that it is all over.

So sorry for everyone's losses,I am 37 next week and am as I type going through a mc,my second in the last 4 months.

I have 3 children,the youngest is 3 so I know I am very lucky but I'm beginning to think that my age is playing the part as I never had any problems before.

It is sad to hear of all the mcs I have found it has helped to know I am not the only one going through this. It is heartbreaking for everyone and it certainly doesn't make any difference that you have children already even though that is the comment I get the most ' at least you have a child'. To me any mc is sad and painful however many weeks you are. After 3 mcs I am going to see the consultant next week does anyone know what tests they do and how long it takes to get any answers. Trying to keep hopeful....

hi, i am 41 and 8+4 weeks, had a MC in October 2011, and fell within 2 months, please stay positive

I know they say you should wait till a period after a mc and I had one on the 4th jan I was just over 7weeks and heartbeat was seen at epu but I can't wait as my biological clock is ticking I'm 45 in oct.I have a four year old ds and don't want him being an only child as I came from a big family but the comments I got from the doctor at the epu sucked as he put me down about my age and what I could go through the funny thing was he looked like he had just come out of short trousers just a youngster but he was so negative and I didn't need that.I'm gutted and empty

I know it is hard my last mc was Nov and I feel the same I am 44 in a month can't wait! I will let u know what they tell me on Friday let's hope they are positive we will see...

Good luck on Friday hope you get the answers your looking for

good luck with the consultant paula. i'm really pleased they will see you. I turn 44 this month and am having my ERPC tomorrow after a MMC picked up at NT scan, wanting to try again asap. I did wonder if they'd refer women of our age at all after 3 mc in a row . This is my 2nd MC but first was over 20 years ago and had a baby shortly after that. Fingers crossed for everyone.

Yes I thought the same I didn't think they would see me. I suppose if you can get pregnant there must be some chance. I am not looking forward to tomorrow but as my other half says is you don't go you don't know.

Hi. Had my 1st child at 36. Had a mmc at 37. bled at 12 weeks but stopped growing at 10. Another child at 38. Now pregnant again at 44 (not planned). Trying to stay positive but not easy.
Sorry to all going through or have been through it.

Went to the consultant today told me that my 3 ms were probably to do with my maternal age. Just what I wanted to hear! Have had blood tests have to wait for results I am not holding out much hope don't think they will find anything. Told my only option is a IVF (privately) with a donor egg. Nothing against anyone who has done this but it is not for me. Just one point why do they put all the pregnant women with the women that have problems conceiving just seems very insensitve to me! Anyway good luck to everyone think I will have a nice wine tonight!

Hi Paula don't give up trying.I had bloods done results all come back nothing wrong and all they said is it's my age I'm 45 in oct but I refuse to give up and be told by a snot nosed youngster I'm too old.all I have done is change my diet to eating more healthy and cut out caffeine and I feel better in myself I also take folic acid every day hoping to give my body a better chance so keep positive and don't give up

Thanks for that I am trying to stay positive but you know what it is like. It's funny I have cut caffeine out as well the consultant also said about taking childrens asprin? Not sure about that one? I am hoping they find something in the tests but in the back of my mind I don't think they will. It's nice to hear from someone in the same position. Let me know how things go.

O yes Paula I feel your pain. When I was having infertility investigations the doctor wanted to do an ultrasound. I went to ask at reception ans she asked me how many weeks pregnant I was.
Also the same section I had to go to for a scan when I was miscarrying. Not nice.

Paula sorry to hear you didn't get a more positive response from your consultant. I keep looking at pregnancy books and articles on MC and hoping to find some gem of information that i didn't know that will make me have a pregnancy that sticks next time. I know most likely reason I MC is my age , though I also had a MC in my early 20s so can affect all ages. Only you know how long you can keep trying, its a hard thing to keep going through. We are trying again but for now that's all I can say, i don't know if we'd try a third time.

I'm interested in the baby aspirin. Did your consultant say anymore? I've actually started on it from today. I have read that some people have had success with it and some haven't. Most people who have the actual diagnosed problem (name i've forgotten) are taking another POM medicine on top of the aspirin. Its difficult to know if it alone works, maybe those women just got lucky that time. Anyway, i've read online that it doesn't hurt so shall try- my father has a history of blood clotting problems and my circulation isn't great. I wish I could afford to have tests done privately right now. I'm also wondering if there is any point at all in seeing my GP, not to be referred as I know that won't happen but I think all they will say is MC is very common and even more so at your age. I was already doing all the right things- no alcohol, almost zero caffeine etc etc

I did all the things I had to do I stopped smoking was eating properly but the only thing I done was caffeine I was drinking tea all day as I was so thirsty so my usual 5cups a day went up to about 15cups a day plus coke if we went out so was it my fault because that's what I feel as we had a good heartbeat and the epu couldn't see where I was bleeding from it looked good then four days later heartbeat was gone and I had mc next evening I was gutted and kept beating myself up with what I felt I have done

nevergiveuphope it was not your fault. You did not cause your miscarriage. Please don't ever think that you did. It was most likely a chromosomal abnormality with no chance of the baby being able to survive.
Plenty of people smoke, drink, eat badly, drink too much caffeine and have full term babies. Other people have no risk factors and miscarry. I miscarried at 22 years of age. I was a non-smoker, didn't drink much alcohol or caffeine , ate healthily and was a healthy weight. I had no risk factors. Now just had my 2nd MC at 43 years of age, my risk factor this time is my age, i'm still as healthy as i was before. A risk factor does not mean that even if you did those things you caused the miscarriage, it does not mean that at all.

re baby aspirin. I've done more reading and seems you take it after you've got a BFP, not before as it can interfere with implanting. I'm giving it a go.

How long does it take for a period to return after mc

With me it took about 6 weeks as I remember still thinking I was pg. Thanks for the advice about trying to get healthier not easy in the weather!

blackcatsdancing not sure about the childrens aspirin she said you could try it not sure what that means? I am going to wait until I get my results and take it from there. Trying to forget about it all at the moment as it just seems to consume you if you know what I mean.