i have something sad to tell you, one of my baby twins has died.

[CarrieInAnotherTWOBabiTWINS]

just wanted to try and tell as many of you as possible, as i know ive told nealry everyone on here.

sadly went for a scan today and one of them twin 2, has died, its heart is not beating anymore.

i will change my name.

Thinking of you, awful news Been following your last few threads and was truly hoping this wouldn't be you x

Oh no. I'm so sorry Carrie xx

so sorry to read this Carrie, sad news x

Sorry to hear of your loss. I usually hide twin threads .

What happens will depend how far along you are. One of my babies died at 32 weeks, identical in separate sacs but with one placenta. We were told the survivor's chances were 50% death or serious brain damage, 50% living and not brain damaged, but were offered a termination due to the risk of congenital abnormality even if he survived (which we declined).

Ds1 (the survivor) was born at 35 weeks healthy, no abnormalities. He's 9 now.

You should be offered an appointment now to discuss the various likelihoods. I also had bereavement counselling, which I strongly recommend.

Someone said upthread that twin loss is never really understood and I fully agree. Lots of people we knew just ignored the loss of our son and congratulated us on the safe arrival of our survivor. Most never mentioned it.

But a lovely consultant I saw when it all happened said something that will stay with me - you will always be a mum of twins and your surviving son will always be a twin.

Oh, Carrie. . DS1 was a twin.

This is sad news. I posted on your other thread advising against telling your dd yet.

I hope that you are able to carry the surviving twin safely to term.

He was born at 40 weeks after being induced on his due date. He is a totally healthy 9yo now.

Oh that is so sad :( I hope you have plenty of support around you.

So very sorry to hear this (((hugs)))

Oh Carrie that is sad news. I am so sorry.

This happened to me as well. Dd hung on though for the rest of the pregnancy and is now a healthy, happy 10 year old.

Take the time to grieve for your baby but also try to be happy and hopeful for your other baby.

Carrie Sweetheart I am so, so, sorry x I hope you get to speak to someone soon who can give you some idea of what your options are/what will happen next. There are (unfortunately) others on here who have been through this too and I am sure will continue to be a good support to you. Lots of love & hugs, Chippy x

Monkey - it's really sad that most people never mentioned your other twin after your DS's birth. I suppose it's another one of those situations where people don't say anything for fear of saying the wrong thing/making it worse - when in some ways it can't get any worse and it being ignored is the worst thing they could do. I'm sure it's not because they forgot or didn't care though x

LoopyLoops - 2.5 years, I can't believe it was that long ago. The time goes so quickly in many ways doesn't it, yet stands still in others x

Big hugs to all of you who have been through this x

Chipping I think so, yes. I think people held back through fear of upsetting me (when it was actually on my mind and I was in turmoil 24/7). I used to get angry and bitter about it, but I've mellowed and I can see now that people just didn't know how to react.

Thinking of you. X

I am so very sorry Carrie x

Im so sorry x

thankyou so much for your kind words and support, it really means so much to me.
funny how i take you down every avenue of my life from the day i did the first test and was sayiing oh i think theres a faint line, and then the next day posting omg its def a line bfp.
to the day we found out it was twins, to this very sad day today.
its like you know me inside out.

i don't know how i'm going to get to sleep tonight knowing theres my dead baby inside me
i didnt really sleep last night either.
perhaps a warm bath may help.

it feels like its happening to someone else, not me.

seems horrendous to think that the twin that died could stay inside me for 6 months.

i just don't really know what to do.
and that fact its christmas next week just makes it all weirder and more sureal somehow.

So sorry Carrie, thinking of you x

So very sorry x

I am so so sorry :(

I'm so sorry, Carrie. It's such a sad, strange thing to be going through, and the first few days are really just about getting your head round it, I think, as well as the sad, sad ache.

I am so sorry, Carrie. I've noticed your name on twin threads although you probably don't know me. It is such an awful thing to happen. I lost my first daughter at 41 weeks in March and I can only imagine the confusion that results from a loss while still having one baby living. I know lots of people have pointed you to Sands - they have people there who have experienced what you're going through. Also, the bereavement threads on here are filled with great women who will help you as much as possible.

Heartbroken for you Carrie. Sending you a very very BIG hug xxxx

Such terrible news. Big hugs xxxx

So sorry Carrie xx