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i don't have a clue about this- advice please

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GlitterySkulls · 27/08/2011 00:29

i know i probably won't get many responses, due to the time, but i'm just back from hospital & i have no idea at all.
i'll try to keep this short :-

over the last fortnight, i have done 3 pregnancy tests, each with a faint positive result. i have also had multiple pregnancy symptoms.

today, i was at the GP, & was told to hand a urine sample in on monday morning.

however, about 6pm tonight, i started with browny-dischargey-blood, which quickly became bright red, "fresh" looking blood.
i did another test, which was negative.

as the evening wore on, the bleeding & pain became much worse, so called nhs24, who told me to make my way to hospital asap, which i did do.

i was seen by the nurse, was asked for a urine sample -tmi alert- which ended up being more blood than urine. nurse did the test, and informed me it was negative, but there was confusion due to the 3 faint positives i'd previously had. i was sent back to the waiting room to wait for the DR.

while waiting, she came running out the room, shouting my name, asking me to look, & "is it just my eyes" etc. the pregnancy test had a very pale positive.

in the end, i've been told to hand in my sample on monday, & get my gp to contact the epu & arrange a scan so we can find out what on earth is going on.

i'm wondering if anyone else has been through anything similar, and what the result was?

at the moment, no-one seems to know if i am pregnant, but am miscarrying, if i'm pregnant, and baby is fine, or if i'm not pregnant, all the test are dodgy & i'm just having a very nasty period ( which seems very unlikely to me- especially as i'm having a lot of symptoms, in addition to the faint positive tests.)

TIA for any replies.

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Becaroooo · 31/08/2011 15:42

I think so Hmm I didnt find it particularly comforting!!

Not much to say to someone IME. Just that you are sorry....which seems a bit inadequate tbh...

GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 16:03

yeah, although that wee sorry, that recognition that your hurting, goes a long way further than those other "helpful" staments, i think.

on the phone today,the nurse asked me if i was ok, and halfway through my answer, she exclaims "oh no!!! i've just realised, i'm so, so sorry!!" if i'd realised, oh no"... i was like Confused & said something completely inarticulate like "eh?" & she says "i've just noticed your date of birth!!" and i'm like "uh-hu, and?" (still Confused ) & she's like "but it's your birthday tomorrow!! oh, that's really bad, i'm so sorry"... it took about 30 secs, but then i clicked & thought Hmm "oh yes, that makes it sooooo much worse" [sarcastic bitch emoticon].

my mum reckons she just meant, "oh now every year coming up to your birthday you'll be sad, what a shame" but come on!!

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LIG1979 · 31/08/2011 16:42

I am very sorry. It is rubbish and I don't think most people know what to say and I have had so many people upset me over the last few months for saying the wrong thing and yet I don't think there is a right thing to say as they cannot make it better.

About the it wasn't meant to be - I agree it can be upsetting and not very helpful but....my MIL said it to me. She had 3 mcs before having my DH and whilst I know she went through hell with them as they were all around the 3/4 month mark - in a wierd way I am glad that she had them as it meant my DH is here today and perfect in everyway. I like to think when I am feeling down that in the same way my mc and last weeks chemical pregnancy occured just so that when I finally get the DC I want he/she will make me and their future husband/wife very happy. That is just me though.....

I hope the next few weeks/months are not too tought and sorry again about your loss. (I never realised this ttc would be so stressful.) x

GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 19:13

thanks, LIG1979. i hope you get a wee bundle of joy soon x

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GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 19:14

16.03pm comment- "staments" should be STATEMENTS.

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