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i don't have a clue about this- advice please

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GlitterySkulls · 27/08/2011 00:29

i know i probably won't get many responses, due to the time, but i'm just back from hospital & i have no idea at all.
i'll try to keep this short :-

over the last fortnight, i have done 3 pregnancy tests, each with a faint positive result. i have also had multiple pregnancy symptoms.

today, i was at the GP, & was told to hand a urine sample in on monday morning.

however, about 6pm tonight, i started with browny-dischargey-blood, which quickly became bright red, "fresh" looking blood.
i did another test, which was negative.

as the evening wore on, the bleeding & pain became much worse, so called nhs24, who told me to make my way to hospital asap, which i did do.

i was seen by the nurse, was asked for a urine sample -tmi alert- which ended up being more blood than urine. nurse did the test, and informed me it was negative, but there was confusion due to the 3 faint positives i'd previously had. i was sent back to the waiting room to wait for the DR.

while waiting, she came running out the room, shouting my name, asking me to look, & "is it just my eyes" etc. the pregnancy test had a very pale positive.

in the end, i've been told to hand in my sample on monday, & get my gp to contact the epu & arrange a scan so we can find out what on earth is going on.

i'm wondering if anyone else has been through anything similar, and what the result was?

at the moment, no-one seems to know if i am pregnant, but am miscarrying, if i'm pregnant, and baby is fine, or if i'm not pregnant, all the test are dodgy & i'm just having a very nasty period ( which seems very unlikely to me- especially as i'm having a lot of symptoms, in addition to the faint positive tests.)

TIA for any replies.

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Becaroooo · 28/08/2011 08:30

Actually might be quicker to go direct through epu...I did and they were fantastic (bearing in mind my mc history etc)

Of course you are gutted! Doesnt matter how many dc you have, any pg loss is difficult and hard.

I have been pg 6 times and have 2 dc. I am lucky, but it didnt feel like that at the time!

Am away this weekend but do let me know how you get on x

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GlitterySkulls · 28/08/2011 15:07

will do, becaroooo. sorry for droning on at you, btw Blush

i'll phone the epu then, i just thought they might listen to the gp more than me, iyswim.

enjoy your weekend away!!

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GlitterySkulls · 29/08/2011 10:00

ok, the hospital are refusing to scan me.

i have a gp's appt this afternoon, the hosp. said i've to get them to do the blood test.

oh well, fingers crossed then.

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 29/08/2011 10:51

Sorry you're not getting anywhere :( Have they given a reason why they won't scan you? Is it that it would be too early to see anything anyway? That's understandable but sometimes these places are just pig headed and don't seem to realise how much worse these things are when you don't know what's going on.

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GlitterySkulls · 29/08/2011 12:02

if i'm still getting positive tests in a weeks time i've to phone them back, and they MIGHT arrange a scan.

i don't know whether they'd see anything or not, i have no idea how far along i am. i've not had a period for months- i could literally be just pregnant or 3 month gone.
the o-o-h dr wanted me scanned because i might need an anti-d if i am indeed miscarrying- according to the girl i spoke to, they no longer give anti-d injections before 12 weeks, so i didn't need a scan. when i pointed out that i didn't know how far along i was, and that i haven't had a period in approx. 12 weeks, therefore i DO need a scan, she totally ignored me & told me to go to gp's for a blood test. Confused

she did say it sounded like a chemical pregnancy to her, but considering she hadn't seen my notes, and was going by a brief summary from me which she didn't really listen to, and kept talking over, i'm not taking her opinion as gospel.

she didn't sound like she knew what she was talking about, she kept going off-line to discuss it with her colleague, then coming back to repeat to me what her colleague was saying. i had to bite my tongue to stop me from telling her to just put her bloody colleague on the phone.

you're so right,the waiting around wondering is just awful :(

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GlitterySkulls · 29/08/2011 18:02

ok, so gp did the blood test, back on wed for another. gp's annoyed the hospital are refusing to scan me, once i've had the results from the bloods she's going to phone them & try & get them to scan me.

she said going by what i've told her, she's almost 100 o/o the baby's gone :(
which i suspected anyway, but still...

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Becaroooo · 29/08/2011 19:12

glittery Sigh. Wish I could say that you have experienced bad care but IME its pretty normal for women who are/have mc Sad Angry

Hope you get some answers soon x

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GlitterySkulls · 29/08/2011 19:23

really? i just thought i'd been unlucky- fuck sake. as if something like this isn't difficult enough, eh?

me too, it's driving me mad.

did u have a nice weekend?

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Becaroooo · 29/08/2011 19:34

Erm.....was nice for the boys! Grin Lots of plane spotting and then to Mercedes Benz World

Ds1 (8) and dh went on a 10 min "hot lap" with a professional driver....did skids, donuts, fast start etc....ds1 LOVED it but poor dh still feels ill! They were going 140mph at one point!

With 2 of my mc I was sent home - even though the mc was incomplete...ended up ill for months after both of them, although the worst one was when some weeks later I mc the rest of the baby one afternoon when dh was at work and I was alone Sad Not something I would ever want anyone else to go through.

Maternity services in this country are in crisis, and your experience is proof of it, sadly.

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GlitterySkulls · 29/08/2011 20:47

oh well, at least the kids enjoyed it Grin

oh my god, that sounds awful :( how can they just leave women to it like that? i know they can't really "do" anything, but jeezo... where's the compassion? if this is the norm then i'm just Shock

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Becaroooo · 30/08/2011 08:39

dh looked so green it was quite funny Smile

It was awful and, IMO, contributed to my next mc as I had an underlying infection caused by leaving me with RPC for so long Sad I went down to 8.5 stone I was so ill.

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GlitterySkulls · 30/08/2011 13:58

fuck sake, that is beyond ridiculous. that's total negligence, imo. bastards Angry

i can't believe this is going on nowadays, there's no need for it.

have a {hug} from me

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Becaroooo · 30/08/2011 16:19

Thank you Smile If you lurk on the mc boards you will see its not an uncommon experience, sadly. Was too ill for a long time to really take on board how bad my care was, but yes, it was terrible.

How are you today?

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GlitterySkulls · 30/08/2011 22:30

um, i'm ok-ish, the bleeding seems to have slowed right down, but its so dark its almost black Confused with the occasional burst of fresh red stuff. the pain had died down but the last couple of hours its flared right up again. i feel a bit sick too.

just counting down the hours until tomorrow morning, i'm going for my 2nd blood test, hopefully i'll get some indication as to what's happening. (well, at least i'll know what my hormone levels were on monday) fingers crossed!!

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GlitterySkulls · 30/08/2011 23:26

just done another test (i know, i know, i shouldn't keep doing them) and the line is so faint it's barely there- so faint i'm wondering if it's actually there at all, or if i'm just fooling myself into seeing what i want to see :(

i think i know what to expect :(

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Becaroooo · 31/08/2011 08:24

What brand of test are you using???

Digital ones are best IMO (but v expensive) as you either get a + or - so no guessing needed.

Let me know how you get on x

(ds2's open day at nursery today and he is distinctly underwhelmed!)

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GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 08:26

i'm using firstvue.

hope the wee has a great day !!

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GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 10:58

gargh, blood results aren't back yet Angry

the practice nurse is going to phone the lab & chase it up.

then she's going to chat to the GP & see if they're going to contact EPU on my behalf or not. so i'm now just waiting on a phone call.

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GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 11:00

oops, my post at 8.26am should say "hope the wee ONE has a great day" Blush sorry about that!

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Becaroooo · 31/08/2011 13:20

ugh...typical! Good idea if they contact the EPU perhaps?

I thought that was what you meant! Smile

He seemed to like it, but tomorrow will the be the test

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GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 13:40

i'm sure he'll be fine, it's you who's all worked up about it lol (envisaging similar scenario in about 3 years time Grin )

the nurse is just off the phone. she phoned the lab & the epu, & the gist is this- i was pregnant, i'm not now. they reckon the hormone levels have dropped low enough to indicate i was between maybe 2-4 weeks (at most), so its not worth them doing a scan.

i knew it was coming, but still... it's hit me for 6 :(

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Becaroooo · 31/08/2011 13:42

Oh glittery I am so sorry Sad

I had a feeling that it would be bad news too, but its never easy to hear...there is always that tiny ray of hope til you get it confirmed....I understand.

Be kind to yourself xxxx

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GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 13:51

i swear, though, if anyone else says it's "for the best" or "maybe it had something wrong with it, it's probably kinder" i swear i'll swing for them.

not a lot of people know, but most of the ones who do are fucking me right off Angry

i stupidly had a daft vision of getting the phonecall "your bloods are absolutely fine, come for a scan & we'll see what's what", going for the scan & seeing a wee healthy baby & it just being some silly unknown reason for the bleeding.
what an idiot, eh?

thank you very much, becarooo, (& everyone else upthread) for all the support & answering my questions. it's very much appreciated.

hope your wee boy has a fab day tomorrow, all the best :)

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Becaroooo · 31/08/2011 13:55

Some people can be very crass....I am sure they dont mean to be...I hope its just because they dont know what else to say Hmm

My (very religious) MIL told me that "It wasnt meant to be" after my last mc.

Didnt help Sad

Take it easy, take time to grieve and look after yourself x

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GlitterySkulls · 31/08/2011 14:07

i know, it just doesn't help when my dh has spina bifida, hydrocephalus, goldenhaar syndrome + others. what, so it'd be kinder if he didn't exist, too, then? garrgh, i know i'm blowing it way out of proportion, but... garrghh.

the comment from your mil seems quite insensitive, did she mean it to be comforting?
i suppose it is an awkward situation, i don't think i'd know what to say to anyone else going through the same thing. still...

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