I had a miscarraige last night.

[deemented]

I've lost my baby. My loved and long for baby. An i don't know why. I feel so confused. Everything was fine yesterday, no problems at all. Had a lovely day in the garden with the children, then we went out for ice cream and when we got back i suddenly started bleeding, then cramping. I went to the walk in clinic who basicly said there was nothing they could do, just to go home and wait and see.

As soon as i got home i started flooding, and then started having contraction like cramps. I then passed several huge clots. It was literally pouring out of me.

I hate myself so much - what did i do that caused this? Manshape is gutted, and although he's been fantastic and says he doesn't blame me at all, i do. It has to be my fault.

Sorry to hear this Dee :( miscarriages are so cruel.

Be kind to yourself x

Really sorry for your loss. It was not your fault. Nature decided that was not meant to be. Nothing you could have done. Take care x

Why would you hate yourself? That is futile. You didn't do anything to cause it, you've already said how much you loved and longed for the baby.
I am struggling to see who it can be your fault in any way.

Dee
(((hugs))) So sorry.

You know that there was nothing you did or didn't do.

I had 3 miscarriages - I took all the care in the world, the second time I went to bed for a week (at 7 weeks) and took hormone tablets. It didn't stop it happening. It just wasn't a sticky one.

Take care of yourself.

xxx

Take care of yourself, and please try to remember that it wasn't your fault, even though that feels easier to believe than that the baby (for whatever reason) wasn't a sticky one xxxx

I'm so sorrry

there so cruel

xxx

Don't blame yourself, it is not your fault in any way. Sorry you are going through it x

I'm so sorry. It really, really wasn't your fault.

Take care
x

Dee I am so so sorry for your loss, i'm off the Nov thread. Please please don't blame yourslef. What you are going through is hard enough, blaming yourself is no good and its nothing that you did.

I had a mc in dec/jan, we found out at our scan. I also spent many hours blaming myself for small little things that i accept now woud have made no difference, it just made the pain harder.

I know its hard to accept, but there was nothing you could have done differently. Don't be hard on yourself, and listen to your manshape, he is right and clearly loves you a lot.

Take the time you need to grieve, and don't rush into anything too soon. Just try to do nice things for yourself and dh, to at least make the pain a little more bareable.

Thinking of you xx

Thank you all.

I'm a bit of a snivelling wreck at the moment. I can't stop crying, and i'm neither use nor ornament when it comes to the children. I just want to hide away from it all.

oh dee, I wish I was closer

I'm so sorry Dee :( It really isn't your fault, you must know that deep down. But I know how hard it is. I had a mc in Jan and still finding it hard. It completely knocks you for six, I genuinely thought mcs happened to other people.

It is grieving, just like any other loss. People don't tell you that. Don't be afraid to take all the time you need xx

Dee that is awful news and we all really feel for you. We are all on here for the same reason and know to some extent what you are going through.

There are some many lovely people on these threads that you can chat to. When you feel ready come and join us all. There's a lot of laughing, a fair bit of misery and handholding when needed but we all seem to find it so helpful to have other people who can relate to what we have all been through and someone to also ask those questions about weird physical and emotional things you might be experiencing.

Thoughts are with you xx

Hiya, im going through exactly the same thing so know how crappy your feeling, i also know i cant say anything to make you feel the slightest bit better but am here if you needto talk along with everyone else, mine started thursday i have a scan on weds but thing its pointless and more of a way of moving of for me personally. I know things will be ok, right now it doesnt feel like but as the above poster says were all here for the same kind of reason so even when your partner doesnt understand anymore, the lovely people on here most certainly will, theyve definatly helped me and will help you too, take care xx

missed the last bit

do not blame yourself life can be cruel

be kind to yourself

xoxox

Dee so sorry.

Not your fault, repeat, not your fault.

Nature is just very damned cruel sometimes.

Please don't beat yourself up.

Hug.

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, miscarriage is such a hard painful thing to have to go through and I think naturally we blame ourselves because we don't get any answers and have nothing else to blame, but there isn't anything you have done to cause this to happen and it is definately not your fault, eventually you will start to get a little stronger and things will become clearer but we are all here for you until that happens. Take care of yourself. Big hugs.

Dee I am so sorry x

I know you would have done anything and everything in your power to not have this happen to you . And that is what you should hold onto . It has happened to you and certainly not by you .

Be kind to yourself and I know manshape will take good care of you , let him x

We will be here for you when and if you need us .

Dee, it wasn't your fault. It wasn;t anyone's fault. Miscarriages are cruel, especially when you they are so sudden. Be kind to yourself.x

dee, it was absolutely not your fault. Life is just so cruel sometimes but you did nothing wrong. Please don't blame yourself.

very sorry for your loss Dee x

Am so so sorry for your loss Dee, Am holding you and your lovely manshape in my thoughts tonight. you know we will be here for you when/if you need us xxx

Oh hell how utterly utterly crappy and awful. I'm so sorry. Look after yourself and take lots of time. You can't blame yourself. Look after yourself xx