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Starting a thread on Perimenopause- join me 🙃

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rainydaysamonday24 · 24/11/2025 22:58

Hi!
starting a thread on Perimenopause in the aim to share stories, tips, experiences and symptoms.

Me: 47 yrs, periods still v regular - 24/25 day cycles. Feel like my peri symptoms began a year ago however. Have had night feelings of heat, rather than sweating as such! Aches and pains, lower back was bad last year.
With periods still regular I’m wondering if HRT is too soon.
i also don’t want to start HRT - rather to keep going with diet and exercise. Have taken up swimming and that has improved joints and general fitness.
However! Feel like I need to get a blood test to see where I stand!

So new to all this…need help!

Please share your stories….

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Morepositivemum · 04/05/2026 05:55

MILLYmo0se

Thanks! Will ask about that too!

medusawashere · 04/05/2026 19:25

Can I join? I started having peri symptoms at 34. On Evorel Sequi at 40. Now 41. The HRT has been great! The Conti fortnight knocks me for six sleep wise, but I feel much less emotionally compromised in general.

If it helps, here's a bit of a timeline of what I experienced in case anyone else is wondering if what they're experiencing is peri:

Age 33: Increased anxiety and exhaustion in the afternoons. Periods slightly less regular by one or two days each time.

Age 34: Periods suddenly two days in length and super heavy, way heavier than before. Anxiety increases to the point where I started taking Fluoxetine, which helped for a bit.

Age 35: Am diagnosed with PMDD as I am starting to feel suicidal during my pre-period week. Increased medication and signed off work for two weeks to let it kick in.

Age 36: PMDD is stabilised by medication and LOADS of exercise, as well as cutting out sugar. It's still very, very bad but manageable and I can plan my life around "hell week".

Age 37: I start missing one or two periods but am still able to manage the PMDD with the exercise. Still on the tablets

Age 38: I notice that not even Increased medication and crazy exercise is helping the monthly depression and anxiety attacks now, and I am in loads of pain when the period comes. It starts impacting my life to the point where I can't leave the house during the heaviest days (still two days long)

Age 39: In desperation, I wean myself off the medication because I want to find out what's really going on. I've never felt so raw and depressed in my life. I am also forgetting things right, left and centre. One day, I momentarily forget how to tie my shoelaces and become convinced I have dementia.

Age 40: The depression gets really bad and I start feeling like I don't know myself any more. I cry A LOT and the monthly pain is unbearable. After a period of depression where I spend a whole week crying, I finally get through to my GP who diagnoses perimenopause and suggests it's been happening for some years. By this point, I'm having hot flashes and not sleeping. I still manage to pass my driving test and jump out of a plane, so things were achieved.

Age 41: Still hotter than usual but I am getting on with it. I love the patches. Would recommend HRT to anyone. I'm not the emotional roller coaster I was. No depression. I am on only one tablet per day now. I

I hope this helps.

blueskyview · 07/05/2026 19:34

Hi, I have been on evorel patches for nearly two weeks, tomorrow I need to start the utrogestan. Does anyone take it vaginally? The doctor said I can as am worried about side effects. But what do I do, just stick them up as far as possible? Presume it needs to be at bedtime so they don’t just slide out…

DorothyWasRightTho · 11/05/2026 18:06

Finally managed to speak to my GP about this today and felt pretty dismissed straight away. I sat down and said I wanted to talk about hormones and she laughed and said you are so young. 🙃 Asked lots of questions about my periods, I didn’t manage to talk at all about brain fog, fatigue, libido or my mood and she didn’t ask at all about mental health. She said lots of women have symptoms of peri such as joint pain and they know it’s caused by peri so they just ignore it. She’s referred me for blood tests for thyroid, iron and said she might send me for a scan to check for fibroids despite me saying my periods weren’t overly heavy. So so frustrated by the whole thing!

rainydaysamonday24 · Yesterday 08:38

Anyone have any symptoms of feeling hot in the face and flushing? Nose and cheeks? A bit like rosacea but no pimples or anything - the skin looks leathery on the cheeks 🧐

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